Hello LG,

My SO has indicated that she would like to have a vibrator.  She's in her 40's.  Relatively conservative when it comes to sex, but when she's in the mood, enjoys it greatly and usually is able to achieve an "O" with me either through my fingers, orally, or sexually.  She seems to want to add another dimension to our lovemaking as well as heighten the experience.  I have an ATF that uses them, and I find them to be a welcome addition to the sessions.

I would doubt that my SO would like anything to phallic, such as the rabbit or others.  I also think she would like me to be able to use it on her, as well as herself.  Lot's of choices out there, but I thought you might have some good perspective on selecting or recommending one.

Thanks.

Aaah, frankbama1961,

Vibrators are like good perfumes...very, very individually chosen and enjoyed! What works for one person may not at all work for another. I don't like promoting one site over another, but in this case, I do suggest visiting the website attached. They've been around since the '70s and are "sanctioned" by many sex therapists. Your SO and you will have fun just looking at the webpages and choosing something together. Why not make a sexy activity out of the browsing itself? Who knows what that could lead to? Not to mention when the gift comes in the mail, discreetly wrapped.

The whole project seems delicious, from start to climactic finish,
the Love Goddess

Is there a way to strap on a vibrator to some OTHER spot besides the standard strap-on-kit that goes over the groin?

I'd like to please my lady with a hands-free vibrator but wouldn't mind straping onto my .... chest, arm, leg, face, etc

I'm not an engineer, WaterBoys,
Unfortunately I don't think I can be of much help here. There are so many different configurations for vibrators out there. Maybe other posters have some ideas?

Stumped, alas,
the Love Goddess

I've used various versions of the vibrating cock ring with fairly good success...
I've used the disposable ones from durex and elixa(trojan), as well as one with replaceable batteries that go into a small bullet vibe which is attached to the top of the cock ring.  It's a little bigger vibe than the disposables, but it's also variable speed.

1. Is it true you can get "addicted" to vibrators--or I should say, desensitized-- and not be able to come any other way?  2.  Do some men feel a little threatened by them in the bedroom (or upstaged?)  I could see how that could happen.

Hmmm...D_4_u,

Habituation is not the same as addiction, but..if you get so turned on by vibrators that you ignore the rest of the sexual spectrum and its ability to turn you on, then yes, I would say that you eventually "lose" your skills in other departments. Remember that your brain is your most important sex organ. Both practice of what you do know and exploration of what you don't, all contribute to a more expansive sexual experience. If you automatically "tune out" when something else is being done to you - or, you do it to yourself, of course - then you might be shutting off responses you would normally have.

From anecdotal material, I haven't seen that men feel "threatened" or "upstaged" by vibrators. The average guy, for better or worse, LOL, has a sexual self-image that doesn't get perturbed by the presence of a vibrator in the bedroom. Au contraire, many men find it very exciting to see their woman please herself, or see her pleased by her partner maneuvering the joystick.

On the other hand, if a woman is verbally belittling her partner and making derogatory remarks and references to the superiority of a vibrator to the real thing, that could possibly dent a man's self-confidence. But n.b. that we are talking about explicit and repeated verbal remarks, and not so much just the presence of a harmless piece of electronics. Of course, exceptions to the rule always exist in some bedroom in this world, so...

Bzzzzz ,
the Love Goddess

Call it an instance of "my mind is harder than
my dick" or whatever, but I' l like a vibrator
I can gently put up her ass that would also
penetrate her pussy and/or stimulate her
clit? Is my best bet the "Bendable" one with
a flex extension for the clit, or a simple
double-penetratin vibrator ?

Dear Mitch,
My suggestion is to bring her both and try them out! Vibrators are so personal...what works for one woman may not work at all for another.

Have fun experimenting,
the Love Goddess