This one caught me off guard a bit and I have to say it was well executed. I didn't bite though.

I matched with a woman on Seeking and had some good exchanges on and off the site, she seemed rather genuine and seemed to know the city. She made no mention of allowance and when I asked about her expectations, she just said: "I love being pampered and looking beautiful for the man I’m seeing."

We agreed to meet, and I figured the allowance discussion would come later. After we agree on a time and place, she says.. "BTW I'm getting my nails done, and would appreciate if you treated me." When I decline, she says she's never gone on a first date without the man paying for her nails and she saw it as just a small favor... Sorry. I didn't bother to ask how much she wanted.

I've heard about the babysitter scam and some other things, but this was pretty creative.

They always wait until I am texting her to confirm our date to bring this up. It wastes my time to do a google search on a nice restaurant/bar near where she says she lives. A lot of them don't even live in the area in their profiles. This is no big deal on SA, but I need to use my credits to message someone on WYP. I wasted my money after she tells me she doesn't live anywhere close to me. I already canceled my membership on Seeking. After 5 months, not a single BCD. Too many scammers and delusional ones with GPS in the DC area. Maybe I am too old at 65, but Sweetman is still closing the deals at 75.

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...but it's the same old story.  She wants you to send her money in advance.  I'm willing to bet that if you had asked what nail salon she uses and then said you would call them and cover your bill, she would have declined.  She was never going to spend the money on her nails, just trying to scam you into sending her some $$ then disappearing.  When anyone asks me for a "small favor" I tell them "I love pampering my SB in a mutually beneficial arrangement.  But you and I don't have that yet.  Let's meet up and see if we both like the vibe and take it from there."

In fact, I really do love to spoil my SB with small favors.  My #1 SB is a tall slim girl I've been dating now for over a year.  One of the things I've learned about her is how much she enjoys snow boarding.  So I bought her a season pass lift ticket at her favorite ski mountain. She was floored and told me how much it means to her.  It's not very expensive, from my standpoint, but quite costly from hers.  She's already expressed her gratitude in the best ways, and it has strengthened our already strong connection.  But I'd never spend $$ on a stranger, especially one who asks for it!

I suspect any last minute request for funds -- be it for nails, hair, gas, babysitter, anything -- is a scam. I agreed once to "babysitter" only to be upsold to "gas," which I declined and thereby internalized my lesson.

 
Recently a chick asked for $750 for "extensions." WTF? I silently let her sit on that for a while. She's a 20yo petite Latina (who dresses like Audrey Hepburn when we go out) who gave it up for free three times in Manhattan including overnight. I really do need to do something for her. After the silence, she texts, "OK, 500." I think she'll take 400, but if not, OK. She's been a good girl.

You are to be commended for observing SD Rule #1:  Never send money to anyone you have not yet met face to face. Ever!  

 
I've got similar stories of course. One of the most egregious was a POT who told me she lived local to me (within 5 miles) and agreed to a M&G for lunch at Noon at an upscale French bistro at the local mall.  We swapped confirmation texts for 3 days until the M&G date. I texted her that morning at 10 am, no reply. I texted her again at 11:15 am, no reply. I drove to the bistro, checked 15 minutes early for my reservation and texted her again at 11:45, Noon, and 12:10.  No replies. I sent one more at 25 mins after Noon that I was ready to head home and move on.  She finally replied - I'll paraphrase the conversation.  

HER:  
- Oh, sorry, late night at work, I just woke up
- I need to get ready
- It's about a 40-minute drive (because she lives 20 miles away by the beach and there's only one main road._
- So how about meeting at 2:00 pm? (Two hours late!)  
- Then:  Oh yeah, how much will you be giving me for my time, Hon? I usually get at least $200 for lunch.  
ME:  
- no reply

 

BTW, there are SB's who do have real issues. Once you have an established arrangement, she may ask you for extra money for a legit problem. Up to you if you want to fund it but keep these concepts in mind:  
1. SB's are NOT problem solvers - duh.  
2. Once they have a nice SD in hand, they hope that all problems can be solved with cash - your cash.  
3. But you are a problem solver and can help her find solutions at lower cost-but probably more effort (by her).  

 
Example:  
SB: I need $500 to make my car payment
SD: Why don't you have enough cash to pay?
SB: Actually, I'm 2 months late and they want to repo it.  
SD: How much do you owe on the loan and how much is the payment and what's the interest rate
SB: -- gives you the data --
SD: That car is new enough to refinance at a lower rate for a longer time. You will end up with a lower payment.  
SB: I don't know how to do that
SD: Don't worry Babe, I'll show you - right after I make my own "deposit" (impish grin).  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

One of my A-list SBs is a sexy college student.  She was in a ballroom dance class and there was an 80yo guy there, who she immediately moved in on.  When asked why, she replied, I got wet for him!  So there are def some young women who simply prefer older men.  It's a fact.  Yes, I am still closing deals at 75 and hope I've got many more years left! At a mere 65, you've got nothing to worry about regarding age!

I've got several ladies contact me claiming to someone famous or quasi famous. Not sure what the end game is because I never paid much attention.