Been seeing a girl off and on for the last several weeks but she's flakes twice now.

She just hit me with, I want 1k per date from now on.  We were at 500.  I told her no.  She is asking to double her rate when she has flaked twice in a row on me.  She's in for a rude awakening.  1k is far more than most SDs will even start a conversation at.  I suspect she will come back in a few weeks since I can afford 500 a week without an issue.

Smart ways to ask for an increase, talk about bills, offer some more time, drive to me, buy some extra lingerie or toys, etc.  Not say 'I should be getting'.  Make it more value for me and it's gonna be more for you.

Interesting. She doubles her expected rate, but why? Maybe she just thinks she's "worth" double what she was before, per bang. Or (more likely I suspect) she just needs or wants more money.

 
One clue is she flaked on you twice. She could have had $1k had she just kept both of those appointments (assuming you were game). But she flaked, getting zero from you while time marches on and her bills pile up. Now, in desperation, her hamster brain tells her she's now worth $1k per bang because, well, she needs $1k because she didn't keep her last two $500 appointments.

 
Don't forget, if she already has somebody who pays her $1k per bang, what does she need you for? Yet she's coming to you.

 
It's hard to turn these situations around. Stick to your guns and she may be offended and leave. Work patiently with her to help her understand the cost of flake. Pay her $1k and she'll see you less often. Or, maybe she'll bank your $1k and keep flaking and decide her "worth" is now $2k per bang because she earns $0 per flake while bills accumulate.

 
I'm really just speculating. I've never had a closely similar situation. A couple girls have meekly beseeched me for an extra $50 or $100 per meet, after several good meets, and admittedly I was giving them allowance on the low side. No problem, they proved their worth and I was happy to nudge up the PPM amount.  

 
Let us know how it turns out.

 
Rockford

I've seen this a few times over the years.  

 
Since I always negotiate around MY budget (rather than HER "worth"), this is how I have handled her request, especially when it has been so outrageous:  

 
She says: "I need to get at least $1,000 per meet."  

 
I say: "Yes you do, and I hope you find someone who can do that for you. Until you meet that guy, I'd love to keep seeing you under our current arrangement."  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

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Just curious, how old is the SB and how is her face and body to justify a 100% raise?

She's fine as hell.  I'd have brought it up, just not that much.