So on a lark, I put up a profile up on SA.  Just to understand what is out there.  Have been in dialog with just one POT SB, so far.  In spite of me saying that after one month my profile will be down, and I won’t be going any further.  After she explained her monthly allowance needs.   This girl is particularly charming, and she talked me into a M&G.  She must think she has a chance of going for the close.   I have ignored every other message.    

Most all you guys explain that you do pay-per-visit, which is at odds with what all these SB’s say they want.  

Anyone here do monthly, or have any experience with it?

I have never done it, but I can’t imagine it being successful.  Either you will feel you’re not getting enough or she will feel she’s giving too much.  It might work for 1 month, but not thereafter.

Scary.  So you give her $1000 a month with the terms you see her 4-5 times per month.  You pay her, see her that day / night whatever and it’s good.  Set up something for the next week....then something comes up can’t meet.  Ok you understand and secure a date for a few days later.  Nuts, Aunt Flo shows up, well damn.   Set up for another week later, crickets.  See the pattern?  PPM works.  Monthly seems to risky.

This should only be considered when there’s lots and lots of sex and a real relationship.  I’ve paid rent for sugar babies or bought them designer bags, etc. but only for the girls I absolutely trust and want to see as much as possible. This is nice because it’s very non transactional. If I sense things are going south, I just start distancing myself.  With my current favorite, we’ve had way too much sex and are too close to be putting a dollar value on each bang and she definitely doesn’t have the math skills or even the desire to keep track of that.  There were a couple of months where I barely gave her anything but the food we ate together. There were also months where I blew 3-4K on her.  

I can’t imagine having a contract like monthly arrangement where I pay up at he beginning of each month to see her a fixed number of times. That’s dumb, IMO because it offers no advantage over PPM and puts you at risk.

is a better term, the PPM is frowned on by SA, denotes the use of an escort. SB's may say they want monthly allowance, toeing the SA line, but haven't found one that will turn down cash in hand.

I've found they like the term allowance for PPM
For some reason it sits better with them
Meeting a 32 yo bartender this week.
She was skittish until I said allowance.

Keep in mind, ladies are on there to still make money. So that's their goal. It's no different than here, only the terms are and how it's played.  

If you don't want to talk money which some simply don't get and you can tell usually through first contact, my suggestion is to head to tinder to find a fling for free. No problem on that site for those who are into that sort of thing lol

but, I always tell the SB we will begin with ppm for at least the first month or two until a pattern of regularity and trust has established.  So far, none...I mean NONE has advanced past the two month transition point.  By that, I mean either we drifted apart (the majority) or just decided to leave it at an indefinite ppm since our schedules/interest never meshed enough.

I love the nontransactional part of a monthly allowance, and the ladies seem to really warm up to the idea...I had a couple actually cry when I told them of my plans and they mentioned how past arrangements made them feel like hookers.

One thing which is important though, is that the risk of getting cheated out of the monthly payment actually is probably secondary to the risk that (as others have mentioned) a sense of entitlement/obligation develops which just adds stress to the overall arrangement.

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But it's a rare exception, not the rule.  
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I provide a monthly allowance to the #1 SB in my rotation. I set up an automatic monthly payment to cover about 75% of her rent. Plus I got her a debit card attached to a bank account where I can deposit some funds (usually $200 or less) from time to time (once or maybe twice a month) to let her buy gas or small items. But that didn't happen until we had 8 or 9 months of consistent history together, developed a LOT of trust, and we were VERY transparent about what each of us would put into and get out of the arrangement. This has worked well for both us over the last year. The key was that I stated a max budget for allowance and I refuse to spend over that - unless I decide I want to (and if she asks, I never want to).  She has tested this more than once. I held my ground, she hints at bailing. I hold the door open and say "bon voyage!" She apologizes and quietly shuts the door with her still inside and getting naked (Is it just me, or are angry BBBJ-CIM-WS-NQNS's just the best?). Wash, rinse, repeat about 3 times. Then she settled in for the ride.  
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Observations:  
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I don't cover all her rent, but it's enough that she can't ignore me for long without risking being evicted. We average seeing each other about 1.5 times a week. That's good for me as I can still schedule one or two additional SB's for BCD each week. And it's good for her as she works part time (trying to get more hours) and if she needs additional cash beyond my allowance, she has the time to get it any way she wants (we are not exclusive).  
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So she remains dependent on me for her allowance, and I'm actually spending less on her than I would if we were still doing PPM.  Note: I have trained her off making excited requests for extra cash for tickets to her favorite singer or sports teams, let alone expensive bling like designer purses and shoes. If she wants any of that luxury crap, she needs to get it funded somewhere else, although I do occasionally buy her presents if/when I feel like it.  And I will help her with key necessities on occasion, like critical car repair (if she can't drive she can't work and she can't come to my place to swallow a load!) or helping her find new health coverage as she ages-out of her mothers' plan.  
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I realize she could replace me by finding some SD who is actually stupid rich or just stupid (see what I did there?), but so far that hasn't happened as far as I know. She tells me she has had larger offers,  but the SD was a jerk, or wanted some outrageous time commitments, or asked for certain activities she just won't do. Lesson: It pays to be a gentleman who treats SB's with respect and kindness. Not a pussy! Just not a dick.  Her profile on SA seems to fluctuate between active and inactive every two or three weeks, so I assume she is occasionally going back for new M&G's/auditions (as am I).  
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The remaining SB's on my active list (about 4), and "inactive-reserve" list (about 7) are all PPM.  And if you just did the math you will see that I have a total of 12 SB's a phone call or text away from me. That's just within a 40 mile/one-hour drive radius in Los Angeles. There are others in San Jose, Austin, Omaha, and Baltimore where I occasionally have business travel.  
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Life is good.

