The ebb and flow of lovely potential SBs on seeking continues to baffle me.  Through the spring of 2023 I had 3 consistent, excellent arrangements that had been ongoing for 2 1/2 years.  Then one left town, the other 2 ended later that year, and I suddenly had none.  I spent the next 1 1/2 years trying to rebuild my rotation, with zero results.  Oh, I had few short terms, one offs, etc, but nothing consistent.  Until I met my current SB#1 last May.  Our relationship continues to deepen every time we meetup!  And #2 showed up just about 2 months ago, equally wonderful.  #3 is on deck: we had a wonderful coffee date last week and are planning our first BCD date this Tuesday.  If it works out as hoped, my dance card will be totally full. So I have stopped sending out intro messages on seeking.  Thus it was bittersweet to receive a text message this morning from a lovely local potential I had high hopes for a while ago.  But I had not heard from her in 7 weeks and had moved on.  I had to gently decline her offer to get together due to my current commitments.  I have not been in this position, turning away likely candidates, in a very long time!

Some day.... some day... one of us will crack the nut on the cycle of ebb and flow that drives legit POT's on the site.  Some day...  

 
Until then, I have suffered the same highs and lows - for over a decade.  

 
For the last 4 months, my SA profile has been hidden. With the addition of my last two SB's from WYP in November, I've stopped looking there as well. For now.  

 
I have a total of 8 SB's on some level of rotation and I can honestly say that is more than enough. I even took the extraordinary action to cut my #1 SB's schedule down to every 3 weeks instead of 2. (Note: she asked for a $100 PPM increase due to the change and I quicky agreed.)  

 
Meanwhile I continue to scan Seeking daily, but I have turned off notifications when I like a profile. When (not if) I need to start looking for new POT's I will start with the dozen or so I tagged with a "like."  

 
And as I am now less than 61 days from my 7-week trip to Thailand and Indonesia, I will wait until I'm within a week of flying to flip my profile on, change my location to the appropriate city and rewrite my profile text to attract locals who are good with a short-term opportunity.  

 
I'll be in-country for a total of 46 days (exclusive of travel time and jet lag recovery).  I'm hoping to bag at least one BCD every 3 days, and perhaps once every 2 days if my health, libido, and schedule allows. Not worried about budget. My best forecast is that even the most expensive "opportunities" will require perhaps 30% of my usual BCD spend.  

 
Life is good, even during a POT drought.  

 
The Cat

I cancelled my sub on SA.  I usually give it a few months at least to refill the pool.  I look from time to time to see but most are still ones I've reached out to or redone profiles of ones I know are scams.  

Current rotation, main SB.  Still going strong.  We have another weekend vacation next week.  She has apparently planned, and paid for, everything.  I pay her rent as an allowance. We are supposed to have weekly dates which hasn't been happening due to her work schedule.  That's why she planned and paid for it, she knew I was getting annoyed.

First back up, 30 year old mixed MILF has not been answering my texts last few days.  She asked for money while I was not in my house due to fires.  I said no.  I was a bit preoccupied and her $200 nails were not my priority.  So we will see if she's gonna flake or found someone else.  She loves anal, main reason I'm pursuing still.

B Roll AA girl who lives in LA really wants to come spend a day or so with me away from the smoke.  She's not the hottest but her personality really works well with mine and the sex is good.

Filipina girl who knows how it goes, doesn't mind being the side chick and knows it's transactional.  She likes the sex and simpleness of it.  See her 2-3 times a month usually.  She only reaches out when she needs money or is horny.

Met another mixed girl, had a M&G which I thought she wasn't interested.  She swore she was and wants to see me again this weekend.  Tenative date for tonight.  I have plans during the day and may be tired/cancel.  She's drop dead gorgeous.  Hope the sex is on point!

I've had a few others that I've either seen once or texted a bit with reach out but nothing concrete.  One lives in LA and is an escort on the side (I mentioned her in other posts having an eros ad) but hasn't committed to seeing me again.  She really wants to be making 1k to 1500 a week and I'm not giving that much.

I got booted from SA 3 years ago for PPM. IM on SB where you pay for credits. I will stay on till my credits run out and won't renew. Too many fatties. Too much GPS. Including my long term SB who had too many things she wouldn't do.

I've been booted from SA also, after my account was hacked and it looked like I had sent out hundreds of spam messages, which I had not!  The email address I'd been using is now permanently banned from accessing SA.  But that's my point.  If you want to return, simply use a different email address and you can create a new profile.

I tried that but the CC was flagged. At the time I only had one CC and I didn't feel like jumping through hoops to get approved. Since a scammer bitch reported me I wasn't feeling all that great about the site anyways

I can relate!  The first time I got banned from SA I was devastated. Really upset!  Especially since their attitude at the time was they were completely unwilling to discuss the matter with me, and said so.  No recourse whatsoever.  I eventually figured out how to get back on, but you are right, I needed to use a different CC as I recall.  Getting reported by a scammer bitch is one unpleasantness I have avoided so far!  Maybe because I have never argued with someone who triggers my red flags.  I just politely decline their offer, tell them I'm not available, that I ran out of money, or some other convenient lie to make them lose interest in me and move on.  I've been fortunate to find quite a few excellent SBs who have no restrictions or limitations on their menu whatsoever.  My current #1 is like that.  I can do anything with her, and she always agrees.  Whether it's rimming, anal, toys, BBFS, cum inside her, whatever, she's always into it!  She might be a rare find on seeking.  But it would be virtually impossible to find someone like that irl or on any other site, at least that's my experience.  So, yeah, I get frustrated with seeking sometimes, but it's still the best option going.

Seems in San Diego there is a GOS pandemic. As I've mentioned before my long term SB did not kiss, bare, overnight or anything in public. At 400 to 500 pm. I finally got her to tell me she wanted $5k/month for no rules. THAT broker spell on me. But it's been a lousy market here for options.

I think your experience is a lot more reflective of the majority of users/past users of that disgusting site.  Sure, others report outliers, but as you know; 'it's the internet' and basically what kind of woman one guy might find acceptable, another would quickly reject.  

Such is life....

I agree with Sweetman. As much of a pain in the ass as Seeking is, it's still the only real game in town. It requires a lot of patience and perseverance but good partners can be found.