sugardadaist asked: Are you married, and if so, is your wife aware?
As I've said here before, I am very happily married. My awesome wife and I have been poly/ENM for many years. We encourage each other to enjoy life to the fullest, including being intimate with others. She approves of my sugar dating and has met quite a few of my SBs! And I've met some of her bfs. It's wonderful and I recommend this lifestyle heartily! Anybody with questions, feel free to ask...nor would I be particularly pleased to meet her boyfriends (albeit she either wouldn't want one or I am living in a web of lies)
Thank you for taking the time to write this.
Sweetman and I have chatted via DM about this many times in the past. Like you I felt my wife would not be interested in that lifestyle.
I ended up outing myself through an unfortunate accident. While my wife was upset, angry, and ready to snuff out my life, I addressed the issue by letting her cry, vent her anger, and when she was done venting we discussed the issues that led to my actions. I was fortunate to come out the other side still married, still sugaring, and still have my best friend. She sure as hell doesn't want to sleep with me anymore but that was part of the issue to begin with. 😲🙄
I think it’s great that you have such a highly evolved relationship. I’m wondering how your wife finds her lovers. Thanks
...and thanks for the kind words Roberto!
Hi sweetman,
My wife has mentioned, on multiple occasions, that I am "free" to explore emotional and physical relationships with other women. We have a very stable marriage and care for each other deeply. She's working on an inner journey to get in touch with who she is (I know it sounds new-agey but I understand and support her).
The 3+ times she's mentioned this I didn't follow-up, but said I appreciated it and when I felt the need would talk to her about it. I sincerely think this is not a trap but if I proceed will be very strategic about it. She currently has no interest in relationships with other men...she truly wants to "go inside" and work on herself and that will take up a lot of emotional energy for her.
Do you have any tips or can share your experience on how this developed for you and your wife?
I do have tips and would be glad to share them, as well as how my marriage developed. When I have more time I'll try and answer.
If we believe this, will you PLEASE tell us another lie 
I wasn't with you when you wrote this WTF is wrong with you. I'm calling for help for you tomorrow 
You need help there's much more than your personality disorder. Then tonight you blew up my cell & I had to turn the ringer off