Was just reading a thread over at the babe-board, LetsTalkSugar, where the general advice to SBs seem to be not to text daily, and generally only respond to a text or two the SD might generate. What's been your pattern, and do you really put any thought into it?

If you ever read PUA (pick up artist) forums, they suggest that the guy should text less frequently and with shorter replies than the gal.  So it seems this site is giving the opposite info to the gals.   Apparently he who texts less holds the more power.   I think that is generally true -- he who cares less has the most power in a relationship.

rather than texts, especially when I'm just getting to know someone.  I find texts way too limiting for expressing the kind of long, properly punctuated and composed messages I like to write.  But texting is great for keeping in touch with established SBs, setting up time and place for our next visit, and staying in touch en route in case of delays.  Otherwise, I don't send or receive texts hardly at all.

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Absolutely agree!  The less you communicate back to them or act as if it doesn’t matter if you meet, the better it is for you.  Text less, get laid more!

I have different texting strategies for different SB's. But generally:  
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1. I let them suggest/request our next meet - unless I'm super horny or have a tight schedule for the next two weeks and don't want to miss my sugar time. If she texts me, it means she needs/wants some $$ and will be more willing to accommodate my schedule or other requests/conditions.  Remember SD Rule #1:  No $ugar before BCD time - EVER!  
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2. I always respond to a new text, usually within an hour or less if I can. Even if just to say "can't talk right now...".  This is a courtesy I expect from them and so I feel it's necessary to do the same. Note: I don't want "power" by making HER feel inferior or unimportant as the PUA guys suggest. I want "power" by making ME desirable, dependable, and honest (and BUSY) . Doesn't mean I won't say no to some requests. I will. I'm not her little bitch pussy to order around. It just means I treat her with respect and professionalism and I expect the same from her.  (Makes me laugh every time I see a profile with  looking for "Financial Domination" on it. Wrong site, ladies.)  
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3. If I haven't heard from her in a while (say 3+ weeks) I might send a text saying something like "Thinking about you this morning. Made me feel warm and happy."  Yeah it's squishy and a little BF-ish, but it makes them feel good and they usually come back with a request to meet.  
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4. If we get into some long, drawn-out discussion with several back and forth messages, I might just suggest a phone call. I hate typing or speech-to-text in my messenger app. It's just tedious.  BUT, if the topic is particularly sensitive (meaning it may be easier for her to talk about it non-face-to-face) or she has a history of "forgetting" important parts of our agreements, I'll stick to text. I might need to send her screen caps of those messages later.  I require honesty in our arrangement - or at least honesty ABOUT our arrangement.  And yes, if we get to a point where I need to send her screen caps, the arrangement is likely going to end soon.

I recently had a potential SB ask me via text what allowance I'd be willing to pay.  I had to reminder her, Uh, Sugar, we just had a long conversation about that on the SA message system. Go back and re-read our conversation.  If I have to remind her of our conversations, it does not bode well for any sort of good arrangement.  I'm gonna pass on this one.  But it does demonstrate why I don't like to text, except for setting up dates. It's hard to remember what was said to whom, when each conversatio9n moves from the SA site, to text, to email, etc, etc. Easy to get lost.

Actually, that is a rather interesting "predictor" as to how things are/will be going.  I've found that despite the fact that most of my SB average around 20 y/o they seem to have no problems remembering factoids that are important to them. When they seem to suffer amnesia, so does the relationship.

I have a few SB's in my rotation who I text with on a very regular basis, a couple of them at least daily.  

The SBs I’ve run into I haven’t had a problem with text.  They have been respectful for the most part and if not I just block them.  Some want to use kik, that is good for me too.  

I'll agree about the hybrid concept, but I see it through a quasi-commerce POV:  
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With a hooker I am renting 1 to 3 holes for a an hour or two. With an SB, I am renting a GF for a day or so. I take my lead by her communication tempo:  
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If she contacts me less frequently, I treat her more like a hooker: "Meet me this day for that time for the usual sugar."  
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If she contacts me more frequently (and I really like hanging with her) I treat her more like a GF: "Lets go up the coast for wine tasting Saturday, maybe stay the weekend?".

Hey herbcat. What's a screen cap??