I would not sugar date while married. Seems too hard to hide. Between money transfers or ATM withdrawals. Constant conversation. Hotel stays. I feel it's too high risk for me.
My current GF is also a SB. I'm able to play around because she doesn't live anywhere near me. Were she living with me.....Not hearing much from you gents about your current rotations...
Seems like a year or so ago, everyone was managing them.
Has everyone moved on to other opportunities?
Me, I guess I'm one of the old school guys, but I still have three very, very active SB in my little group and at times, add a "pinch hitter." LOL
I don't think there are any secrets to doing this, other than the obvious: make it erotic and exciting for them as much as possible.
Fortunately, I'm one of those dumb-ass lucky guys who is making "obscene" money from this crazy stock market....and I'm known to sprinkle a few K or two to the SB just as a 'thank you.'
Honestly, if there is any true impediment, it's just trying to keep up with girls much less than half my age. My fun sessions typically go an hour or even more, but I'm nearly wasted the next day.
I'm into studying and practicing every workout/diet/life style possible, but some days it just seems like to much.
I'm off to the EU this week to satisfy my #1, but this time I almost cancelled just to take some time off for myself.
I suppose as the Cat says: life is good [if not just a tiny bit hard sometimes!]
Retired but play on the lower side. I still have e SBs at 300 to 400. Also AMPs as a backup. What Im interested in is what happens when the ladies feel the squeeze from cost of living and the guys feel it as well. Is pussy an elastic or inelastic product? I say elastic as rosy is a viable option.
I am maintaining a stable of 2 regulars and 3 alternates. Well actually 2 alternates as my latest local Porn Star SB just moved to Vegas for more gigs. She says she will be back in LA frequently, and that will work for me.
I still scan the sites daily (Seeking, WYP, and SDM) for anything of interest. And I had a promising POT reach out a few days ago as well. Sadly, although almost every box on each of our lists was checked, the most important box, allowance, remained blank. She asked for $1k for one-hour, and that's a "no thanks" from me.
But Euro remains correct to steal my tag line. LOL
Life is good
The Cat
Main is my girl from Mexico. We see each other almost every weekend. I raised her allowance to help cover her school costs and we have long dates and overnights. Lots of communication between dates. We are planning a Hawaii trip in July.
Two non-regular, inconsistent girls. Usually last minute because they can't schedule or be on time. Sadly, one is mad at me because I canceled. She was 3 hours late and the window to see her was already closed. Somehow still my fault.
Not looking for more. Main is becoming my girlfriend. We are still seeing where it will lead. She's made it clear she's more than willing to be a love in house wife in the future. So who knows, I may become a passport bro.
Last main is stirri on wanting to come back. But she really burned a bridge with me. So I doubt she will do what I would want to even consider it. She will definitely be a ppm for life if I let her back in the fold.
Euro-Guy, thanks for starting this thread!
My #1 is a slim, extremely pretty 25yo. We just celebrated our 2 year anniversary. Incredibly sweet, dependable, and sexual. 48 dates and counting!
#2 is a 28yo who was my #1 for 3 years starting in 2021. She's a slightly curvy, super sexy, girl, with goals! Rn she's completing her RN training, so she doesn't have much time for sugaring. But I'll be seeing her again next week. 53 dates and counting.
#3 is a returnee. We dated a couple of times back in pandemic days when she was just 18! Then she moved away. Fast forward to now, she's all of 23 (a 56 year age gap!) she has returned and we're rekindling our arrangement. She's the most sexually responsive female I've ever encountered, 0-60 in seconds flat, continuous rolling O's from start to finish. I'm seeing her again this afternoon! 5 dates so far.
#4 is another returnee. She's a 28yo, a bigger girl with enormous boobs. We were regular playmates in pre-pandemic days, then she moved away. Now she's back, and we have developed a real friendship beyond the bedroom. But she has requested intimacy again, so of course I said yes! 17 dates so far.
