Re: Too long?

How considerate of you to ask jabr,

As with all sex acts, it comes down to the two individuals executing it. What's too long for one lady, may be just one minute short of the big O for another - and how frustrating would that be? Very!

As for technique, again, we have had this discussion before. Some like it soft, other like it bang-bang, and some like a mix of both..but not all the time! Wow, this makes for an arbitrary bunch of criteria doesn't it?

In all seriousness, however, my advice to you is to watch for subtle signs that the lady is beginning to tire - and be a gentleman about it. Yes, you are paying, but this does not mean that the sex needs to degrade into using and abusing. If she is beginning to reach for the lube a couple of times, chances are she is beginning to feel discomfort from latex dryness. Go ahead and make the lady's day - if you're not finished, how about a bang-up BJ or HJ with some smutty talk to go with it? Or, if you feel her "squirming a bit," or simply breaking to change position a few times - perhaps she is trying to be kind and discreet about her own discomfort?

As to "little hints," hmmm...do you mean hints to let her know when you're about to hit the jackpot? Do you really NEED to give such a hint? Most professional women are, well, professional enough to sense when it's time for a man. And besides, most men do give involuntary signs, such as that extra little heave, that looong sigh [or scream, egads the neighbors!] or maybe a sexy shudder. On the other hand, if you've been grinding about for a long time and she's starting to stare up at the ceiling, then I suppose an audible "I'm coming" would bring a sigh of relief to the beleaguered lady.

But let's hope it doesn't get to that point. A good lover is a considerate lover, payment or no payment. I suppose the "other" discussion boards have been rife with postings about how the customer is "king," etc., but I don't endorse that type of thinking at all. It may be good for when you're ordering in a restaurant, but not when you are trying to create some magic in bed. If you want that "GFE," then you'd better treat the lady as if she were a wonderful "GF." And that includes not overstaying your welcome down in little Poussayville ;-D Of course all the good boys on "our" board know such things...but it's still nice to do a reality check sometimes.

Have a greatly sexual summer,
the Love Goddess

-- Modified on 7/6/2007 7:04:12 AM

i agree with LG in that when i'm reaching for the lube, that means i'm quickly reaching my comfort limit. it's not so much a set time limit, as it is about the intensity of the intercourse itself.

as for little hints that i've had enough, i don't give any. i'm one of those providers who firmly believes in satisfying a client to the utmost...doing my absolute best, giving my all, etc. so i will tolerate some discomfort for that purpose, for a good client. i have a few clients who are even aroused by the little sighs and moans of pain i let escape...which is a win-win for everyone: he's ultra turned on, and his increased arousal brings my discomfort to a speedier finish.

for a delaying schlong?

How long can she still bend?
When should the session end?

How long should you depants her?
There's just no easy answer.

What do both of you need to screw?
Willing consent from two of you.

I think the little tap on the shoulder is the internationally recognized sign that your time is up.

I've had it happen to me on more that one occasion.  Some days you eat the bear and others....

Some warning signs to watch for:

1. she starts to yawn;
2. she looks at the clock, repeatedly;
3. her cell rings and she reaches out to answer it;
4. she starts to snore;
5. use says diplo-speak things like "wow, you're really strong," or "do you always have this much energy?, or "training for the marathon?" or "have you struck oil yet?" or "were you a gymnast?";
6. she broaches buzzkil topics like her kids, her insanely jealous ex, her gravely ill parents, her abortion at the age of 15, how she wrapped her car around a particularly unyielding guardrail;
7. asks you if investing in the companies which manufacture KY Jelly and Astro Glide is a smart move;
8. grabs her laptop, says "time to check emails and update the blog, honey;"
9. asks you if you'd like a smoke;
10. orders from room service.

But seriously, I've [sigh] rarely had that problem.  But when I have, the ladies have always been patient and i've always been the one to call it quits.

Just once, for at least a month, i'd like to experience the "problems" of excess male endowment and delayed ejaculation.  Just for the novelty, of course.