It hasn't happened yet, but it may: how do I gracefully decline a client's request that I use the latex condoms he brought? I get blisters within minutes if I use latex, so I always have the polys - Lifestyles and Durex - with me. So far my clients haven't objected to my having them. But, if I meet with a client who wants me to use "his brand", would I be out of line to simply thank him for his foresight and then tell him I can't use latex?
Also, I've had female condoms used in me. I don't mind them. But since I can't bend enough to put it in myself, the guy needs to know how to put it in correctly (lol they get to put their fingers in me that way). It can be a bit of a struggle for him. Most clients don't want to work that hard. If a client insists on using them, how do I make it fun for him to put it in me without point-blank telling him he'll need to put it in?
Dear joleneineugene,
In this case, I believe honesty is by far the best policy. Many people are allergic to latex; this isn't some sort of rare condition and you have every right and privilege to state your condition in this case. Imagine a client who does use latex and then sees you blistering? That's enough to send him over the edge if he's the nervous sort. So you best tell him that you are allergic and that you need to use polyurethane condoms. No one wants a case of blisters involved in the sex act!
As to the female condoms and the client laboring to insert them - simply tell him the truth; you can't bend enough to put one in, and would he please assist you in this delicate task? I can't imagine a client declining without giving it the old college try - after all, doesn't he want to enjoy the fruits of his labor?
How do you make it fun? That depends on the client. If he's the type to furrow his brows and concentrate in order to get the condom in just right, then just lay back and let him know that whatever he's doing down there feels goooood. If he's the giggly, nervous type, then giggle right along with him while gently telling him how well he's doing. Everyone likes praise and encouragement under pressure - just let him know how grateful you are for helping you in this delicate task.
Enjoy the fingering,
The Love Goddess
If the only reason you want the clients to insert the female condoms for you is because you can't bend that way; I know of a few ladies that have told me they insert the female condoms with the help of a dildo. They have also told me the clients like that because they get to watch her do it and it is a bit like watching her masturbate.
As for the female condom, it seems that I saw somewhere that you could insert them using a dildo. I can't imagine any client not jumping at the chance to use a dildo on you. Of course I wouldn't mind inserting it with my finger either. I know I would be glad to assist you with it.
Is there any data regarding comparative STD protection on female condom, polys vs. Latex ?
As one who customarily brings my own prefered condoms, I TOTALLY respect the lady's right to decline to use condoms I've supplied... for any reason. I place them on the bedside table & give her a chance to check them while use the bathroom & wash my hands. On my return, if you were to give me a big hug & say softly... "Thanks but we can't use yours because I'm allergic to latex" but "I have an assortment of poly"... as you lead him to the bed. I can not imagine to any guy objecting. The key in my mind is to have a selection to get the best fit...
I think you are wise to consider the likelihood that the condom issue will eventually come up & be prepared to deal with it.
I agree that the dildoe applicator is a great idea & can be incorperated into the play... rather than being a break in the action.
Best Wishes,
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I began bringing my own condoms after I was enroute to a Fav lady's hideaway... and she called me back & asked me to pick some up. (She offered to reimburse me for them! I did not acept reimbursement, of course.) So I got off the highway & had to search an unfamilar neighborhood to find a store & then had little selection. The resulting time loss meant I was late... it did not matter but it might have.
Since then, I have arranged to have a sealed 3 pack with me on dates... I leave any left overs behind. My current prefered is Lifestyles ultra thin... I seem to have better luck completing with them, which is why I chose them.
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i have had exactly one client bring his own condoms. and in the case of that one client, i explained very politely that i was only comfortable using my own condoms, of which i have a great assortment. He seemed somewhat taken aback, but had no objections.
so perhaps the issue won't even come up for you, but if it does it is easy to handle smoothly and without causing any offense. i am not sure however if i were you that i would explain that i had an allergy to latex...what if a client brought non-latex condoms? my own policy is very cut and dry...i don't use outside condoms, period, no matter if they may be of the same brand or style i purchase myself. it is a safety and peace of mind issue, which goes beyond my allergy to spermacides and lubricants used in many condoms.
it is my belief that any man who has even a modicum of respect for you will not have any issue with you politely declining to use his condoms.
I love Trojan Supras and have never had a guy decline (feedback has been amazing, actually, because alot of men don't realize that *they* also have a latex irritation). I just matter of factly put them next to the bed "just in case".
I guess if he would want to use his latex brand, I'd just tell him that I'm terribly allergic to latex. I don't think that's out of line - some people are allergic to certain lotions and cosmetics, some are allergic to latex.
I've used female condoms, too. You can get them in bulk and relatively inexpensively off Amazon ![]()
I guess... if someone were putting a female condom in you... teach him where your cervix is, and then lube it up and guide him to put it in... that would be hard! Hope that any penetration would adjust it... would maybe using a toy to help insert it make things easier?
I've taken my own condoms; however, it was one of several prefered brands that she liked--I asked. I also took my own lube, KY Intrigue, because I didn't like the lube she had. I didn't coerce her to use my lube, but did explain why I like my brand better. She tried my KY, and it's now her favorite. Would I have been disappointed if she hadn't tried it? Probably. However, it's her body and her choice as to what goes in it, so I would have understood if she had declined.
I did leave the condoms and KY with her.
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