Had my prostate removed and cannot get an erection. I climax (no cum) but am somewhat limited to fingers and tongue. Any ideas as to what kinky and fun things I might be able to enjoy? Of course the provider needs to enjoy it also............

Hello, G123,
It seems that you still have sensation in your family jewel(s), even though erection might be difficult to achieve. There are providers out there who just love to give BBBJ's, erections be damned. If you inform them of your specific issue, they will happily suck away, as long as you enjoy the activity itself. Then there's good ole' 69, of course. And anal rimming, if you should be so disposed.

Yes, you are right - most of this involves fingers and tongues. But why not get some sex toy, like a juicy vibrator, and use on your lady of the moment? While she fellates you? She can also tickle your penis with a feather.

The most important thing is that you do climax. In fact, you may be doing some providers a favor by NOT having an erection. Yes, I know, it sounds strange, but some women, providers included, may actually prefer endless foreplay and a minimum of penile insertion. Some women do not climax vaginally at all. They are 100% clitoral, and for them, a guy equipped with fingers and tongue like you is the ultimate dreamboy.

Just as an aside: In my professional travels, I have observed the whole ordeal with vacuum penis pumps etc. Quite frankly, my impression of it was a 'big Eros killer.' Unless it's very important to you to present an erection, I'd stay away. It looks oddly mechanical, almost brutal, and the effort is anything but romantic. So I'd say, enjoy your clean climax for all its worth. Providers will too, I guarantee it.

Come together,
the Love Goddess

At 55 my erections aren't what they were at 18, so although I often am fine sometimes I'll visit a provider and not have the erection I'd like - then I get nervous about not having it and you know the rest. But the last time this happened with a favorite provider she gave me a wonderful long BBBJ and although I never came it felt very much like cumming. I also got to feel that way for a LONG time, so in some ways it was better than the usual intense few seconds. I wonder if this is the same thing as G123 experience?

If I understood how to have this happen at will I might sometimes chose it over regular cumming.

I think now, that it's just better to go into things and just assume that you're not going to have an erection. The first time I saw this particular provider, I couldn't get hard with the BBBJ, even on Cialis. So, the next time, I go to her, I figure it will be the same, but it wasn't. I wish I knew why, but on the second visit, I got pretty hard in her mouth. I thought maybe it was my imagination, until I felt her deep throat me. I can't figure out why it was different this time

That is true the climax is often more intense and often goes on for longer. Not like minutes but close...........It really is intense, but not necessarily better for my partner..

Flacid but excitable!    I think maybe although a small and limp penis it would be considered a very large clit!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes the big head gets in the way, sometimes it helps.

I would agree with all of that. intercourse is wonderful but an erection is not the be all and end all.  also there are erogenous zones above the belt, verbal, and massage and none of that has anything to do w/an erection but are still very, very exciting.

I too had my life saved by having my prostate removed.  In some ways life is much better.
a) Most lovers really enjoy the alternatives and have had some really terrific orgasms.  I've been told "best ever"  -- for what that's worth.  One gets real good with fingers, mouth and toys.  And patience.
b) It's slowly coming back -- bigger and harder every day -- it takes the help of a "friend."
c) I can't "O" vaginally or orally but start that way then finish by somebody's or my) hand and those orgasms are better than ever -- YES I mean better than ever.  MUCH!!!!!
d) While pills help a bit they don't get me that hard (yet).  BUT the injections (trimix) do a wonderful job -- I mean wonderful.  Diamond cutter for an hour.  My Doc says they will work on anyone.  No they don't hurt at all!!

Good luck -- please post results.

Bloggs

Go see a good urologist.  Try injection therapy, it works on most and is not as scary as it sounds.