We're this the other way around, you'd be sending me the same warnings. It looks like you are sticking your dick in a blender.
1. Tons of drama here.2. She's bouncing from pimp to pimp possibly. Between the boyfriend and roommate....
3. Baby is staying with parents or parents took custody since she's unstable?
4. She's clearly still fucking the baby daddy who either is her pimp, boyfriend, or just a fuck buddy. Any of those can get ugly.
5. Desperate financially meaning she's probably going to see as many guys as possible. And may not be strict on tests.
6. She couldn't get into real estate in SF? It's a state license. And real estate is in the shitter right now
I mentioned that I even though I was going to take a break after my 7-week trip out of the country, I found myself with an unexpected M&G after sending a message when testing the new weight field.
Here's what happened:
She's 26, Burmese (but US born), profile says 110 lbs., 5'1 looks hot, sounded sweet and communicated well.
The day of the scheduled morning M&G she texts me 2 hours in advance that she didn't sleep well (noisy neighbors) and wanted to reschedule. No problem, we set up a new day and time (yesterday). I need to pick her up, please, she has no car. She's from the north part of the state and moved to my area 2 months ago. I agreed to pick her up at an intersection near her home (she gave me her home address as well but had a need to be at a business at that intersection.
I drove to the location and immediately spotted her - very hot indeed! dressed in a tight white-ribbed "bebe" t-shit with a teasing 3-inch cut opening some cleavage. I could see the outline of her bra underneath covering very perky A/B's. Daddy Liked! Add to that her way-too-tight thin grey yoga pants displaying a great butt (I like them small and apple shaped), no VPL and Daddy Like even more!
We heading to quiet bakery/coffee place to grab a lite lunch. Here's what I noted during our conversation there and after in my car:
1. 26 years old, grew up in San Francisco.
2. 3-year-old daughter staying with her parents in SF. Baby Daddy refuses to provide support.
3. Came to LA to study for a real estate license.
4. Staying with a (she says gay) friend for no rent - but he's a passive-aggressive asshole.
5. Has worked in SF strip clubs as a dancer and has (regretfully) provided extras there. Needed the money...
6. Doesn't want to strip anymore, looking for a "hostess" or similar job but says she isn't finding any opportunities in LA.
7. Was once arrested in Vegas for.... does not want to try that again!
8. Open to all my sexual preferences and I am open to hers.
9. Not sure if she will/can stay in LA if she can't find a job and get a car.
10. Had 2 SD arrangements up north. Neither went well.
11. Told me she really likes me. I am not the typical jerk/asshole/douchebag/scammer she has been talking to.
12. Agreed that we will only start having sex (and there will be no allowance) until we swap recent negative test results.
13. She loves cats (I have 2) and is not allergic.
14. Ok to meet at my house (my preference).
15. Agreed that if she ends up moving back to SF, I will fly her to LA (about $200 on Southwest) for a 2-3 day stay at my home for dates. Frequency: Once or twice a month. She can sleep in my spare bedroom as desired when we are not BCD.
16. Agreed on allowance for each 3-day date (note: The full 2- or 3-days, not each BCD event) of $450 (brought her down from $650).
and .... now here's the twist:
17. She is 2 months pregnant by her baby daddy. Says he won't support baby #2, and she won't see him anymore, but who knows? (BTW: She's definitely keeping #2.)
My current plan:
She's leaving for SF tomorrow. Tentatively returning in 3 weeks, with fresh test results. I will book her airfare (I have a pic of her ID), and pick her up/drop her off at the airport. I will buy the tickets rather then send her the cash. Willing to risk $200 for this.
Assuming that 3-day fuck-fest goes well, I will look to schedule her every 3 weeks.
Until...well without trying to sound like a dick... until she's too preggo to make having sex "practical." (You can define "practical" any way you want.) She due sometime in January. So my total "exposure" is maybe 4 or 5 three-day dates between now and maybe November.
Worth all the effort? I'll let you know...
Any thoughts or suggestions? Anyone else gone down the preggers rabbit hole?
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Never gone down the preggers rabbit hole, but I am familiar with Southwest Airlines policies. They let you cancel almost up to the last minute. Usually you get a credit towards future flights, so it's really no risk to book the flight. If things change beforehand, you can always cancel.
We're this the other way around, you'd be sending me the same warnings. It looks like you are sticking your dick in a blender.
1. Tons of drama here.
2. She's bouncing from pimp to pimp possibly. Between the boyfriend and roommate....
3. Baby is staying with parents or parents took custody since she's unstable?
4. She's clearly still fucking the baby daddy who either is her pimp, boyfriend, or just a fuck buddy. Any of those can get ugly.
5. Desperate financially meaning she's probably going to see as many guys as possible. And may not be strict on tests.
6. She couldn't get into real estate in SF? It's a state license. And real estate is in the shitter right now
... with Netnoy. Danger, Will Robinson. Having just broken off with a hot SB of several years who I now moore fully realize was lying to me on a constant basis, I'd maybe see how the first meet goes but suspect that you, as I was, are being played. Too many red flags.
