We all know that what SBs list as their "Lifestyle Budget" is relatively meaningless. Not until conversations begin do you learn what "arrangement" is possible. But we can't help but be intrigued by those who say they are looking for "minimal." They are rare, but what are your experiences with these individuals? Is there another play going on? Often in this realm as in real life, you get what you pay for but every so often you find that rare diamond in the rough.
I've seen about 60-70% of "minimal" profiles in my area have something in the profile text that say's "platonic only" or "nothing sexual" or similar. I usually just pass on these. The remaining "minimal" profiles are generally either too fat or too old for me. But there are a few who occasionally show up that I pursue.
... a pretty simple 2K per month by saying "between minimal and practical" - she's my MBA I mentioned in a "SB's business model" thread. She was just looking for a little extra to help get past her MBA loans, and a grownup boyfriend with a pause button. I would put her in the diamond category definitely.
That's not a bad deal if it works for you. $2k/mo for 5 or 6 dates works out to $333-$400 per date. If she hosts and you get overnights occasionally, it's not bad. It is more than I pay on an gift per visit basis, but still, not too bad. My only criticism is that it ties you in to her and leaves little room for either of you to play with others. It created feelings of entitlement and obligation which can lead to resentment. I truly hope you continue to enjoy this arrangement within your SB. I wonder how long it will last though? For example, I have one SB I've been dating for over 2 years on the basis of $200 gift per visit. We're always happy to see each other. A big part of the reason is that we stop dating, sometimes for months at a time, when either one of us gets too busy with other things. But we always get back together again and have a great time. I don't think that would have been the case had I given her a monthly allowance, and then one of us wanted an escape clause!
Sure, I get that. Not everybody's a big slut like me. But I do think there's a common desire for sexual variety and that is at least part of the reason most of us are SDs. Even if you don't desire juggling multiple arrangements at the same time, sooner or later the desire for variety comes back, and you get bored with Miss Right Now and go searching again for Miss Right. I just think locking yourself into a monthly allowance deal makes it more likely that the current arrangement, no matter how sweet, will end sooner than it might have lasted had you done a gift per visit instead.
I still get around a bit. It's just that my MBA is in a place I travel to for maybe ten days a month, and really makes it a lot of fun to visit. I maybe see one other companion while I'm there, and the remainder are here. Works for me.
These days, I'm less interested in dining off the buffet than I once was.
Unfortunately it looks like your attempt to purchase VIP membership has failed due to your card being declined. Good news is that we have several other payment options that you could try.
VIP MEMBER
, you are now a VIP member!
We thank you for your purchase!
VIP MEMBER
, Thank you for becoming VIP member!
Membership should be activated shortly. You'll receive notification!
