Re: Help for a Shy Guy

Dear TestTheWaters,

It should come as no surprise to those who are familiar with my advice-giving that I am no fan of FBSM, and a big fan of pricey, well-reviewed, stunning and sophisticated providers - for multiple hour blowout sessions . After all, you wouldn't go to Target to get merchandise from Saks Fifth Avenue, would you?

I'm so crazy that I believe you get what you pay for. If you book an entire evening with a well-reviewed, worldly, elegant LADY, there's no way that she will ignore your caveat about being a shy guy and wanting some direction. She will do exactly what you have requested - she'll teach you and she'll make sure you know what you're doing before the evening is over. Another avenue is to book with a porn star if you really want to learn some new tricks. Of course that's not cheap either, but again, if you want an expert, that's what you may have to do.

My caveat to you is that if you are a shy guy and do not EMPHASIZE that you want to learn something new, there may be some loss in transmission and therefore communication. You may think that you're stating your case, while the lady hears something completely different - or nothing at all.  Sometimes these things are not so well translated in an email, but rather need to be discussed in person. And that's where I think that a sophisticated and experienced provider will be much more solicitous of your request - particularly if it's at least a 2 hour appointment that allows for relaxation, a slow initiation, some fireworks and then a nice cooldown with maybe a second go around involving more invention and possibly gymnastics.

Just my opinion,
The Love Goddess

I think tantra would be perfect for you if you are into massage in the first place.

Many tantra will do a whole range of erotic services, but they are often very empathetic and therefore concentrate on drawing you out and into the erotic encounter in a way that will help your self-esteem.

Below is a site where you can contact tantricas all over the country and it has a lot of source material about tantra.

Read it and see if it sounds right for you.

Post a message on your local board asking for recommends! Say what you're looking for. Plenty of us share your temperament.

-tessen

I sympathize...  after some mistakes, I found a FMSM practitioner who enjoys her work & allows "extras".  As such we evolved over a year or so to a FS situation.  You have got to learn to be assertive.  Read the reviews & see ladies who allow more extras.  If you read her reviews, you'll know what is allowed!  
I enjoy FBSM but it is basically selfish, all about MY pleasure.  Sometimes I'll put a hand or leg to the edge of the table.  I will whisper "I like to feel your essance" (really just her warmth & softness.  Alternatively, I may start by whispering can I touch you, or can I kiss your xxxxxxs.  Without being seriously pushy, a woman will guide you where she's comfortable going.  But you have to start.  Don't wait until the session is almost over!

I've never told this to anyone before but you need to step up enough for her to guide your forward.  
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