I was a broker for 30 years. I laughed when she said she's working on getting her RE license . Worst market ever.
I sense a lot of drama with her and think the lift could become heavy [pun intended] as she gets into her pregnancy further. [If she is indeed pregnant - could be a story designed to rinse you for more cash or generate sympathy or both]
I think it comes down to how many options you currently have. If your stable is empty and your batting average is poor given the low number of legitimate POTS responding to your inquiries, then as you have noted your current exposure on this Burmese SB is relatively low. A bird in the hand is worth two wishing to get into her bush. But she sounds like a lot of maintenance both emotionally and considering the physical distance. Also having her in your house overnight would be a 'no way' for me.
You didn't mention in your post whether you had sex with her yet? Her performance there would weigh in to my decision to repeat. If you haven't, the further uncertainty would place this in the maybe category. The issue here is if you pay her way and she stays with you, if her performance is poor and/or she's not much fun to be with, you're stuck with her until she leaves. There are also many 'ifs' in this scenario. You're counting on her to travel to you long distance and arrive with fresh test results [requiring her to get tested at a clinic and all that entails including a blood draw] and be prepared to stay with you for three days and go through a lot of travel machinations for relatively little PPM. That's a pretty long bet. I'd be surprised if she comes through on this.
A big plus of P4P is you have fun and go your own separate ways, she's paid to leave, so to speak. For me this is a plus, although I know many Daddies who like the ongoing visitation and like long trips and days of fun together. Not me! And many SB's also prefer to have the best of sex and get back to their lives, so this is not just a male observation. It all depends on what the two of you prefer.
If it were me I'd proceed with extreme caution on this Burmese beauty! She may be a Burmese python trying to put the big squeeze on Daddy! More likely, she'll fall short of your expectations, but if you have little expectation on outcome, it might be a fun experience at best.
Thanks for the reality check, my Brothers. After digesting your feedback, then re-reading my OP with fresh eyes, it does look like I typed it with my dick while my brain was out of the room. Perhaps my so-easy experiences on Seeking in Indonesia dulled my Spidey Senses! It literally was a point and shoot (click and play? message and meet?) environment. Sugaring there is almost as easy as ordering a pizza.
Anyway, I also took a fresh look at airline prices between SFO and BUR/LAX. I was off by a lot from my guess of $200. A round trip will likely cost $400-$450. That means my total spend before non-BDC activities will be close to $900! That is more than I give my Porn Star SBs!
So here's the new plan: Minimize my exposure and expense. I will let her know over the next few days about the airfare problem and use Primary Excuse #1 (My budget) to change the offer. I will explain that I will not be providing airfare, and when/if she is in my area in LA, we can get together for a 3-5-hour BCD date with $300 allowance (which I allow her to negotiate up to $400).
Either she will decline or accept. I'm ok with either decision... I was, after all, on a break.
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The Cat
...where do you get tested?
I go to my doctor when I get a check up. I also donate blood every few months and they test for STDs there. If you need one in a hurry, you can go to Talent Testing or any of the 24 hour places. Most cost about $100. If you are trying to hook up with a porn star they will insist on one of their testing places.
Similar to Netnoy, I use TTS (Talent Testing Services). They are one of the 2 prime labs preferred by the Porn Industry.
Sign up for free online, then you can walk in w/o an appointment. In most offices (they are US-wide), if you get your samples pulled by 3:00 pm (Mon-Sat), you will get same-day or next-day results. Notice by text and/or email. If you get a positive result, you will get an early-morning call from their RN to discuss. In some cases, the nurse can prescribe the needed meds to cure. In others, you will need to see a doctor, either your Primary doc or some other (Planned Parenthood, local clinic, etc.).
I get the "Gold Standard Panel" which includes tests for 10 different STD's $180. As mentioned, if you want to hook up with a Porn Star, having results from TTS within the last 2 weeks (industry norm) brings instant credibility. Note when you sign up, no need to list an "agent" as you are not "talent" and no need to share your results in the "PASS" system which is used by the industry to allow producers and agents to see current Talent results. Just let the lab tech know you are there for personal use.
For me, I budget $2,400 a year for monthly testing and I never skip a month. Occasionally, I will go more often if I have new SB or reason to be concerned. It's just a built-in cost of the P4P world.
But I also get tested by my primary health care provider every 90-days, as a requirement of my PrEP prescription. Those are generally free after a lab co-pay and results are published on my patient web portal next day or sooner.
I have also heard good things about a service called "STDCheck - com" but have never used them.
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The Cat
Everlywell has a 5 panel home test kit (sent off to their lab) on sale for $127. Can get them online and from Amazon. I sometime give the female kit as a gift.