And #5 is perhaps the most surprising of all. She's a stunning blonde, 37 but could easily pass for early 20s. She's the kind of gorgeous woman you see on seeking sometimes who just stops you in your tracks and makes you think she's way tgtbt. Perfect body, beautiful face, long blond hair, just stunning. She has a crazy work sched, so we started flirting a year ago but never managed to meetup. Until last week. She texted me saying she was going to be staying in town and could I meet her at her hotel that same evening. Of course I said yes, and went to visit her with, I'll admit, some nervousness. Turns out she looks exactly like her pics, came out of the shower wearing nothing but a towel and a smile, and soon it was just the smile! She said she wanted her needs met, which I proceeded to attempt with vigor! I must have done ok since she had several Os and has promised to repeat. One date so far.
Guys, my point is that at age 79 I am deluged with sweet, young, very affordable pussy, something I would never have believed possible decades ago. 3 dates last week, 1 this week, 2 planned for next week. I don't think I have any special talents, other than always treating the girls with respect and affection. They keep cumming back for more, so I must be doing something right. I've met them all on Seeking, never would have met any of them without the incredible, intentional platform that Seeking still is. We are living in the best of times!
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Ill be 68 in a few weeks. Ive noticed a big drop-off in activity since I turned 65
Are you saying you are slowing down.. or getting less interest from SBs due to your age?
Seems like less activity due to my age. Did a second profile. Just one pic. Lowered age to 60 and am getting a couple messages per day. Several have messaged me on my 60yo profile. Don't respond when I loke them using my real account.
My sense is that age 65 is the dividing line since their parents or grandparents signed up for Medicare at that age and they associate Medicare with "old" people. And old people, in their view, are more likely to have a health issue.
I did try for a while to rotate but honestly, compared to my main SB, they were not good BCD. I got bored so quickly. So I am quite happy with just one. We celebrated 3 years together earlier this year and I plan on this going for longer. She is amazing in bed and treats me like a king. Outside of the bedroom we are tight friends and travel very well together. Planning some short (3-5 days) getaways including a music festival, then planning a trip to the Greek Islands for next year (maybe Turkey too). So good on ya'all for rotating!
Just asking and not wanting to pry. Are any of you are married ? I have always wanted to do the SB thing but when I hear about taking trips along with the texts emails and dinners out it seems impossible ?
I would not sugar date while married. Seems too hard to hide. Between money transfers or ATM withdrawals. Constant conversation. Hotel stays. I feel it's too high risk for me.
My current GF is also a SB. I'm able to play around because she doesn't live anywhere near me. Were she living with me.....
I am very happily married. But 23 years ago, when I was 56, I had become quite unhappy. Simply put, I always wanted some sexual variety in my life, and I wasn't getting it. Thought I never would, until I discovered TER. It looked legit. I took a very deep breath and sat down with my wife for a heart to heart talk. I told her I loved her and would never leave her, but I wanted to try having sex with an escort. She had known for quite some time that I was unhappy. So she said ok. I booked my first date with an escort, a woman who was very kind and gentle, with me being a newbie and all, and I returned home with a smile on my face. Now I've swithed exclusively to dating SBs. My wife is truly happy that I am getting my needs met with others, and our marriage is the strongest it's ever been. I suggest you talk to your wife, be honest about your desires and your needs. I know nobody else on this forum has an open/poly/ENM marriage like I I do and you all probably think I'm crazy. But life is soooo sweet for me. And for my wife. And for my SBs.
and I thank you for sharing it.
However, it doesn't always work out that way. I had an understanding with my wife also and it seemed that for a couple of years, we found a balance that we both could live with.
However it was not to be. One day out of the blue a process server showed up at my office. The rest you can guess.
I have no regrets still. I've had the time of my life the last 20+ years without the ex around. Just a bit poorer than I'd like to be.
