Anybody have any experience with SB who are interested in DDLG activities?  I see it fairly often on a profile and I did not think much about it.  I always looked at it as a SB saying she wants her partner to be dominant in private.  But recently, I met a woman who was into it and described herself as a "little."  Turns out there is far more to it.  It wasn't for me.  Any others with experience or some insight?

...but I have connected with a few POT SB's who mentioned it in their profiles.  It's a subset of BDSM play called "Daddy Dom/Little Girl" and it's important to note it is NOT code for sex with people under 18 years of age.  Instead, it uses terms like "child-like" to mean participants over 18 engaging in role play involving artifacts from childhood like stuffed animals, spanking, and school attire.  I've added a link to the Urban Dictionary definition for reference.  

 
The POT's I've connected with all elected not to meet (or even talk to) me, usually after I explained that I am new to this niche, or perhaps they just didn't want to date an old fat a-hole like me. LOL.   I also observed that many of the POT's were a bit further away from the 18-25 year-old spinner type I favor, and instead tended to be more "Rubenesque."  

 
I did have a M&G with one POT who was into it, and was a former Porn Star. When we met she was on the site to earn some cash to fund a trip to FL where she has been invited to feature dance at a major strip club.  She explained a sub type of the DD/LG theme where the female (LG) is a "brat." A brat will deliberately break Daddy's rules (didn't clean her room, took an extra cookie from the jar, etc.), so that Daddy must punish her.  It all sounded interesting, especially when I looked at some her porn scenes - except - those turned out to be older scenes. When we met face to face for the M&G, she was at least 45 lbs heavier.  I passed.  (Yes, I did mention that I too am fat. So am I a hypocrite for not wanting to fuck a fat chick? No, I am a Daddy with cash.)  

 
Would I try again if I found a POT that was hawt and into DD/LG?  I believe I would, but I expect the chances of that happening are approaching the Unicorn level.  

 
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There might not be sex involved with littles.  So that's an instant pass for me.  

I also found that girls into submission are disproportionately in the "heavier" population.

Seems to be contagious in sugarland. Some of these ladies took the whole positive body imaging overboard.

I’m all for positive body imaging. When a daughter or friend struggles with her weight I’ll be among the first to reassure her that her weight does not determine her value or her real beauty.

 
But, hypocrite that I am, I am completely uninterested in paying to have sex with a woman who has a more Rubenesque figure.  

 
That said, I won’t lie to anyone - daughter or not - about the difference in sex appeal that the more zaftig women have to face.

My only sub with actual bedroom time was on the larger side. Not obese, but maybe an extra 15-20 pounds than she would have preferred. She wasn't a sub with me unless you count anal or period sex as being a sub, and I only found out about what she did in her earlier life by talking to her. She had two pre-teen daughters, so the last thing that I would have suggested was underage fantasies.

My only other experience with pretend underage girls was with a LTF  She insisted that we could play as daughter or niece, but that she had to be at least 16 and fully developed n the fantasy. We tried it a couple of times but broke into laughter while coming out of the role play.

I met another former sub through Seeking. She was still in college and had been sugaring since before she wasn't old enough to be legal and was slender but busty. Before I met her, she got into bondage relationships until one scared her too much. She made it clear that sub/dom and any kind of fantasy about underage were NOT on the menu. We had a couple of nice dinner dates, but never went BCD. However, whispering across the table with her was almost as good as sex.

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Your experience with the SB who was scared of BDSM brings up the other end of this spectrum.  

 
I've had SB's who won't even consider this type of play at any level due to past traumas like being raped or molested at a young age, often by a close family member.  The very idea of "daddy" play brings back all the pain and damage in an instant.  Completely understandable, of course. It makes me want to find the bastard(s) who hurt her and ensure they are held accountable - since in my few experiences with this they have never faced any consequences. But that's a rabbit hole I don't want to explore here.  

 
The point is, as always, a transparent discussion with your POT before you go BCD about boundaries, limits, mutual consent, and likes/dislikes is critical to a good experience for both, and to a long-lasting arrangement.   Ultimately, if she feels pushed too far outside of her comfort levels, she will bail.  

 
Not related to this topic: I have a M&G with a new POT today.  She told me in her last arrangement "he sometimes let me bring my roommate on our dates."  Wow, he "let" her bring her roommate...?  I'm not counting on anything yet. But it could be an interesting day.   So why am I mentioning it here?  

 
Why not?  Since...  

 
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The chicks that I've done BDSM with have all mentioned such topics first.  Usually something about nipple clamps.  Which leads to further discussion.  Although I've mentioned it to a few others very casually and if there is no positive reaction I just move on like it was never discussed.

The dinner date who got scared about BDSM had told me a LOT about her intimate history, and I think that her only trauma was going too far in bondage. It wasn't as mild as nipple clamps; she was blindfolded, gagged, and tied up and her partner took advantage of that to do things to her that she didn't want to do.

So, because you raised it, how did it go? Did the roommate join you for the M&G?  

The only time a roommate came up was with a friend who was strictly lesbian in her orientation so girl friend rather than girlfriend. I don't know what the "roomie's" orientation was and I never met her. I did wonder about a threesome with her where we would take turns with her roommate.

The M&G didn't happen.  She texted me about an hour before the meeting time that she was going to be late. She had to go to a laundromat since her home machine is broken and it was taking a long time. I asked her to text me when she was on her way (she had a one-hour drive), and I waited, and waited, and waited.  

 
About two hours later, she texted that she was done, heading home to shower & etc., and would then be on her way. Again I said, thanks, please let me know when you are on your way.  Two more hours pass and she tells me she needs to reschedule - her laundry is still not done. Ok so WTF? She already said she had finished her laundry. I didn't bother to call her out, since I realized she just wasn't going to the M&G and pushing back wasn't going to change that. So consistent with my "never burn bridges" strategy, I suggested a new day (Friday) and she agreed.  

 
My best guess: she found a bigger, better looking "wallet," who may have been closer to her, and dumped me like old potato salad. She probably lacks the maturity or tact to be honest about changing her mind. Or maybe I was just downgraded to her B (or C?) list.  So I expect she will find a reason to not meet on Friday.   Fortunately, the only loss I have is time. I was on hold for a total of 5 hours waiting for her until she canceled.  

 
This brings my YTD conversion rate to 0 out of 3 attempts to go BCD.  Ok, the year is only 11 days old, but batting .000 is still batting .000.  LOL  Fortunately, I have another M&G on Thursday with a different POT SB.  So that means...

 
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I think Lester has it right.  In my conversation with the POT SB, she remarked that sex wasn't part of the DD/LG dynamic she envisioned.  It was a separate thing.  When she said it, it turned me off.  Playing "daddy" to some woman who is acting like an adolescent without some sex element to it is simply creepy to me.  I respect others' interests but its not for me.
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As far as the SB in question, I ended up spending the night at her place on 2 occasions but we never explored the DD/LG dynamic.  We've both moved on now.  I have no regrets about either her or missing out on some DD/LG education.