I recently started seeing a civie who just turned 49, had four children in her 20's, and breast fed them all over the course of nearly 8 straight years. We've had three extended love-making sessions, and she has orgasmed several times, each time. I noticed, however, that when I fondled, kissed, sucked or otherwise attempted to stimulate her breasts, there was no response whatsoever. During the third session I asked her if she enjoyed what I was doing, or should I be doing something else. Her response was that she has absolutely no sexual feeling in her breasts do to the extended breastfeeding and that my attempts to stimulate them did nothing for her. Since she has responded so well to my digital stimulation of her vagina and ass, and similarly to my tongue and cock, I know her to be a very sexual woman. But it leaves me a little cold to kiss her breasts and get nothing. It takes away from my enjoyment of breast play to know I'm contributing nothing to her pleasure there.
Is this just something I will have to get used to, or are there things that can be done to reactivate the breasts' sensitivity?
A few things, o2hav2,
First of all, not every woman is "wired" to get very aroused from breast play. Secondly, many women lose the ability to get aroused from breast fondling during their perimenopausal years. Thirdly, if she has breastfed throughout those years, it is very possible that her nipples have been so "babyhandled" [as opposed to manhandled], that she needs extrem amounts of stimulation to feel anything.
Is there anything that can be done? Actually, going with paradoxical intention MIGHT work, but there are no guarantees. Try some feather play and/or very light licking. It's possible that she won't feel anything - or it may reawaken some senses in there.
If it doesn't work, you will need to focus on other erogenous zones that thrill her. On the flip side, YOU can have a lot of fun with her titties - if she's not excessively tender, then wow, go at them.
Good luck and congrats to finding such a sexual partner,
The Love Goddess
You seem to have hit on a very responsive, mature woman...something many men would kill for. She responds to just about everything else but boob play. Count your lucky stars...most women her age have packed it in if you listen to many, many men on this site. At least she let's you play with them
Turn the tables for a bit...she likes gently pulling on your balls but it does zero for you. She wants to know what she can do to get you to respond the way she thinks you should and the way she is expecting you to...
Some things are just not a turn on, either now or before. And sometimes there is nothing one can do about it except accept that fact and turn your attention to the things that do elicit the response that makes you feel good.
Well, I have certain areas of reduced sensation... I can appreciate that a partner might have some somewhere on their body. Congrats that you have enough sensitivity & trust to be informed...
I am reminded of a very pretty GF/nurse who lost the sensation in one side of her face in a terrible auto accident... She had me lay on the other side!
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