Did a video M&G last night with a pot.  I'm not sure I want to pull the trigger on this one.  I'm either going to dig for more details or cut it here.  Experienced SDs chime in with your thoughts.

Mid 30s.  Super hot.  No kids.  Actually makes a lot of money and saves it.  Says she should get spoiled. Her man should pay for things so she can save money for herself.  Loves over an hour away from me and doesn't like to drive.  We compromised, she said she would Uber to about 30 minutes from me.  

She says she cannot host because she has roommates and they all agreed no men are allowed over.  This contradicts her telling me she makes about $150k a year, owns rental properties, and saves money.

Avid traveler, which might be why she has to have roommates.  Personality outside of being spoiled is good.  Open to sex no problem.  Have not discussed sex limits.  A good portion of our talk was about our pets.  

So, I'm between do I push for more of what I want or just cut it off?  She seems to be going in super high maintenance

There certainly are some yellow flags here and she may not be disclosing everything.
It is possible that she lives with roommates for convenience or that they are old friends; maybe she works for an airline and travels a lot, maybe she just broke up. And she could have inherited property.

But this is the reason you schedule a platonic M&G to figure this out. You don't have to commit to anything besides coffee or dinner and you will get your answers. Most important is chemistry and if she wants the lifestyle (the sex) she may be willing to forgo a high allowance. If her 'kink' is to be a $1k call girl, I would drop, or if she wants expensive purses.. that's my biggest turnoff. It sounds like she doesn't have a ton of experience and an SB. You should discuss financials/etc before the M&G but I wouldn't be dissuaded from pursuing based on what you've said here.

I agree with Mouche that a M&G for lunch or dinner, with zero expectations , no pressure, no obligations, is mandatory.  Due to where I live, 99% of the SBs I converse with live in the city an hour drive away.  I always tell them I'm happy to drive down to meet them for lunch.  It's a small inconvenience, and I just count it as the price of admission.  Meeting half way is not realistic, since there's nothing halfway between us except lizards and prairie dogs!  Meeting in person gives you a chance to truly see if you both love the vibe.  The conversation flows more naturally than it does on the phone, at least it does for me. Be sure to know what subjects you intend to cover before you meetup, don't forget things just cuz she's so hot looking!

It's not whether she makes 150K
But more does she suck dick to where it will be a memorable event for you!
The answer: how in the f would we know.
But have fun, brother.

But, also not invested in the outcome.

 
I agree with Mouche.  Do the in person M&G.  And, be prepared to defend your limits (financial and practical) and lack there of (sexual).  So long as you get what makes you happy, for what you are happy to give, then its all good.

The core question is about the roommate situation.  And in this case, WHY is more important than WHAT.  

 
In the greater LA area, $150k is moderately good money. Unless she is servicing a mountain of debt, she is far above a subsistence level life.  So why the roommates and why "no men" allowed? Are these roommates actually GF's, co-workers, renters, or some combination? Why does she need (or want) to do this?  

 
An avid traveler has figured out how to travel often and maintain a home base without needing live-in friends.  

 
I typically drive this kind of discussion by asking her to tell me how she manages her funds, what are her biggest expenses, and how well is she funded for emergencies. This info can give me a pretty good idea of her income, expenses, and free cash flow. From there I can talk about how I am most interested in helping her. I often talk about the difference between "needs" and "wants."  She may want a new BMW, but she probably only needs a Kia to get around town. She may need a new Gucci handbag. But she may only need a durable, functional purse (which can be found at Target or perhaps Macys).  

 
I explain to my POT's that I am all about helping her get what she needs.  But I am not interested in covering all her wants, though Daddy (and only Daddy) may decide to splurge on her from time to time.  

 
If she is still onboard after that, I'm usually ready to make an allowance offer. The range of the offer might be based on some recurring monthly expense, like car payments, insurance or even rent. I will structure it like this:  

 
"Ok, you need to cover $700 a month in car payment and insurance. If we meet twice a month and I help you with $350 each meet, you will cover your auto bills (except gas and maintenance)."   This sets out a structured baseline for negotiating. She can reject, counter or accept, but now she's thinking in terms of covering recurring expenses for her needs, rather than her aspiration for stupidly expensive crap that she doesn't need.  

 
We look forward to your M&G debrief if you decide to go that way.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

We had a M&G set for Saturday night.  She cancelled saying her period started.  We talked on the phone last night and she asked again about allowance after I mentioned she might be too high maintenance for me.

She didn't take that well.  She said when she goes out she tends to eat two dozen oysters on her own, drinks and a full meal.  So $150 for herself.  And that's what she expects every time we go out.  I told her I'm not taking her to $300 dinners every date.  She then said she expects the difference to go to her allowance then.  I reminded her of our agreement.  She said she thought that was only for the meet and greet.

She then said she's expecting a minimum of $10,000 a month.  I said that will never happen.she then said fine, $500 for an hour in the hotel.  It's too draining to spend a few hours with someone for only $500.  She also said that's what she got from previous SDs.  I then told her she should get back with them, her reply was he didn't want to get married and have kids.

I ended it there.

So, cute girl. Mid 30s.  Only one photo on her profile.  Unrealistic expectations.  No wonder she's disappointed in her lack of results.

I wonder if wanting to get married and having kids was a sincere desire of hers, or just another excuse to jerk you around.  I guess there must be some women on seeking these days whose ultimate goal is indeed marriage/kids/family.  Especially given Brandon's efforts to re-brand the site away from sugar dating and towards finding an upscale life partner.  On my profile I identify as poly/ENM, so, that filters out any who are seeking something exclusive with me.  And I always mention early in the chat that I am very happily married, so that gets rid of the others who might not have  understood my intentions. If they truly want a NSA arrangement, they are generally really happy to know I'm married and looking for something on the side.

Sometimes the best endings occur before the arrangement actually starts.  

 
Kudos for working the process and for avoiding "chasing the goal" when it's not viable.  Now you have plenty of time to pursue other opportunities.  

 
In other words, she saved you $10,000 a month!  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

She's super unrealistic. You were wise to cut her loose. Many far better and more appreciative SB's with far fewer demands and expectations. Takes work to find them but they are out there. No point in wasting time with one whose needs and expectations don't align with yours.