The Erotic Highway

Re: I did want to ask...
lester_prairie 12 Reviews 84 reads
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I've met at least one nice catch off Secret Benefits.  You pay for each initial contact.  So you don't want to send notes to everyone.  You have to be selective.

I had my 1st SA date last night. 44, Latina, curves to die for with a gregarious personality and a mouth like velvet. I'm a boob guy and she is blessed. She was delightful, playful, affectionate and an amazing romp in the bed. The other good news is that she lives less than 2 miles from me.

I wasn't sure I was going to go through with the date as I really wanted someone younger but experience has its advantages AND who's to say that I can't line up some young'ns?

Slept like a baby afterwards...until next time.

I know there are a lot of guys here that only like 'em young.  But youth doesn't have a particularly strong appeal to me.  By that I mean I like young ones too, but not more so than mature ladies.  

If you had a great time, what else is important?

 
I see younger women "almost" exclusively, but one of my best times in the Sugar Bowl was with a 40ish white woman. The exact demographic I make fun of all the time. lol She was GREAT, and I am not ashamed to admit, but let's keep it just between you and me anyhow. I would hate people to think that I too would fuck an "old broad" lol

 
BTW, congrats on breaking your SA cherry, lets hope its the first of many.

You've made your first conversion from POT to BCD and had a great experience doing it.  I won't bash you for banging someone's grandmother (other that that :p. If you are happy and your junk is happy, then it's time to wash, dry, repeat - as long as you're sure she's not stealing your Poligrip. :p  
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Some advice to consider now that you have fully entered the sugar bowl:  
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1. No arrangement lasts forever. This is, by definition, an NSA deal. That means either of you can, and ultimately will, walk away. Having said that, I've had at least 3 arrangements that lasted over 2 years. And I've had countless (several dozen?) that lasted one to 4 dates. Don't get so involved with this one that you lose your objectivity or feel like you are too invested in her to ignore problems that arise.  There a THOUSANDS of profiles in your area. Any SB can be, and eventually will be, replaced.  
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2. With #1 in mind, I'll steal a line from Alec Baldwin in Glengarry Glenn Ross: "ABC. A-Always, B-Be, C-Closing." Even if you do not want to build a "rotation" of multiple SB's - and it's ok to do that or not - if (when) it ends with her you can have alternates lined up that can pick up the open slots on your penis schedule. Keep skimming profiles, keep messaging or responding to messages and, as said here often, never burn bridges. You can decline to meet, decline an offer, decline outrageous requests without being a dick. Niceness is not weakness. And it will pay off in the future.  
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3. Make sure you really understand your budget and the "all in" costs of an arrangement. Your budget should include allowance PLUS the per-date costs of dinners, travel/hotel/parking, movies/shopping/presents/etc., and the ongoing costs of support tools like a burner phone or whatever you use to live in the bowl that is not already part of your monthly nut (no pun intended). If you don't really plan your budget well, you could find yourself making really stupid decisions like paying for sugar instead of a car payment.  When that happens, you'll feel like an idiot when your car is repossessed and you could have avoided that by buying a bottle of lube for $9.99 instead of spending $375 on a sugar date.  Just saying...  
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4. This is not a contest - although if it was then GaGa, Sweetman, and I would be Top 3 :p - so don't feel like you need to rack up conquests with younger, hotter, freakier, cheaper SB's to show you are top Alpha SD. There is a time and place for that and it's called College.  
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Now off you go, Padawan. Live your Sugar dreams and have fun! Because...
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Life is good.
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The Cat

Are there other reputable SB sites that I might want to look at or is it best to stick with one?

I’ve been banned from SA so now I’m on Sugar Daddy Meet.  It’s given me a couple hotties, but it’s not the same.  Sorta like buying the generic or store brand corn flakes.  

I've met at least one nice catch off Secret Benefits.  You pay for each initial contact.  So you don't want to send notes to everyone.  You have to be selective.

I have been on SA for over 6 years, and was on their sister site, WhatsYourPrice for a few years before that.  
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Tried SDForme, Secretbenefits, SugarBook, MissTravel, and others along the way and, IMHO, they all are at best flawed, and at worst, outright scams.  
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The key to not getting banned from SA is to remember and follow the TOS. In your profile, pics and messages sent never say or imply anything that can be even loosely interpreted as offering quid pro quo ("this for that"). Stay away from any overtly sexual terms, especially those used to talk about, or to, a hooker (p4p, FS, BBBJ, etc.). Even terms like "session," "booking,"  "rate/price/menu" (when referring to what she will/will not do) are bad ideas. Only say things you would say on a  civilian dating site. Then, if interested, move the convo off the site to any agreeable platform like text, whatsapp, skype, etc.  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

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