A little background at first. I haven't been with many women. At all. Lost my virginity at 23 and attempts at a civilian relationship ever since then have been for naught... I haven't even kissed more than two girls. Even in the hobby I've only seen one provider one time since others seem to flake out on me all the time.

Naturally I've gathered feelings of inadequacy and while I can mentally beat myself over the head to snap out of it, I wonder if I could treat the problem at it's source.

Would it be reasonable to use the hobby as a segue  into becoming a better lover? I'd wager some loss of confidence is related to me not being sure I CAN show a lady a good time. Is it fair to ask providers to be teachers? Am I just barking up the wrong tree?

fine reason for hobbying.

I'm certain that it's greatly improved my techniques and whom better to learn from than a pro after all?

Would gladly give lessons on any technique anyone asked them to.  In fact, the vast majority of them would consider it an honor to teach you.

 Obviously, the biggest reason you're not chasing as much tail as the rest of us is the self-confidence issue. Not only would an experienced provider teach you how to drive any gal right out of her gourd, but you'll gain the ability to believe in yourself as well.  That'll spill over into other areas of your life, so you'll win all the way around.

 It goes without saying that you'd have the best luck with a mature (over 35), provider who's been around the block a few times, though there are some younger ones also.  Most of these gals know exactly what it takes to please a gal, and will gladly share their knowledge with you.  Funny part is, if you find one you click with, it won't be long before you are driving her wild as well!

 Best of luck to you, it'll be the adventure of a lifetime!

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Dear Shabadu,

I believe your idea is EXCELLENT and has a lot of merit! Yes, do schedule a "teaching" session with a lovely, mature (35+) provider. I would venture to say that not only will your confidence level escalate in terms of lovemaking technique - you will also become more comfortable with just plain male-female intimate interaction. If your wallet is not completely empty, why not try to schedule a 2-hour session...or even more time? That way, you can enjoy a bona fide "date" from start to finish, with all the requisite chatting, getting to know each other, and in a more "natural sequence of events" get intimate.

I believe that by graciously and generously sharing their bodies and their wealth of knowledge, providers have much more than just carnal pleasures to give us all. The successful ones are EXPERTS at lovemaking and don't mind sharing their experiences at all.

So go for it! And let us know how it went!
the Love Goddess

One of the most rewarding encounters I've ever had was the only double encounter I've had to this point.  The learning experience occurred where I was performing cunnilingus on lady #1, and she paused and suggested that I ask lady #2 for some pointers.

Gentleman that I was, I complied with the request and learned a great deal both from verbal instruction AND observing a demonstration of advanced techniques.  Since then, I've NEVER had a lady complain about my technique in that area.

I totally agree.  LG is right.  Spend more than one hour.  Many providers enjoy "training." I had more experience that you speak of; however, I asked a provider to "make me a better lover," and she succeeded.  It was great.

Now I have more confidence, and cute girls hit on me all the time.  When you spend time with a provider that gives you the confidence that you need, a certain glow will come off, and girls will naturally come to you.

Practice makes perfect!

to use a professional trainer.

Whether you want to become fit,
or, sexually, better hit:

Ask a satisfied friend
to name her.










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I feel that with every encounter I always learn something . Pro or non pro .
To the original question..YES  you are in the right place to learn and just be str8 with the ladies you meet and they will break you in pretty dang good .
Just my .02
-Layla

Yes you too stated it very well , however, Layla I know you did not intend to be unkind or rude but you may wish to re-phrase the way you refered to mrfisher....... ROTFLMAO

Thank You
2007=27

Hows that  followme ??
Do I need to come up to Jersey and give you a spanking ???

-Layla
PS: Congrats on your new TER membership !!

It is spelt JOISEY.

Thank You

Layla ..you are way tooooooo sweet to take this crap from me .....SPANK ME ! ! ! SPANK ME ! ! !




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