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SA is now deleting messages after 180 days!
sweetman 93 Reviews 932 reads
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I was kinda heartbroken today when I went back to revisit some of my older SBs and discovered all our lovely correspondences have been deleted from the site. Damn!  Wish I had known as then I would have printed out and saved many of them.  Here's a copy of the Support Ticket I just sent to SA Admin:

 
I've had Sugar Arrangements that went from first online contact to first actual date in just 24 hours!  But that's the exception, not the rule.  I usually find that a much longer time frame is common.  In fact, one of my most significant, sweet and meaningful long term arrangements began only after 2 years of exchanging messages on this site! So I find your new policy of deleting messages after only 180 days to be frustrating and really saddening.  I have lost volumes of messages I exchanged with some lovely people over the years. That includes some SBs I've dated and hope to date again in the future plus some I've been corresponding with off and on for a long time but have not actually met as yet.  I like to go back and re-read the entire message exchange before meeting someone, now that's not possible.   One of the beauties of Seeking is that it's NOT Tinder!  We don't need to "hook up" instantly.  We can take our time to become truly comfortable with each other before moving things along and creating our arrangement.  That may well take more than a mere 6 months, as it has done many times in the past for me.  This website is less valuable to me if you delete messages after only 180 days.  I suggest at the very least you send an email to each member notifying them that such and such a message stream is about to be deleted.  Give 2 weeks notice at least. That would give us a chance to copy and paste it somewhere else or print out hard copies.  Better yet, change your policy and don't delete anything ever, even if that means upgrading your storage capacity.  Best of all would be if you could PLEASE restore the messages I have lost, at least temporarily, so I can print them.

bassrat51118 reads

I had a SB that I had been chatting with several months ago (5 ish). While some of them seemed to have disappeared, they showed up when I did a refresh on my mobile device.

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sweetman101 reads

5-ish months ago is not 6.  All messages over 6 months old are gone.  At least they are for me.

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bassrat5180 reads

Lol, I said 5 ish because I couldn’t remember the exact time frame, just knew it was long ago.

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Blarharse141 reads

Dude, I loathe that entire site. It's designed in such a shitty amateurish way that using it is like running with a tricycle tied to your knees.  

I'm not surprised that they are deleting messages. It's purely an attempt to save money on stored data. And the ridiculous thing is that the text messages only require a tiny bit of storage. We're not talking about HD video or even photos. They could easily create a rule where they delete messages sent to/from deleted or deactivated accounts, but not live accounts. I'm sure most of the really old messages are from inactive accounts, but the fact that they aren't drawing this distinction is a sign of utter idiocy on their part.  

I could give them a list of 10 easy fixes for their site which would make the UX much smoother and more efficient. But they designed it like a complete piece of crap and it's probably all spaghetti code at this point, anyway, and changing it would be nearly impossible without scrapping it all and rewriting the entire site.

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sweetman119 reads

I agree the site is very poorly written and executed.  And they keep fucking with it and making it worse!  Don't even get me started on their search engine and how messed up that has been lately.  All I can say is that since SA was the first and is still the best established site for Sugar Dating, I've been able to find tons of sweet female companionship there.  Guess I should'nt bitch about the site.  But still....

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mrfisher108 reads

that whenever a change is made to it, and they always have changes, the result is a worse website.

I have a hard time thinking of any that ever improved.

Now the question is:  Why should that always be?

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GaGambler141 reads

Of course you probably prefer BASIC system that runs your Commodore 64. lol

 
I have to especially agree about TER websites, TER Classic was superior in almost every way to each "improved" version that has come out since.

 
OTOH, I do kind of prefer my current I Phone to my first "car phone" that I bought in 1984 that ran on a forty pound battery that was installed in my trunk and cost me over $4,000.  

 
As for SA, I am willing to cut them some slack as they try to keep from running afoul of the new FOSTA/SESTA laws. That doesn't mean I like the changes, only that I understand what they are up against.

