I’m curious as I have only tried SA and haven’t had much luck finding any legitimate SD, mostly just guys trying to get lucky with no intention on anything.
Welcome to this board. Interesting post.
Since you are listed as a provider I'm guessing you're looking for something different than that. I think you should be a bit more precise because there are so many different ideas and defintions of SDs and SBs. A rich boyfriend? Someone who takes you out 1-2 times a month. Whatever platform you use, you should try to be clear about what you want and understand there are only a small number able to deliver a consistent high allowance and the top 1% of income will seek out the top 1% in desirability. There is a spectrum from P4P escort to girlfriend and you should figure out where you want to be on that scale.
I am a provider. But I have also had a SD before, which lasted a long time, so I have been out of the loop and was wondering what alternatives to seeking because it has changed so much since I went on it.
Hi Violet. Whether male or female, I think a satisfying arrangement boils down to seriousness. How can we detect the other's seriousness, or substance, without spending too much time and effort?
Does he speak (type) in complete, literate sentences, or just grunt? Does he offer actual thoughts? Does he engage on anything other than just trying to get you BCD? Does he seem to have interests and an actual life? And if he does have a penchant for typing, does he bring it to a point? The main point being, is he specific about the next step, and what's on the table for you and for him?
I won't assert that's a universal formula, but that's how I engage ladies I'm interested in. Since I'm seeking a SB who will be a long-term match, I take time to qualify her before we meet. It doesn't take long to find out if we want to meet. A video or voice chat can speed this up or increase certainty.
There are many qualified gentlemen out there for you. Sugaring is dating, so it takes time to figure out who you want to devote time to. If you take your time and take care, I predict you'll have success.
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Most males on sites are probably trying to get free/cheap sex. Most gals on sites are trying to get money for existing.
I think SB SD relationships are a bit different, the woman isn’t getting money just to exist, she is providing a nurturing, kind, entertaining and also sexy service, that a man is actively seeking, without wanting to put in the work or not having time/energy to put in the work, to find it organically. So, it’s like a service really, mutually beneficial.
I put a ton of work, time and energy into creating great sugar arrangements. My best ones consist of sexual activity, plus so much more. We have a real friendship and an emotional connection as well as wonderful deep conversations about everything. And she gets $ome $ugar. Finding it organically has never worked for me, I have zero game. But it turns out I have very good game in the sugar bowl, so that's where I put my efforts.
I was commenting on the typical case.
Most of us here have been through the escort scene and understand that the sugar world is a different experience. I think you do too. But you face the additional obstacle of finding someone who wants that and can accept your outside activities. It’s probably a double standard but the reality..
I think the point of my post was lost lol, I was just asking for any good alternative sites to SA
Well I hang out on Secret Benefits. Did SA back a couple years ago. But don't like the monthly subscription. On Secret Benefits you pay per initiation of contact, so you can wile away the hours and not worry about a looming time limit.
I think the consensus here and elsewhere is that SA has the largest pool and is the best place despite all its shortcomings. Secret Benefits maybe but because of the system it's more important for the woman to reach out.