The Erotic Highway

Re: My Take Thus Far
xray84 28 Reviews 63 reads
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Yah, but the author is just referring to prior work. I skimmed this real fast last night, and like so much social science writing, there are lots and lots and lots of words, and not much of what I would call data. I've learned one simple thing about reading science papers: Look at the figures first, because that's the DATA. And there aren't many figures in this! But:

1. This work shows 11.5% of female Canadian students are on SA!  That is simply incredible.

2. Currently, SB's are 65% of SA membership, --male-- SB's are 15% (that was a surprise to me!), sugar mommas are 1%, while SD's are 18%. So the all important SB/SD ratio is roughly 68/15= 4.5.  

3. The longitudinal data (ie, time dependent) shows an interesting trend. 205,400 SB's and 22,200 SD's in 2012, a ratio of  9.25, while in 2017 the SB's had increased to over 509,000, but the SD membership increased faster, to 115,000, the ratio fell to 4.5. So, it is still a buyers market, but it used to be even better.

Some of the general conclusions are interesting. The author emphasizes that SB's tend to define themselves as what they are NOT. "I'm not your girlfriend", "I'm not an escort", "I'm not a prostitute", "You're not my boyfriend", "I have my own life". They use euphemisms  to separate themselves from sex workers, and they play mind games with themselves to preserve that distinction. How many times have we all heard this? Interestingly, the mind games weaken their bargaining position because they are then forced to frame the relationship (at least partly) in traditional romantic/courtship terms rather than purely commercial/transactional terms, leading to a negotiation that favors the SD's. That rings true to me, for even the semi-pros I've encountered on SA still had some subconscious motivation to assert "I am not a prostitute".

The author should have interviewed some SD's! That is the major falling to this thesis; it only has half the story.

I've said for years that sugaring is an amazing social phenomenon, worthy of scholarly investigation. Yah, I know we're all "investigating" it to the best of our abilities, but that's not the kind of inquiry I'm talking about :). I've remarked many times to a local SD friend that "There should be multiple PhD theses on this!"

Well, there are. Here's one, and it has references to many others. This one is fairly recent (2017), and used Canadian data, suggesting that ONE IN TEN female students at Canadian universities are engaged in some type of sex work. Also, by page 3 she directly links it to student loan debt, something I think we've all had a clue about in our various "investigations".

SA and similar online sites seem to have created----and I think this is no exaggeration---a new sexual revolution.

And, although SA has its problems and limitations (time intensive, flakey SB's, etc), I also think it has made things like TER and traditional escorting almost irrelevant, at least for many hobbyists.

So, here's a little light reading for when you can't fall asleep :).

https://curve.carleton.ca/system/files/etd/5186cf8e-fca9-4e98-8bc5-36239cf1cdf3/etd_pdf/6661a3fe8ba3152811f0f9272f783855/daly-sugarbabiesandsugardaddiesanexplorationof.pdf

I've also noticed that major media (like the Wall Street Journal) and many others also write stories about sugar daddy sites like they were just copying press releases from these organizations.

I've read about half of this scholarly thesis so far and it's nice to see that the author is at least trying to be non judgemental and report what is actually happening.  However, she can't help but refer back to the existing body of work on the subject, most of which is based on  assumptions i think are outdated and misogynistic, ie, sugar dating is sex work, sex work is prostitution, prostitution is trafficking, therefore sugar dating is evil.  Maybe I'm over reacting.

Yah, but the author is just referring to prior work. I skimmed this real fast last night, and like so much social science writing, there are lots and lots and lots of words, and not much of what I would call data. I've learned one simple thing about reading science papers: Look at the figures first, because that's the DATA. And there aren't many figures in this! But:

1. This work shows 11.5% of female Canadian students are on SA!  That is simply incredible.

2. Currently, SB's are 65% of SA membership, --male-- SB's are 15% (that was a surprise to me!), sugar mommas are 1%, while SD's are 18%. So the all important SB/SD ratio is roughly 68/15= 4.5.  

3. The longitudinal data (ie, time dependent) shows an interesting trend. 205,400 SB's and 22,200 SD's in 2012, a ratio of  9.25, while in 2017 the SB's had increased to over 509,000, but the SD membership increased faster, to 115,000, the ratio fell to 4.5. So, it is still a buyers market, but it used to be even better.

Some of the general conclusions are interesting. The author emphasizes that SB's tend to define themselves as what they are NOT. "I'm not your girlfriend", "I'm not an escort", "I'm not a prostitute", "You're not my boyfriend", "I have my own life". They use euphemisms  to separate themselves from sex workers, and they play mind games with themselves to preserve that distinction. How many times have we all heard this? Interestingly, the mind games weaken their bargaining position because they are then forced to frame the relationship (at least partly) in traditional romantic/courtship terms rather than purely commercial/transactional terms, leading to a negotiation that favors the SD's. That rings true to me, for even the semi-pros I've encountered on SA still had some subconscious motivation to assert "I am not a prostitute".

The author should have interviewed some SD's! That is the major falling to this thesis; it only has half the story.

I know what you mean about the references but those are required in scholarly publications!  She addresses stereotypes as just that, which is better than the popular media.

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