Dear Love Goddess,

I am an uncircumsized male.  Recently I had an abrasion on the glans of my privates.  I think it was from a combo of dry skin and wearing a cover that was too tight.  I have had it checked by a professional (as well as a follow-up).  After examining it and running ALL necessary tests, they told me it is nothing more than an abrasion.  The spot has healed.  

However, the spot has produced a small scar.  It isn't raised, by touch alone the area is smooth and unnoticeable.  But the scar is visible and is discolored a light red.  It looks a little like an abrasion a child might get on their elbow.  It has lightened up somewhat, but I've been told the scaring and discoloration might take some time to go away.

I recently visited a provider, a well-reviewed one with a rep for safety, who I did not want to cancel on as I have had to cancel several times before.  In the interest of disclosure, I mentioned the discoloration right upfront.  She appreciated being told and could see I was stressing about it all day long.  But she told me it was no big deal and no worries at all.  In fact even after seeing it, she didn't mention it again.

My inquiries are, if I see another provider, should I mention it when booking?  Or should I mention it upfront when we meet?  Or mention it at all? (don't want to scream fire when there's barely any smoke.)  And any idea how long scaring or discoloration in this area takes to go away? (never been injured down there before.)

thank you

Dear overlyconcerned,

First of all, I must state that I am not a physician; hence, I cannot tell you how long the scar will be there. It's most likely a pigmentation issue and everyone heals differently in that regard. But:

No, I don't think you should discuss ANY issues about genitalia when booking. First of all, they don't call them "privates" for nothing - your genitals are really "private," at least in this culture! Also, there are issues of legal significance when you book with a provider. You start talking anything sexual, and bang, she could cut off the phone call or never reply to your emails. And besides, if you were making a date with a civilian - would you bring this up at all until you both got nekkid?

I also don't think you should mention it immediately upon meeting. Remember that providers [bless their hearts!] have seen all sorts of physical variations and a little scar on an uncircumcized penis is really not the end of the world to them. But of course, once you get down to BJ or other inspection-up-close type of activities, then yes, you may wish to mention it. Since I assume you go at it with a condom, none of that should matter, other than to assure the provider that you don't have some weird disease, LOL. So stating it once the clothes come off is a good idea, but not before....there has to be some sense of believable romance about the encounter...

And, congratulations to being intact. A recent study in the British Journal of Urology confirms that intact men are four times as sensitive as circumcized ones in certain areas of the penis. But that also means that WHEN your glans is exposed to anything out there, it can abrade much easier than a glans that's been keratinized by wear and tear. So keep your penis inside its little happy sheath, that's what it's there for.

Enjoy your sensate willie,
the Love Goddess

Thank you for your all your advice, LG.  You even brought up an issue I didn't think of (reason to NOT mention it while booking).  

Anyway took your advice and saw two ladies.  First one mentioned it right before the fun and she didn't mind.  Other one, we got into a lot of foreplay and when it came time to go to the next level, I forgot to mention it.  She had to have seen it, but never said a word to me.