Idea: . Book a room nearby (ideally one where you don't pay until you check in) and tell her to meet at a nearby Starbucks. Talk to her there and then play it by ear. If she seems cool, cancel the reservation (from the bathroom) and off to her pad. If you want to go BCD but have some doubts, off the hotel. If she's not throwing out any good vibes - bail before you provide any sugar.
The previous thread has me wondering about this. In all the years and dozens of SBs I've enjoyed, I've never encountered a SB who had a pimp, dangerous or otherwise. Is this a real thing, a real concern? I do know of one case when a SB's crazy ex came over late at night and beat up the guy she was in bed with. But the lesson there is to be very wary about letting her host. But an actual pimp? Never seen one.
I have not encountered any gorilla's in my adventures, but that's probably as much due to the level of vetting I do of POT SB's as it is the actually (probably?) relatively low number of SB's who actually are being pimped out. My experiences include SB's who strip and invite me to meet them at their club, who say they have escorted in the past and/or in other cities, and of course, semi-pros. . I do recall one experience I had while living in the Bay Area of Northern California several years ago. I found a 19-year old POT SB, connected with her, moved the chat to text and we agreed on a meet & greet. She told me she needed a ride and I agreed to meet her at a Starbucks near her. About an hour before the meet, she asked if it was ok for her "cousin" to ride in the car as well. She explained she wanted to feel safe, blah, blah, blah. I countered that I would meet her in the Starbucks 1st to chat, but her cousin was not welcome to sit in. End result, no meet. . I have also no experience meeting POT SB's in an open relationship. Not for lack of trying, it just hasn't clicked for me yet. Not sure if "open relationship" is code for pimp, BF, hubby, gay roomie, GF, or whatever. But that's probably a topic for another thread...
Yeah, probably enough material for a new thread but I'm just gonna add $.02 here. I have one SB now who I've been dating for a year and a half. She's the kind of realistic, no nonsense girl who is comfortable labeling her Sugar behavior as a type of sex work and has no qualms about it whatsoever. Very cool chick! She lives with her BF who knows about her activities and is cool with it. And as if that weren't enough, my wife knows all about it and she's cool with it, just as I am cool with my wife having a BF! So yeah, open relationships do exist and can work fine, as long as everyone is honest and realistic about it.
So why not ask SA to create a status called Polyamorous? . I've had my share of Poly SB's and it didn't go well. But her being poly wasn't really a problem. Her real issues were being an alcoholic, manic-depressive with trust issues... But that's a post for some other time.
I received a message from a pot SB. She wants to meet tomorrow. We negotiated a price. I offered to pick her up (she lost her license) or to get a hotel room. She lives about 30 minutes from me. She is pushing EXTREMELY hard to host at her house which is on a dead end street. My spidey senses tell me to pass.
Idea: . Book a room nearby (ideally one where you don't pay until you check in) and tell her to meet at a nearby Starbucks. Talk to her there and then play it by ear. If she seems cool, cancel the reservation (from the bathroom) and off to her pad. If you want to go BCD but have some doubts, off the hotel. If she's not throwing out any good vibes - bail before you provide any sugar.
I postponed the meeting until today. In the meantime we texted more and the vibe got better. She doesn’t have a drivers license so I agreed to pick her up but not go into the house to do so. She actually lives in a nice neighborhood. We went to lunch and the vibe stayed good so I cancelled the hotel room and we went back to her house. I see now why she wanted to host; she’s definitely a pro. She had a room in her house that was definitely her sex room. The bed was set up like an escort’s incall bed in a hotel. She had lube, condoms etc. on the dresser. She’s a TER 8 in looks but the performance was very lackluster and mechanical. I doubt that I will repeat. Thanks again for the advise.
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