First post on this board; be kind gents

Instead of using the sites frequently mentioned in this board I have been experimenting on Snapchat.  

The results have been surprisingly fruitful.  

I connect with anyone that seems to be a female, once connected I see if they are in my local area, if so, I bluntly ask if they are interested in sharing content or meeting in person.  

For some reason lots of women sell content (soft or hardcore videos and pictures) and then are comfortable discussing an in person meeting after you show you have money and communicate like a normal human. Have I sent $20 to plenty of scammers or flaky women? yes. Have I had many successful BCD experiences? yes!  

Overall I feel I have the thrill of the chase and have had some good experiences at a very reasonable price (included "lost" funds).  

Maybe I missed the topic being discussed previously or this is a new angle, but wanted to share my success and see if it generates some discussion or I can get some pointers from the veterans in the group.

Most girls on snap only want to sell pics.  And no guarantee it's actually them.  They will not do video or phone call to verify.  Or tell you where they live till after you tell them.  To make it sound like they live near you.

Unless you like buying nudes (with all the free porn I have no idea why) I would avoid.

Yeah, but he seems to have a lot of success

Anytime you are able to get laid for an investment you feel is acceptable, you can call it a win.  But you imply this is a "new angle" on Sugar dating, which is the general focus of this forum.  

 
So here's some questions, please:  
1. Sending $20 (or more?) to "plenty of scammers or flaky women" sounds expensive. How many $20+ sends do you need to do before you can connect with a "creator" who meets you for BCD fun?  In the sugar world we work hard to avoid sending any money to someone we have never met face to face. Sending in advance almost ALYAYS results in a loss.  
2. When you finally connect and ultimately bang a SC girl, how much are you providing? And is it called "donation" or "allowance?"  In sugar dating, which we differentiate from hiring an escort (not that there's anything wrong with that), the general arrangement is based on recurring meetings for a set allowance.   These meetings are usually multi-hour dates, that include social time (dining, talking, etc.) as well and bedroom time.  Hiring an escort generally means a set number of hours, and all that time is for having sex.  Are these women "charging" you by the hour?  
3. Once you have met and taken her BCD, do you plan to see each other again (on a regular basis)?  As noted Sugar Arrangements tend to be ongoing, while Escorts tend to be one-offs with the potential for you to repeat if desired.  
4. Are your SC women demanding a deposit in advance, or even full payment in advance? In the Sugar Bowl, this is almost always a scammer and is to be avoided.  

 
Other questions:  
How do you vette and/or qualify a SC woman? How do you find out her location? And how close to you does she need to be to qualify as local?  

 
Final observation: Many of the SD's on this board are not tech-savvy. We are generally older, in our 50's, 60's, and 70's, though there are some "tech guys" like me here.  I'd guess maybe less than 30% of this group has the Snapchat app on their phones, let alone know how to use it - it is rather different than a text message app.  

 
Thanks again for sharing.  A win is a win! And...

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

he and others have absolutely no idea how your SC angle works.
If you have the time: might you give us a more detailed explanation as to how exactly to land girls for BCD time and the amount of money you might typically spend.
And yes, it seems few, if any of us knows how this works, so you will have to be the "professor" on this!

Cat, thanks for the thoughtful response.  

1. I wish I kept better stats on my success rate but the BCD funnel can take some work. ROUGH estimate follows. Send connection request; maybe 1 in 10 are accepted. Verify in town and interested; 1 of 5. Of that group 1 of  2 may be a scammer. It’s work but I enjoy it and I would guess for each success I am between 100 and 150 in lost funds.  
Summary of meetings since starting in November:
     1) Met twice, She had an only fans account and had GPS was too expensive for my taste and was already becoming a bit of drama. Still talk to her, but no further BCD.  
     2) Met twice; she blocked me LOL! Not sure what went wrong but I enjoyed her.
     3) Met twice; Was ready to make an arrangement and she became flaky. Sent some gifts to keep her interest, but it ended up being wasted effort. Lesson learned on my side. Cut my losses early.  
     4) Met once; wasn’t super attractive and was difficult to setup a 2nd date. I cut her off.
     5) Met twice; she escorted previously but has kid and a job now. This is something she does on the side. Would like to see her more but schedules don’t align as often as I would like.  
     6) Met 2 days ago. Has her own place and was a good fit. My first prospect I am interested in making an arrangement. Will give it a few more meetings before discussing an arrangement.  
     7) I have 3 POTs in the hopper and will keep trying to find more.  

 
2. I have been calling the gift a donation as I have not setup a regular meeting with any women at this point and the dates have been an hour or less. Rates have been between 100 and 250.  
3. I have not setup a regular plan with any of the women to this point. I have met a few twice, but the barrier for me has been no incall. I am not in a position to host on a regular basis.  
4. My typical purchase of a video is sufficient to let a lady know I am serious and no deposit has been required. The times I have paid a deposit, I keep it at $20 as well. Limited exposure should it be a scam. I have never paid fully in advance.  Most ladies have requested a meeting in public for a conversation before BCD.

Other questions:  
Vetting is purely through connecting and seeing what images they share through posts or through conversation. Location can be indicated in the profile or shared through conversation. My personal radius is within a 30 minute drive for me.  

Final observation:
I’m in my early 40s and have had to look up some acronyms that come up. As with most apps these days, I have found it pretty intuitive, but I’m also on the lower end of the age bracket.

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Euro, happy to share my lessons learned. I have gained so much knowledge through this board. It's time for me to start giving back.

It's the having to buy content first that I question.  And then how much is he spending overall per BCD including the content purchase.  Is it worth the $?

I can barely get Snapchat to work for messages. It took me hours to figure out how to set up an account and create an avatar. I did it because I had a hot prospect who seemed like she wanted to meet and we exchanged a few messages and pictures.. and then poof, her account was gone and I had no way to reach her. Oddly, I got a notification that there was a new message (maybe she wanted to send me a number) but I couldn’t see it because the account was gone. So beware.. it’s easy to disappear with Snapchat.

Ok. So you are sending money before meeting?  Never a good idea in the sugar bowl.  

Getting them to commit to allowance and BCD activities in advance is always recommended.  Don't want surprises when you are heading to a hotel.

Snap has video chat features so a video call in advance?