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mrfisher117 reads

It actually had a dial (not a keypad)!  You had to contact a mobile operator, who opened a line, then you dialed your call.   Charges were $5 plus $1.50 minuted from the time you got dial tone.  Take a gander at it.  

The interesting thing is that the hardware is constantly improving, but the software or at least the design of websites keeps getting worse.   Somethings got to give sooner or later.

I like the fact that my iPhone (Yes, I actually have one now.) can get decent internet service, etc.   I do miss the mechanical keyboard that my old Motorola phone had.  I'll live though.

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impposter109 reads

Growing up, my family had mobile communications in an advanced form of portable smoke signals.  No longer stuck in a one location like traditional smoke signals, you could let people know you were "on your way" or "almost there" with a couple of taps on the gas pedal. The networks weren't as extensive back then as they are today, so you could only use it locally, depending on the weather.  
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Even today, I still see some people using those old-fashioned but always reliable messaging devices when I'm driving around town or on the highway.

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coeur-de-lion83 reads

mobile phone looked like in the early 80's.  But I swapped it out as soon as they were available with a digital keypad.  It was actually a radio-phone that used a local a ship-to-shore frequency, so there was zero privacy.  We were always careful not to talk about where we were putting the bodies.    

 
It could also be entertaining eves-dropping on new guys that had not figured out yet that it was a "party-line" and there were other people on the same frequency.  Eventually, the operator was able to switch you to a frequency that was "somewhat", but not completely, private.  She would give you a frequency that was not in use, but the phones could scan for an available frequency, and so it was still possible for others to listen, or even comment, on your conversation that was underway.  

 
We were compelled in business dealings to create a language code so others would not know what we were referring to, or else just tell the other party you will contact them with details from a land line later.  I often wondered if this is where the mob guys came up with the idea of saying, "Did you take care of that thing?"  "What thing?"  "You know, that thing.  That thing we talked about."   Lol

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mrfisher119 reads

But you are right.

One day while in my dentist's chair he told me that he overheard my boss and I talking shop on his mobile phone recently.  Good thing we weren't hobbyists then or who knows what might have been the result.

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lester_prairie104 reads

Auto deleting old messages is a good way to eliminate evidence that might be used against someone by LE.

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coeur-de-lion104 reads

Traditionally, LE did not show much interest in SD/SB relationships, because its hard to prove that it NOT a real ongoing "love" relationship.  A lot of guys in real relationships help out their girlfriends, and these couples oftentimes come to have real feelings for each other.  Inasmuch as a trafficking claim on an SB is ludicrous, there is no place else for LE to go to make an effective prosecution of a SB or SD unless its with a sting on one side or the other.  Once a couple is on a regular basis, even though the guy is helping her with living expenses, LE has nothing to constitute a crime and therefore no case unless they want to change the law and then go after every unmarried BF/GF relationship where the guy is helping her out financially.  

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Myskyns99 reads

Click on the gear icon and select Archive Message, its a per person selection not global.
I’ve had good lunch going through older messages of SB’s I never connected with and after a few months they seem to respond.  Most be the onslaught of messages they receive when they first develop a profile.

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sweetman109 reads

All archived messages more than 6 months old have also been deleted.

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PolePosition142 reads

But does anyone here have the definitive explanation as how to know if a girl has blocked you/deactivated her account/been removed by SA?  And, the part about SugarBaby vs. her normal name?
I'm aware you can look at bottom box in the messaging, but it's saying basically the same under a couple of different scenarios.
I mean, has SA ever posted a table/blog about this?
Oh, btw, the search function by user name seems to work again.

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Blarharse87 reads

Here's what I know. When a SB blocks you, the message says that she may have deactivated or deleted her account or blocked you. This is obviously to soften the ego blow that comes when a SB just doesn't want to see or hear from you.  

When a SB deactivates her account, however, it says specifically that the account is no longer active. I know this because two of my SB's deactivated their accounts and I saw the change in near real-time.

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