Lately I have been getting a lot of requests in my area for contact information of young ladies I have met.From experience I have learned to do this only after okaying it with the girl.Because of the cost of the membership and the amount of time it takes to find these girls,I have asked to receive a number in return.How do i go about contacting these ladies I receive in return knowing nothing about them ?If they ask how I got their information .How do I reply honestly?I would prefer to be upfront and not try to deceive them.Please advise me or give feedback

but if I were to do so most likely I would go the easiest way I can think of and that would be to simply tell the truth.

 

"Hey POT SB, we have a mutual friend from SA said great things about you and who told me we might be a good fit. Are you interested in talking about it a little further?"

 
Trying to lie about it would only foster suspicion on her part and a suspicious SB is NOT a fun SB in my experience.

If the lady was well aware of what you are doing and knew what she was getting into.Why would you not do this?

Mr Herb Cat .I would like your input on this also

... of bad results.  

 
First, it smacks of the "other" board where guys treat POT SB's like hookers. And although there are certainly hookers on SA, they are there (mostly) for the SB experience, not just to book johns.  I don't want any behaviors or attitudes here that make us look that the people on that board.  Why? because the more asshole-ish they behave, the easier it is for US to differentiate ourselves and connect with SB's we really want to meet.

 
Next, there are two critical dynamics of the Sugar Bowl that should never be allowed to erode:  Within the arrangement-full (or near full) transparency, and outside of the arrangement-mutually respected privacy.  These are the foundation for establishing the trust which is absolutely required for a meaningful arrangement.  

 
For some guys, especially one you (presumably) don't really know, to start asking for SB referrals just so they can 1) avoid paying for SA fees, or 2) trade on YOUR SD reputation when you really have no idea if he is a good guy or a serial rapist seems REALLY BAD! So no, I would never provide an SB's contact info to another guy. And no, I would never ask a guy to provide me contact info for (presumably) one of his past SB's.  

 
I might, (though I probably wouldn't), think about making an introduction to a guy I know well IF a past SB seriously asked me to.  But even then, my Spidey Senses tell me I should stay TF away from that as well.  

 
Maybe I'm reading into this a desire by you or any guys who are asking you for help to be lazy, cheap fucktards who do not want to put in the work we all do to find someone who is compatible with you for a real SD/SB arrangement. Makes me think you and your friends are just trying to get laid by as many Ho's as you can.  There is NOTHING wrong with that! But use another site (like TER) to line up fuck-quests.  If I am incorrect about your intentions, then I'll back away from the charges in this paragraph.   So, am I?  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

This is just one small step from starting to "review" SB's  and that most likely would be the end to our fun.

You are correct Mr.HerbCat.I was looking for an easier way to find more ladies.It is expensive and takes an extreme amount of time and patience to reel these girls in.But what I forgot about was how I got to this point.Being gentlemanly and respecting these ladies has went a long way for me and I have been rewarded handsomely .

I did consider the fact that the person I give the information to may not treat them as well.This is the reason I had not considered this until now.With the cost and time,plus the case of the current situation ,It has been even harder to find someone that will work together with me.

I think you and Mr Gambler are right.I am above this and would prefer to be on the side of privacy and respect.

Thank you gentleman for your input

Got a second date with one I just found.The first date was Fantastic.Im going to keep her to myself , spoil,respect and treat her how I would enjoy and reap the benefits.

Happy hunting

Good! I thought it was a bad idea.  As Herbcat said, its a slippery slope and can come across as really creepy. You may be an ok guy but some of these women might be a little gun shy given the number of creeps out there.

He and I would exchange stories and it was a very fun friendship.  We would go as far as telling each other our SB's screen names.  But then it was our individual job to contact the SB on SA if we felt like it and create our own independent arrangement.  We never gave each other a SB's contact info, phone number, email, real name, etc beforehand.  We both felt that as gentlemen it would be a breach of confidentiality to do so.  As it turned out, we wound up dating several of the same SBs at the same time.  And in some cases we let them know that me and Mr. Friend were friends!  They mostly enjoyed knwoing we were buddies and in one case we wound up getting together as a 2some just for coffee and conversation.  He and I were never interested in a MFM 3some so it was always one on one BCD with the SB.  But in one case the SB got very upset with us when she found out we knew each other, so it was not without its risks.  Anyway, I'd never share info about a SB with any guy I did not already know and trust extremely well.  And even then, only their screen name so he could follow up on his own if he chose to do so. And also only if I felt we would not be poaching each other's  favorites.  My friend and I would always ask each other, is it ok if I contact SB so and so, to be sure we weren't poaching.

Remember the whole dear in headlights conversation and how easily most SB’s get spooked. If you approach her with “got your info from...”, it’s most likely not going to end well for either you or your friend who gave you the number. Asking for a return number is definitely reasonable but would also make sure he cleared it with her first before contacting. If nothing is pre-cleared, there a pretty good chance she’ll ignore you and assume it’s a scam at best.  Worst case, we’ll, you probably blew up one of your friends SB relationships. There has to be a reciprocal arrangement of pre-clearance on both sides. Not saying it can’t work but the chances are even less than normal recruiting in the SB world.