I’m a fan of threesomes. Kind of a big fan. But I learned a lesson about good to great threesomes long ago. If you believe that just having a threesome is just super awesome all by itself? Well, I would completely disagree with you. But you are entitled to your opinion. And, if you do feel that way, please feel free to disregard the rest of this reply.
In my opinion, everybody in the threesome has to enthusiastically want to be there if it’s going to be even as good as sex between a compatible couple. Not just “yeah, I want to be here”. But “oh yeah, let’s do this!” Anything less than that second response puts a serious damper on the whole thing (in my experience). Just having that 3rd person in the mix isn’t enough to make up for a lack of enthusiasm on the part of any one in the threesome.
I’ve had threesomes where one of the participants wasn’t as into it as everyone else. And, without exception, every time I walked away wishing that I’d either had someone else there or just had couple sex. I mean, in the moment it was still fun. But afterward I realized it was less fun than just about any good couple sex session.
In couple sex, when one party starts to disengage, you can focus on them and bring them back in without too much effort if you know them well enough and you are sufficiently compatible. But in a threesome it is different. When one person in a threesome starts to disengage it can be really difficult to bring them back in. There are ways. But they require teamwork of the two engaged parties in the threesome. And that’s a pretty advanced threesome skill all by itself.
But maybe that’s just me.
Whatever you do, be safe and have fun.