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Re: Just curious, how old are you? Thanks !
herbtcat 6 Reviews 94 reads
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Closer to 60 than 50.

sweetman989 reads

Sometimes I really wonder what some of these women are thinking.  This morning I was favorited by a 35 yo woman who lives 1500 miles from me.  Ok, fine.  So  then I visited her profile and read this:

"Everybody makes mistakes and no one is 100% perfect. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, but if the same pattern keeps emerging, it's over. I do not want to meet someone who may think of taking advantage of me or lie to me and cheat on me under false pretenses, I do never lie, deceive, play games or cheat in my life and never wants to be cheated, deceive, lie or have been playing games with in my life."

This is one of the most negative depressing profiles I've ever read.  Who does she think is going to find her appealing after reading this?  I guess she's had some bad experiences and some bad people in her life, understandable.  By age 35 we all had our share of disappointments.  But there's a big difference between avoiding a bad guy and attracting a good guy!   Who does she think she's going to attract with that approach? Idk, I guess I'm just ranting today.

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herbtcat108 reads

I've seen it way too many times and in many US marketplaces. By the time a POT has 10-15+ years of relationship road wear on them they often have just accumulated too much baggage to be a viable SB.  This is especially true for divorced POT's, and even more so if they also have kids.  
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The only time I ever walked out on a M&G dinner happened when I decided to meet a 40 year old who was super hot, and who's profile suggested she was free-spirited and poly. Well.... no. Within about 8 minutes of sitting down at the table she started "should-ing" on me. That's not a typo.  "You should do this..." "you should do that..." blah, blah, blah... Then the "baggage" phase started... Divorced, 2 adult kids who don't respect her, in-laws who want to take her house, old BF that cheated, BMW needs repairs, 1 teen age kid needs a man to show discipline...".  I realized what she was really looking for was 1-someone to mother and 2-someone to be a father to her disaster of a kid. Nope!  
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I never made it to the next phase - I excused myself to go pee, found the waitress in the back and paid for dinner then slipped out the back. She never contacted me... I'm guessing I wasn't her first "jumper".  
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And as to POT's 1,500 miles away, other than scammers, I just do not understand how a "legit" POT would think that some old guy with a 7-figure net worth would think that it's a good investment to talk to her, let alone spend on travel to/from her location.  
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Since I live in a market that is super-saturated with POT's between 18 and 30, I set my search filters for under 31, slim/athletic, non-smoker, and 10 miles or less from me. Even with all those settings, I still see about 780 profile come up, and at least 250 of those have been online in the last 7 days.
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sweetman113 reads

I agree totally that by the time they reach a certain age a lot of baggage has accumulated, and most of it is challenging to deal with to say the least.  But it's still a mystery as to why some react better than others.  I dated one 36yo a couple years ago (I know, an "old lady" by my usual standards) who had everything wrong you could imagine in her life.  Worthless ex husband, 3 kids, 2 her own, one rescued from her addict sister, plus Mom living with them and this SB was the sole means of support for the 5 of them. Working 2 jobs, trying to get by.  But she was very realistic about it, never complained or laid any trips on me about it, was content with $200 per visit, never asked for more, always showed up exactly on time, had a smoking hot body that could honestly have passed for a decade younger, and enjoyed a good fuck as much as I did.  I still have so much affection and respect for her knowing how well she was coping with a difficult life.  Some people are crushed by adversity, some rise to the challenges.

But like you I only search for the younger set.  My parameters go 18-35, but honestly I should probably drop that upper limit to 30 or even 29.  I need to set the distance to 100 miles otherwise I get nearly no hits, but with a100 mile radius I am seeing about 1550 hits.  Of those, nearly 200 were online in the past 7 days. That's only 13% of the total, compared to your 32%, but it's still a good pool to go swimming in!

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herbtcat95 reads

Closer to 60 than 50.

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sweetman92 reads

If the question was meant for me, I'm 73!

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hobby4894 reads

You should think about what we are dealing with.  We are willing to pay for a younger, tighter, prettier woman.  The woman on the other hand are willing to collect pay for being with an older, heavier, less desirable man.  They are willing to sell their body and some dignity for cash.  Whether they are a pro or SB.  Same thing, I think they all are missing a few screws and have some more loose.  

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lester_prairie88 reads

Wait, what?  Why is having sex undignified???   Are people on fuckboards still ashamed of sex???  

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hobby4889 reads

Haha!!!  The fact that in my younger years I never needed to pay for it, I had game and I played it well.  My drive isn’t any less but as you age the game retires you.  By then we should have a budget to support our separate life from the wife ways.  I didn’t say we’re not dignified, but when a girl sells her body to us , I’d say she gives up some dignity. I also think she’s going to be a little nuts.  

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GaGambler116 reads

When I was young and I'd see a young hottie with some old guy I used to think to myself "What the fuck is SHE doing with HIM?"  

 
Now that I am that old guy I know exactly what she was doing with him. lol

 
Just what's nuts about a younger woman being with an older guy that gives her everything that the young guys can't or won't give her?

