Re: ama,zed , impressed with answers from love goddess

Why thank you, 8x8,

and yes, of course it's proper to ask a provider to "teach you" - as long as you understand that women are highly individually wired and what may be one woman's ecstacy may be another's agony.

Beware the gent who develops ONE m.o. and believes that he has found the key to the Holy Grail. My advice on that one is to ask EVERY WOMAN how she likes it, or better yet, experiment and become a master of detecting subtleties in direction. Oftentimes, women will guide you with their hands, their bodies, in turning themselves toward you, in withdrawing from you, in facial expressions or indeed, in words, on what they like and how they like it.

One key aspect of cunnilingus is not to treat the clitoris as if it were a piece of meat or candy. You can use whatever metaphor you want. I like this one: pretend that your tongue is like a butterfly's wings, and flutter it accordingly. If the lady wants more pressure, she'll say something, or perhaps pull your head toward her vagina with her hands. And then go from there.

Mind you, the fun part with the provider will be that you can experiment with how and when to apply pressure, again, while realizing that your SO may or may not be into oral-genital contact on this level. A minority of women (it varies, impossible to give exact stats) are not into it. It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with them, but simply that there are other things they prefer. Many women have extremely sensitive clitorises and any type of pressure may simply be too intense for them. Or, they may be the kind of gal who truly enjoys penile-vaginal intercourse with manual [or no] clitoral stimulation.

But in the meantime, there are only advantages to becoming more exposed to various types of sexual behavior, so if your wallet and your psyche allow it, by all means, take mental notes and become a serious student of not only DATY, but female configurations in general and female orgasmic capacity in particular.

Check out the link and you'll see what I mean,
the Love Goddess

-- Modified on 11/15/2008 10:24:18 AM

give me instructions and they always been happy to.