Sweet,
Just turned 57 and my wife has been 100% supportive of my connections with SBs and the occasional pro. This has been the case for the past 2 years or so. She even is cool with me having a FWB thing with one of her best friends (we live on different coasts though). In fact, my wife has looked at some SA profiles and has commented more than once "you should reach out to her - seems like a good fit."
Our love life has never been more connected and satisfying as she feels no pressure to have sex if she's not in the mood. We are lucky guys.
So glad to know it's working for you! I think the standard monogamous model places too much pressure on a couple, cuz you need to provide for 100% of each other's needs, (which I think is impossible) and if you can't, then you have to do without which breeds resentment. You are right, we are lucky guys. But it's def not just luck. Take credit for creating the kind of life you want!
Which is why I've never wanted to get married. I had three failed monogamous relationships in my mid-to-late twenties. All of them ended when I caught her cheating. That reinforced two things for me:
1. I have zero skill at choosing a partner who will stay faithful to me.
2. There is no real reason to get married - ever. At least for me.
Instead, I focused hard on building a successful career and on having fun when I wanted it. The result: A very successful and lucrative 45+ year career. And I've travelled to most of the 50 states and over 30 countries and had sex in all of them, mostly with pro's but sometimes with friendly locals and starting in my late 40's, sugar babies. I've had threesomes (and foursomes!), sex in strip clubs and with strangers on cruise ships, stayed at sex resorts in the Caribbean, and visited multiple FKK's all over Eastern Europe (including Germany, of course). I regularly have sex at least once a week, or more (which is enough for me most of the time), usually with 2 to 3 different women. I've taken SB's on trips to Vegas, San Francisco, South America (where I also banged a pro while she was "shopping"), and Australia. Some were weekends, some were longer, up to 30 days,
All of that and I guarantee you I have spent less that a married guy would have over the same time period of time supporting a wife, kids, health care, 2nd cars, kids' education and ultimately, alimony.
Having said that, I 've always known that IF I ever did get married and found myself with the need (I do not mean want, I mean NEED) to see other women, I'd follow Papa Sweet's path, knowing that (for me at least) the likely outcome would be divorce. I just won't make a promise to be faithful and then casually break that promise. But that's just me.
There are a lot of married men in the Sugar Bowl. Some of the SB's I've met claim at least 40-60%. I can't and won't judge them, as they each must deal with their own decisions.
I'll close with a note that I am not the guy to ask how to sugar without getting caught by your wife or SO. My "OpSec" is focused on net getting scammed, as opposed to keeping my activities secret. There are many others here and on the General Discussion board that can opine on that.
Life is good
The Cat
I am not married, been divorced for 20 years and when I became newly single is when I got into the sugar world. I couldn't imagine logistically trying to pull off marriage and sugaring at the same time. Apart from the thrill, it sounds too stressful.
I am entering the world of vanilla dating and have yet to find a good partner but when I do I will get out of the sugar world. That could be ages though. Dating in my 70s is, well, a bit odd. Haven't found any GILFs yet. We'll see if the vanilla world goes anywhere. Not especially optimistic. I have to keep remembering that the excitement of hanging out with, and having sex with, my SB will never be able to be replaced by a vanilla person. Such completely different worlds. It could be that sugaring has spoiled me and there is no going back.
Thanks to all of your reply's, they all hit home with me and rang true. I am 90% sure my wife knows I see escorts. As long as I don't throw it in her face ( I am extremely careful ) or disrespect her she is fine with it. I think a SB with money movements, along with nights out would make her feel threatened and shit would hit the fan. It sucks for me as we used to have a great sex life. A month or so ago she tried on her wedding dress on from 30 years ago and it fit her like a glove.
We are both in our 60s and guess it just goes that way. Thanks again for real input !
I consider myself old-school as well. I'm currently giving myself 100%. Cleansing my body by no alcohol, no sugar, no dairy, no caffeine, and no meat. I eat healthy foods that give me energy. My exercise routine is running, swimming, HIIT training & agua fit. I feel phenomenal. I am flexible. I have stamina & endurance. I think I am in my peak sexually. 🥰