 
BTW there is a big difference between "paying for it" and "having to" pay for it. I saw my first hooker at 15, I've been seeing hookers interspersed with hookups, GF's and even a wife some twenty five years ago. I can still get pussy the old fashioned way, but I can't get it that way anywhere near as easily or as often as I can by paying for it. I don't see the girls I see giving up any dignity at all.  I have had a couple of SB's say that they wouldn't be seen out in public with me if I looked my age and if they thought we would look out of place together. So I guess some girls only see it as losing their dignity if they are with an OTHFG (Over The Hill Fat Guy) lol

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herbtcat109 reads

I suspect that any SD that has at least 2-3 SB's in their rotation has at least one who just prefers to bang and go. And that is AWESOME! We can get food, cars and all sorts of products delivered to our doors today with a click on an app, so why not order up some pussy on demand?  
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But as an OTHFG I do have one SB that refuses to be seen outside with me, though she doesn't mind staying overnight, and in a few cases for 4-7 days at my place when she's in town (free room and board for her, frequent shower-fresh pussy for me. And yes, when I let her stay at my place for free, she saves about $100-$200 a day on lodging costs, so... saddling up with Daddy for no allowance is her way of saying thanks.). But I digress... we had a long chat about why she won't go out in public and here's her rational;  it's not that she's worried about what people will think of her, she doesn't live in LA (yet). She's worried for me. Why? She's black, 4'11", and 93 lbs, and although she is 24 (I've seen both of her passports - she has dual US-CA citizenship), she looks much younger. She's worried that if we go out together in public and especially if we are affectionate with each other, some one will call the cops to report me for (the "P" word).  
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I do not really agree about the risk, as it's easy enough to show LE her ID. I certainly would not be embarrassed. In fact I'd love to see the look on someone's face when they see me pinned to a solid-gold hottie! Now, perhaps she's lying and really can't stand the idea of hanging in public with an old fat guy.  But I do appreciate her presumed POV.  
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So in my experiences, an SB get's as much dignity as she wants for accomplishing some of her goals through Sugar. And I hopefully add to that by helping her achieve those goals and treating her and her accomplishments with respect and support.  Lesson: Don't be a dick and you won't be seen as a dignity-stealing dick.  
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The Cat

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sweetman112 reads

There's always good info advice and stories in your posts, thanks!  OK so first of all, I truly am amazed when I get special delivery pussy, delivered fresh right to my door.  As I did this very afternoon!  My stunning 22yo sweety drove 50 miles to visit me at home, and OMFG did she deliver the goods!  After the fireworks when I told her how lucky I am she said she's the lucky one, she can't believe a man like me would want to give pleasure to a girl like her.  Holy crap I'm going to have a swelled head for a week on that one.  Both heads actually.

 As for your petite hottie, while her explanation is no doubt truthful, I think there may be more to it. Recent current events have made it painfully clear that black people view encounters with LE very differently, and with damn good reason.   Do you watch Late Night with Seth Meyers?  For the past 3 nights he's opened the show with a talk from his charming black writer Amber.  She spoke about instances in which she had encounters with cops, how she felt about it and it was really eye opening. Not sure where/if you can find it online but very worth watching.  So your SB probably has learned the hard way to do nothing that could possibly attract LE.  Just not worth it.  Next time you see her, give her an extra hug for me, tell her we all are hoping some real and meaningful change comes from these current events.

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RCShobby112 reads

Honestly, I don't mind the +30 ladies. Yes, they might have more issues, but I'm pretty clear about my boundaries. They also have lots of experience in the bedroom. I have talked to many younger ladies but nothing has come to fruition, so far.

I don't invest a lot of time in anyone further away than 50 miles, not unless she is willing to come to me. One woman was willing but she was a little too zealous. My spidey-senses were tingling, so I declined.

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Hobbyist195897 reads

I am of a certain age (solidly Boomer) and personally prefer 30 somethings and even early 40s as my sweet spot. Yet I have had much more success with the early to mid 20s range. I tend to agree with those who say the older they are the more issues they have which is sad.

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liqq6393 reads

...that the OP wishes to start a conversation, and that's fine.  I'm trying though, to get a handle on why anyone with even the least bit of experience in the sugar bowl would even bother to check out the profile of someone so far away who favorites them.  Mostly I think these long distance favs are bots.  It's always amazing to me how quickly those favs start to hit.  I mean like in minutes after logging on.  And of course, if you look, you'll find that she/he/it never viewed your profile.  Delete, hide, focus on who's within an hour or less, or in that other city where I play when I'm there.  That's what I do.  Statistics from personal experience say 63% of the SB I've dated BCD had something going on (BSC) that made them undesirable as repeats.  And they can't hold back, having to spill it all out.  The remaining 37% were emotionally healthy women, who were a delight to be with, with whom I repeated multiple times,  and whom I've missed once they moved on.  It's interesting too, how different the experience of sleeping with an emotionally healthy women is from sleeping with one who's not.  The age range of SB's I've dated is late 30's into early 60's.  The emotionally healthy ones were also the oldest.  

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sweetman84 reads

Yes, as the OP I wanted to start a conversation.  However, even though I have many years experience as a SD I'm still learning things. One think you said which I had never thought of before was the use of Bots. I assume you mean a program designed to identify when a ASD logs on and immediately send that person a favorite or a message.  Is that even possible?  I am not computer savvy enough to judge.  And you are correct, most of the time those favorites appeared without ever having viewed my profile.  I just figured they had a shotgun approach and were favoriting everything, never occurred to me a bot program could be involved.  I do click on most of those just to see their pictures and I enjoy viewing different profiles, even if they are far away from me geographically.

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