Interesting that you are asking - it seems that you do have SOME notion of potential wrongdoing or "using" in the matter. I would say that if you are prepared for the consequences and can take responsibility for your actions, then what's to stop you from going out with her just to get to her friends? Not me. You'll be showing your true colors sooner or later and it may turn out to be a lesson learned for the both of you, considering the likelihood of an emotional fallout - NO ONE likes being taken advantage of, or at least perceiving that such an advantage has been taken.
Not the moralist police here - you be a big boy now; go and reflect on your decision, stick by it and stay responsible for your actions,
So I know this girl who I am cool with, get along fine and joke around.i am not attracted to her but I am 100% certain she likes me.she is a cool chick but unfortunately for me(?) I am pretty shallow and to this day and age its all about looks with me(she is pretty in that she looks cute even without makeup on, and looks like she has a thin, good body underneath her clothes) but for some reason I just ain't feeling her as a girl I would date. Onto the question, I met some of her friends and they are smoking hot. Would it be wrong to go out with this girl just to get at her friends? I wouldn't wanna use her, and obviously I would treat her good on said outings, but I know there is nothing there. This its the first time I would ever be doing something like this so just looking for some input.
Interesting that you are asking - it seems that you do have SOME notion of potential wrongdoing or "using" in the matter. I would say that if you are prepared for the consequences and can take responsibility for your actions, then what's to stop you from going out with her just to get to her friends? Not me. You'll be showing your true colors sooner or later and it may turn out to be a lesson learned for the both of you, considering the likelihood of an emotional fallout - NO ONE likes being taken advantage of, or at least perceiving that such an advantage has been taken.
Not the moralist police here - you be a big boy now; go and reflect on your decision, stick by it and stay responsible for your actions,
..."I met some of her friends and they are smoking hot"...
T.I.P: That very statement from your post, could be the key to the lesson that you will be learning if you "use" her to get to her friends. It sounds like you have no issues "hanging out" with a girl whom as you described, not to be hot enough for your taste buds (I am paraphrasing) Well, no one is forcing you to date whom does not turn you on, but to use the proverbial cow to get to the proverbial calves, is not such a grand idea.
Question is, do you foresee having issues on your own in approaching hot women and is that why you need this "conduit" to facilitate the potential hook-ups for you? (indirectly of course, since she is going to be initially unaware of it) Or is it just too easy to tap into her resources of hot girl friends, instead of the more arduous task of hitting up on the hot women who you'll see at the mall, the coffee shop, bars, etc? If this is the case, you need to condition yourself to be able to meet hot women on your own, without being a user and abuser of other women, using the cow to calf analogy!
Nothing wrong with you going after her friends, as long as you do not lead her down the garden path to exploit her with the potential of causing her some lingering emotional damage. If you are only interested in her friends, man up and be definitive with her and let her know that when in comes to a friendship with her, your feelings are purely platonic. You'll be foolish to let her know from the outset that you are very interested in her hot friends akin to shooting yourself in the foot, but when she accepts you as a platonic friend, then there is nothing wrong with you courting her hotter friends. Exercising honesty is a crap shoot in this case, but if you hit the right dice combo, it could yield you even greater dividends and be like the gift which keeps giving
Flirting is acceptable. Andif you flirt enough and be friends, she gets to introduce you to her friends, then go with her friends. After all, you just flirted and didn't make her your girlfriend.
...if you use her to get to them. Let's not forget that women are intelligent creatures and tend to see through this kind of thing. As others have stated, keep hanging out as "buds" to get to know her friends better. On the other hand if the clique is composed of treacherous catty backstabbing types, ie: frenemies, you can conquer one after another like Atilla the Hun and move on once you are bored of it.
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