There's this particular provider I've been seeing for 3+ years and quite frankly I think I'm just about ready to move on.

At first things were really great, but it now appears to me she has become completely jaded with the business. I'm not sure she's even aware that she gives off a faint "jaded vibe ". When we get together together we screw like bunny rabbits, but I feel just beneath the surface there is a seething anger against her clients and perhaps maybe me too. She has told me some not so good stories about some of her clients.

I've always treated her very well and with respect. I've never asked a provider to do anything I would not want done to me. I sense perhaps some deep unresolved man issues. She has told me several times that she's only able to orgasm with me and rarely orgasms with her other clients...my BS on HIGH.

She calls me once a week, sometimes twice a week. During the summer, her calls to me were very persistent and a bit desperate to be quite frank. Lately, I've been telling her, I'm out of town, when I'm not.

I've found another lady, it's more of a sex buddy relationship, she's more fun, our time together is much more relaxed and the sex is great.

So please, Love Goddess how do I end this politely without any anger or bitterness on her part.


BTW...I'm through seeing Full time providers. I'm going to be actively seeking out sex buddy type relationships instead. IMHO, it's so much more fun.

Yeehaa, giddyup1979,

Congrats to finding another lady fuckbuddy! Meanwhile, you have decided to give the first one her walking papers. Well, I've been known to be the Bitch of Boundaries, so I don't see any reason for why you shouldn't be able to make the dismissal process polite, yet swift.

You should call her and tell her the truth. That for now, you are through seeing providers (you don't have to get into a discussion of what full-time versus part-time really means). And that's all. If you want to give her a dose of veneer, you'll tell her that "if things change," you'll give her a call. Beyond that, you don't owe her anything - no detailed discussions, no explanations, nothing.

If she gets bitter or angry, that has nothing to do with you. That simply means she's not able to separate business from feelings, which is not great if she has decided to provide sexual services for a living. But none of that, including her moods, her stories or her life is really your problem. You were there as a good client, you paid and you played. Beyond that, it just gets all mucky for no reason other than people abandoning their boundaries.

Now go make that call and be a free man, please,
The Love Goddess

You are not her personal ATM.  She is really crossing the line by calling you at all, unless you gave her permission to.  In life, you are only responsible for yourself, and any children you may choose to have.
However much we may be fond of some of our lady friends...  and it's easy to become emoptionally attached to someone we have great sex with...  they are independant persons with their own will & making their own choices.  You are not responsible for her life choices including her profession.  
You may tell her anything you choose...  that you've stopped playing.  What ever.  Then block her number or change yours.  Shut off your play phone.   The kindest thing is to break contact completely.  
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I was seeing a young lady for awhile whom I clicked with rather well. I even gave her carte-blanche to set me an appt.every other week. Then she got wierd. Rates changed three times in a month. I wasn't grandfathered. She simply said "I'm worth it". I moved on. Recently,she called me to have a friendly chat(a schmooze really).When she discovered I had no intention of returning she told me to fuck myself. If I could do that,why would I need anyone other than myself.

What happened here was that she attempted to abuse our relationship and take advantage of me.

Right now she is in desperation mode. Pics down,new ID,bad reviews yanked...yada..yada

Or "find them, f#$k them, feed them, forget them". Quote stolen from another  hobbyist.

Find 'em, feel 'em, fuck 'em, forget 'em.

Admittedly one of my favorite sayings

The Love Goddess

Love that one....

This is a business and the customer decides to purchase or not. For a lot of us there is an emotional content to this hobby, but this hobby is a business.  She tried to take advantage of you and you made a purchase decision, you walked out.

I wish there was someone now that I would feel comfortable with that agreement.