For those who play in the sugar bowl - do you use the same email address that you use for hobbying?
I am curious what a potential SB may think if they realize that their SD is also a hobbyist yet alone a frequent hobbyist? Have you ever told a SB that you are also a hobbyist? Reaction? I guess the SB would have to have a friend (hobbyist or provider) who has a TER a/c to figure it out all by herself (i.e. a friend who has a TER a/c who can search by a hobbyist's email address). Is that right? Thanks for your help.I have a long-standing email that I have used for over 20 years for all of my "civvie" world activity. And I have another email, from a different provider for all of my "naughty" world activity. That extends to social media as well. Basically, I have created another persona for my hobby, sugar, reviews, and related activity.
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Even with that separation, I never volunteer to an SB anything about my hobby time, or my strip club fun, or online activity like reviews and more. If she asks, I will be honest, if not comprehensive in my answer. Some of my SB's are facinated (or at least they appear to be) by my stories of sex with various women all over the world. Some not so much. Note that when I do discuss such activities, it's always in the past tense, suggesting it was before my sugar relationship, as opposed to yesterday (which is more accurate).
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As to what a SB may think if they "found out" about my hobby life, I think it's highly unlikely, at least with my rotation of SB's. If they should happen to have a "friend" who knows me from hobbying, or they "find" me on a site like TER, then I'd expect that the SB would necessarily also be in or very close to the hobby life as well, and as such, not really surprised or worried. They'd have a tough time trying to shame be for banging hookers for money when by doing so they'd be admitting they fuck multiple guys for cash as well, especially since I'd be banging HER for money.
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Flip this around for a little perspecivte as well. Do you think any of the pro providers you see think you are NOT having sex with other providers, SB's, GF's/wives, bar hookup skanks, co-workers, and even bi-guys on the "down low" in addtion to her? Think again.
In the bowl you don't use emails.
After a few messages on the SA site, you switch over to texting to coordinate the M&G.
And then after your BCD success, to communicate with her regularly.
Hey Pole - somewhat related question... Is it bad to talk allowance amounts on SA? I have done that regularly in the past with potential SB's (instead of over text) and the Site has not issued me any warnings. I definitely stay away from mentioning ppm, per other warning on this board... but I didn't know if SA was starting to crack down on other discussions also? If so - I may move to texting quicker than I have in the past. Thoughts?
No, despite the warning to stay away from ppm everybody STILL DOES IT.
I always include a disclaimer in case the chick gets pissed and had decided to report me.
OTOH, the more talk you have about financials so early, the more chance the girl is a semi-pro, or at least a SA mercenary-type lol
Girls who want to move to text almost immediately tend to be more semi-pro than not.
Of course, these days I'm starting to become more jaded and have difficulty distinguishing semi-normal girls from semi-pros, or flat out pros!
I’m with you. I’ve become a little jade and am finding it hard to differentiate myself. I’m seeing a lot of profiles these days that are short on info, either saying NSA or platonic only (wtf), and want to meet right away.
The last three girls to contact me are 10/10, 9.5/10 and 9/10 on the TER scale
Want: 500/600/500...I'm in PHX so all very high.
My brain is totally wasted.
Think I just fuck all three and damn the money!
Starting to lose control - lol
I will take your word about their looks, but how can you call all three a ten in performance unless you have actually fucked them? I suppose we could chalk it up to "My brain is totally wasted" lol, but dude still...
Personally unless it's for an overnight I don't ever go that high with SB's but that's because I am in Texas where there is no need to do so, but If that were the going rate around here I certainly wouldn't be going without pussy simply because I was too cheap to pay the freight. If you really think the girls are "all that" what's a few hundred bucks compared to your happiness? I say fuck all three unless you'll be skipping a car payment or shoes for your kids to do so.
That kind of cash they should be pros. I used to live in phx and I’ve had pro porn stars for that kinda dough. Pm me I’ll give you a name.
Yeah, that was basically my point, they look amazing (and yes, GaGa, I meant just appearances) and are very eager, but yet not completely so aggressive to come across as pros. They all insist in meeting in a public place and claim they really want long-term relationships.
I don't know if it's just one of those bowl ebb and flow things, but the line between semi-pros and semi-regular girls seems to be blurring a bit here. I've been around long enough to sense the difference, but with these three girls there's no overt mannerisms they've displayed other than they can't be backed down much (one did start with an opening price of 1K per meet) from their required "gift."
I've got the dough, so might just see where it goes. LOL
They will post about the 9-9 POT SB they have been talking to, they can't possibly know she is a 9 in performance if they've never met her. You were doing the same thing, and I was simply trying to encourage people NOT to give out performance ratings of women they've never had sex with.
I haven't notices any real trends where it coms to pros/semipros in the Sugar Bowl, it's more of an ebb and flow type of thing that I will see. I will see a bunch of pros/semipros for a while and then there will be a run of many women looking for something long term and then back again. I don't see any rhyme or reason to it, it just kind of runs in streaks for what I can see.
If the money doesn't really mean that much to you, and you think any of them are really "all that" why deprive yourself over a few bucks? I just don't like to send the wrong message to anyone I plan on seeing regularly that they have found themselves a $100k a year gig with me.
But it's not likely that a woman would ever see my email address unless I give it to her. On TER the message system goes by your screen name, so they never see your actual email address. Same on SA. This is one reason I prefer to keep my conversations on SA and NOT move them to text or email.
So they wololo know you by your screen name. I choose to use the same screen name on multiple dating sites. But you could just as easily use a different one for each site. Seems unlikely any girl would figure out it's the same guy.
And I often tell my SBs about the Hobby world. They are always fascinated to learn about it. I've never had a negative reaction. But also like Herb, I tend to imply that my Hobbyist days are behind me!
But mainly because my main google account tends to be logged in on different computers and devices. The hobby account is only for the hobby phone and incognito mode.
I had one past sugar baby get pretty pissed when she found out I also saw prostitutes. I actually told her during our meet and greet and at the time she didn’t mind but later she forgot and I guess she realized I wasn’t making that much time for her.
Since then, I don’t really talk about hobbying unless she’s a semi pro or stripper and is already close to that world.
I have my real email addy. Never use it for anything but legit emails. Then I have an email addy for Sugar Babies, an email addy for Pro's, and an email addy for FWB's. They are all on auto forward to my SB email addy which is most active. Just have to remember to respond from the correct email addy. Made that mistake with an old FWB and I'm sure it set off red flags.