This is getting old.

I went at least 2 weeks with out masterbating or looking at naked pictures of a woman.  No luck Did Cow Girl, MIsh, and Doggy style. Still no release .  It allways seems like the provider enjoys the session more then I do.  

Help Ter your my only

Dear Goldenlight,

My prescription for this is no sexual release or stimulation for 45 days. Two weeks+ may not have been long enough. In addition, the condom may be reducing sensation. Depending on your (and the provider's) risk tolerance, BBBJ or a bareback handjob by the provider may work - but only after 45 days have passed.

Another factor may be medications - antidepressants are well-known for causing anorgasmia. Not to mention performance anxiety; the more you think about ejaculating, the more difficult it will become.

Try it for 45 days and see. I bet something will happen. If not, you may have an organic condition. Retarded ejaculation is notoriously difficult to treat, but also pretty rare, particularly if you have sex after 45 days of abstaining.

I am really sorry you're having these troubles, but 14 days is just not enough,
The Love Goddess

Dear Love Goddess,

I had the same problem as Goldenlight and took your advice when you gave it in another thread a few months ago. I think that newby nervousness and problems with decreased sensitivity from using a condom made it hard for me to come.

I abstained for about six weeks and repeated with a provider that I really clicked with.

I have hobbied enough now that the newby nervousness has gone and been replaced by anticipation of pleasures to come.  When I repeated, I felt more relaxed with the lady and she was more comfortable with me.  Problem solved.

Have you seen a  doctor to rule out medical condition or reaction to medications. I know this is a touchy subject for most men but talk to your doctor.
I you are not accustomed to using a condom, this could also be part of the problem. It reduces sensitivity. With some of my regulars who have this issue we try all our favorite positions then finish with an uncovered handjob or BBBJ. If you have a regular provider, talk to her and see if this is an option. It may not be something I would do for a new client but certainly willing to work with my regulars to help them have a more enjoyable experience.

Not that I have your problem but the quickest way that makes me cum is what the asian women do. It goes like this she lubes 1 finger and inserts it in your ass and massages your prostate while shes fucking you if you dont pop quick,I would really be surprised

I never made it to 45 days, but I took her advice and limited myself almost exclusively to real women. After a couple of weeks I slowly re-conditioned my release. I had gone 50 appointments without one, and now I'm working on 20 with glorious finishes.