The key to how well your monthly allowance scheme works with your #1 SB is the trust you have developed over time, plus the consistency of your visits with her. (plus that you know how to stay strong when she wants to press you for more!) I really admire both of those things and can see how the regular allowance has become really important to her.  So, Props to you for making it work.

I have 2 SB's vying in my own mind for my #1 SB label.  One I've been dating for over a year, the other for 2 years.  But neither has been as consistent as you report.  In fact, both have disappeared on me, sometimes for months at a time, when their lives became too busy or crazy, before returning and picking up where we left off.  So I've never actually even tried a monthly allowance with any SB.

On the rare occasions that I have advanced money for special purposes to a SB, ot's been as a loan with the promise of being paid back over time. It has never worked out.  One simply ghosted.  One got so deeply stressed financially that there's no point in asking.  Can't squeeze blood from a turnip, as the old saying goes.  So I continue to date her and give her our regular gift per visit, and maybe when she gets a job she can accept less per visit to reimburse me.  I'm not holding my breath.  And another simply is on hiatus and I can't say when she'll start paying me back if ever.  

So for me, a simple gift per visit (GPV) plan is really the best.  In practice in varies a lot.  One SB who would otherwise be on my A list is rarely available and is totally flaky about returning messages.  We always have a great time and I know she can use the money, but she's really hard to schedule and pin down. With certain other SB's, GPV actually enhances the arrangement.  I have one on my B list who has had not merely assholes in her life, but genuinely abusive men.  So she thinks I'm something special because I admire and respect her. She often asks me for another date because she knows that's a great way to get some money and have a good time. I wind up visiting her more often than the others.  It's always wonderful to have a lovely young woman pursuing you!

I know a woman in LA with whom I would have happily set up a monthly allowance, but she didn't want anything apart from PPM because she didn't want to feel obligated or have to keep a mental ledger or anything.

I wonder how common abuse is.  Just had my very first M&G, and she told me that she took a two-year time out, after she had her ribs broken, and ended up in the hospital, from a guy she met on SA.   Yikes. Needless to say, she is being pretty careful, this time around. Maybe there is something to this SA stuff, as she is pretty damn intriguing.  

Been in The Bowl a long time and learned from the wise men on this forum.  Providing a monthly allowance depends on what you want from your SB and from The Bowl.  For me, I absolutely do not endorse monthly allowances as I prefer to have a rotation of 3-5 SB's that I see solely based on my schedule.  A monthly financial commitment implies either an obligation for a certain number of visits/month or deep pockets.  I make this known up front to all POT SB's.

My current #1 SB is awesome on all levels has requested that I pay her rent in exchange for unlimited visits.  I declined because that is not the essence of what I want.  Perfectly happy with her rocking my world once or twice per month.  The break even on a monthly allowance (her rent payment) would be 3 visits/month.  That number changes our entire dynamic.

I envy you guys that find the time to have a rotation.  I am trying to figure out if have the bandwidth to even handle one.  

I did have a rotation of three in the fall, or really only two, since the third only rocked my world for about 3-4 weeks from October 15 onward.  

Now, my #1 SB wants see my about two times per week, and the sex at least one of those dates, if not both, satisfies my lust. I just don't see how I can, or should want, to see more SBs, given that I am also seeing two peers for regular dates as well.  

There are only so many hours in a day, and I have lots of other things to do, not the least of which is to get the exercise that keeps me fit and more attractive to a POT SB!!  Just do not see how I could afford and use a rotations of five to six!!

From the perspectives of time, finances, desires and motivations, everyone's bandwidth is different.  Find your own sweet spot and enjoy.  The constant churn of new SB's is indeed time consuming.  That is partly why I've settled on a rotation that is manageable for me.  They all want more time, but are not willing to walk away and go back into the Bowl to look for a better offer.

Like you, I have a busy career; work out 3-4 days weekly (no one misses me at 4:30 AM); and have an extremely active personal and social life.  Hence, I fit the SB's in on a schedule that works for me.

Managing schedules is the hardest part.  SB's that work and go to school have busy schedules to match.  Also single mothers of very young children are dependent on a babysitter.  I host, and try to find SB's that are good with meeting only once a month.  Seeing a new SB today that does not drive, but lives alone and can host.  Not a bad drive for me. I'll see how that works out.

Which ever one you tire with just kick her over to me.  I think we are both living close enough to each other that they wouldn't know the difference in getting to my place versus yours.  I'd love to have a young college athlete take me for a ride. lol