Does anyone ever have platonic or online only relationships with sb’s?  

Is it just a smokescreen when sb’s  say platonic only?  

My impression is that they’re all bullshit scammers whether intentionally or just girls looking for desperate dudes. There is even a TikTok telling girls how to find an easy Mark.

That said, I SD’ed a 19yo hottie who was essentially a simple “hick from the sticks” looking for friends… it felt platonic for a few dates (did get a nice full lips kiss on first date tho) but she eventually warmed up. Not sure it was worth the effort and I prolly won’t do that again.

"...online only relationships..."

Do they accept monopoly money?

In my experience, the ones who say platonic or online only truly and honestly have zero interest in getting sexual with you.  I give them an automatic pass.  The smokescreen problem arises more frequently with girls posing sexy pics and writing sexy profiles which give the impression that they have a sex-positive attitude and are dtf. This impression is intentional on their part, and quite false.  When you talk to them it becomes clear their true purpose is selling pics and vids, "content" in the current jargon.  The sexy profiles are a smokescreen disguising their true intent.

a girl might use it in case one of her friends discovers her profile and can say she is simply looking for platonic dates.  I never had any success with such types tho.

If it says platonic, you will fail to launch.   Many of the ads are from girls who intend platonic but don't bother to say so.  If they say so, it's over.  Forget it.

While I agree with the other posts on this thread, I usually check to see their intentions if I am otherwise interested in the profile.  I live in a small market and can't afford to just throw away POTs.  So I send a DM "Hi, I'm Bob.  Are you really only interested in a platonic arrangement, or are there other considerations....?"

90% don't respond at all and of the other 10%, half don't engage for very long.  But I have had at least two M&Gs with "platonic-only" women that ended up BCD.  At least for me, this is a portion of the numbers game.  It takes me 30 secs or a minute to drop a text to a woman asking if she is really only platonic.  It is actually harder to write a first text to the others, as those might actually require some thought.

My best arrangement ever -- 50ish dates over the course of a year, random allowance but VERY low, and a genuine friendship that is ongoing -- came from a platonic-only woman.  She is without a doubt the most fun sex I have ever had -- she experiments, role-plays, is sometimes the aggressor, and sometimes submissive.  She wants to be taught, and then wants to be in control, and is so multi-orgasmic that I often can't tell when one starts and the eighth one ends.  Just a wonderful arrangement is every way.

But, again, I agree that she is a huge exception and if I was in a large market with thousands of options, I would not waste time on platonic-only profiles unless it is a part of your "numbers-game" strategy.  

Great story!  I may have to try a quick text to a few platonic only SBs to see what happens!

The way you characterized this sounds right. All depend made what one is looking for. Lot of effort but may be worth it … once lol!

It's the Socratic ones.

 
They keep peppering you with questions like:

 
What do you do for a living?

 
How much do you make?

 
How many gals have you been with?

 
etc., etc.

Like other posters have implied, using the term platonic does not necessarily mean she won't have sex.  You have to take in the total context of the profile and carefully evaluate her replies to your messages on and off the site.  

 
POTs may use this term for many reasons:
1. They don't want to appear as a whore
2. They want to dissuade SD's looking for a quick hook up, or Bang and Bail (BAB).  
3. They are influenced by social media posts about sugaring
4. They are new to the Bowl and want to be cautious at first
5. They feel uncomfortable with hook-up sex and want time to get to know her SD, just like she would with civilian dating.  
6. They believe that most SD's are simps - not necessarily scammers - they just think lonely guys will pay.
7. Outright scammers, catfishers, etc.  

 
My experience follows the general trend - most are not going to convert. But I have met more than one POT who used platonic to screen out the "jerks" who just want to fuck multiple SB's.  And so they "test" POT SD's to see if they are willing to invest the time (not necessarily money) to develop a comfort level together. I had one AA spinner who would drive 45 minutes to me for dates. We went out 3 times with minimal allowance (under $100) before she told me she liked me and trusted me enough to go BCD.  And when we did, it was off the hook amazing. She was enthusiastic, multi-orgasmic, submissive, all BB, and only wanted $250 in allowance.  But these are the rare finds in the Platonic field.  

 
So take the use of platonic (or the platonic tag) as one data point in the total profile. As a practice, I actually note the term but ignore it in my messages. If she's going to push for online, insta-meets, selling pics, and the latest ploy; crypto, she will go down that path quickly and I can bail.   I don't mind going on a few non-BCD dates for no or zero allowance if I see the prize ahead. And for those POT's who want to go down that path, I have found them much more comfortable and committed to a mutually good BCD experience than those who push for a fast meet up.  

 
Life is good

 
Ther Cat

Zero allowance platonic seems like a contradiction.

Zero allowance platonic is probably not a real thing.  I had a fascinating conversation over dinner a few weeks ago with a seriously cute young college girl.  We hit it off on so many topics.  When it came time to discuss particulars of an arrangement, she made it clear she wanted to begin platonic and see how it went.  I assured her I was patient, and that we could take things slow.  Her speed was my speed.  I thought everything was going well until I walked her back to her car and gave her a goodbye hug.  She said, aren't you going to give me any allowance tonight?  I was floored!  I had no idea she expected anything.  But she was operating under the assumption, gleaned from social media no doubt, that simply meeting a SD for dinner constituted a sugar arrangement.  I declined to give her any $ and never heard from her again.  Her idea of a platonic arrangement was certainly not zero allowance!

I might disagree with you just a bit. In my experience, MANY of them list platonic as a cover if they ever get found out by friends or family. This way, they can easily say "look at my profile, I was only talking, or having platonic dinners" as opposed to "I was selling my ass on SA" That said, some of the best sex with SBs for me has been with those who claim platonic only. Add to that, it's never even been a wait and hope and maybe after the third or forth meeting. For me, it's always been BCD on the first meeting. Many guys steer away from them, so they get less messages and are lower milage. Just my opinion based on personal experience of course.