This one just favorited me.  If her sad story is true, it's a pretty dismal commentary on how badly some men treat some women.  But damn, she's looking for help in the wrong place.  Several of us have posted train wreck stories here recently, and if y'all enjoy reading them, then great.  But if there's a consensus that it's too depressing we should agree to cease and desist.  So, come on with your feedback if you feel so inclined.

About Me

Hi. How are you? I have decided to try this website out. Although I do understand the gist of it, I would like to express that I am someone with standards and I do thrive off of respect and boundaries.  

I was a little skeptical about how I was going to approach this but here goes nothing.  

My name is Tamera. I have two adopted children from my previous situation. My ex cheated on me, beat me, sometimes even took advantage of me..either while drunk or sober. I have always been a loyal woman but I was loyal to the ideas of him.  

This man ruined me and my soul. Left me for another woman. Physically took my stuff and packed it with the kids and put me out. As of last week I have been living in the car that he pays for.  

Before you ask, no I don’t have any family. I wrapped my life in him for 12 years but that’s another story.  

I love my children and I would do anything for them.  

I could go more in depth with this. I really could. I just need some conversation.  

Look forward to talking with you.

FYI: Since it seems as though no one understands let me make it clear! I have 2 children ! TWO! My ex put me OUT along with MY CHILDREN! I took the car and RAN! I was BASED in Austin/Dallas but he continued to THREATEN ME! I am looking for someone who UNDERSTANDS! SOMEONE EMPATHETIC!!!
Seeking
Active lifestyle
Discretion
Flexible schedule
Investor
Luxury lifestyle
Mentorship
All ethnicities

I am seeking someone who knows the value of a woman. I have been through so many hardships and they are still continuing. I need someone who is going to take the time to understand my needs. I’m sure you have read my about me so I gave you some type of insight on my life. I just need a real man. I don’t even know what that is anymore but I know what I would like. Being abused for so long you lose yourself.  

Please know, I’m not interested in any of the ppm’s or dinner dates. I have children. Who is going to watch the them? They are my first priority!! I need someone who will understand that.

... but why doesn't she contact the police or an attorney?  

 
And while I'm thinking about, why is SA (presumably) allowing these to go live? Why aren't they reporting these to local authorities as part of their effort to appear to distance themselves from P4P activities?  They read and must approve every new SB profile before it can go live. In my "research" SB profile. I've had even small text changes that might be stretched with  a LOT of effort as an offer of P4P be rejected immediately.  So some Seeking employee is actively reading SB profiles.  

 
But your instinct to pass and NEVER contact is spot on, Papa Sweet! As always.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

These are all good questions, and ones I've asked myself.  Along with why doesn't she find a women's shelter that can at least give her a roof over her head while she sorts things out. But your question about SA's presumed oversight is very interesting.  I used to think that they required proof of age, at the very least, before approving a young SB's profile.  But I no longer think they are vigilant about this so I ALWAYS insist on checking a SB's ID.  And as for the one I posted, it can't be construed to be a legitimate sugar baby seeking an arrangement at all, can it!

I'd be surprised if most of these are just the fruit of some very creative writing in an attempt to find some soft touches among us.

Some are scams.  But there are a lot of women out there in dire financial straits -- a common theme being dysfunctional families.  I know two SB's who are now essentially homeless.  Failed families.

I once met a woman who started on SA in her mid-teens. She also got her younger sister to join SA while she was underage. I had no reason to disbelieve her. Presumably they both had fake IDs if SA checked at all.  

She was a college junior when I met her, so I felt that she was safely legal and I didn't check her ID. In any case, it was good enough that she had no trouble getting served alcohol in restaurants where they did ask for her ID. I assume that waitresses in high-end restaurants are better at spotting a fake ID than I am.

What time does the Office of the Justice of the Peace open tomorrow morning, and how much is a marriage license?

...we can or should try one or both of the following approaches to this:  

 
1. Report the profile to the site. NOT as a TOS violation or potential scammer, but to ask them to connect the poster with local help like a battered-spouse shelter or free legal aid. It seems they have a vested interest in helping these women out (assuming these stories are true) and off the site, and then guiding each person who is lost and desperate to appropriate resources where they can get help. As I think about this, it seems to me that just as SA doesn't want a reputation as a UTR hooker site, they also do not want a reputation as a battered-spouse, homeless woman,  employed single mothers' last resort. As POT SD's, if we were to see a higher percentage of these, say even more than we see obvious scammers, we'd start looking at other sugar sites pretty fast.

 
2. Message the POT ourselves with similar information, for the same reasons.  

 
Honestly, I'm not fond of either. I'd prefer to stay far away from any interaction with site admin. Why ask for scrutiny from these guys?  And once a POT SD contacts one of these POT SB's they may well end up "adopting" that person in all the un-sugar like ways you can imagine. I mean would any of us ACTUALLY try to take one of these BCD, knowing their situation?  I don't think so.. at least none of the posters to THIS board.  No, I just want to connect with viable POT's and enjoy the sugar bowl.  But the fact that we are now posting these  sad stories suggests they are appearing at an increasing rate.  

 
Thoughts?  

 

Life is good

 
The Cat

She favorited me, from a small city in the east. I will allow her profile to speak for itself. How can she possibly think this presents her as an attractive choice?

Looking For
Men / Women(ages 35 - 60+)
Ethnicity
White / Caucasian
Children
0
Education
Some College
Smokes
Non Smoker
Body Type
Full / Overweight
Occupation Industry
-
Drinks
Social Drinker
Height
5'5"
Relationship
Single
About Me
I've never done this. I'm not really good at this. I'm socially awkward, asexual, a nerd, and having a shit year. (isn't everyone?) A friend suggested I check this out, so I am. DND, syfy, fantasy, and Marvel are my jam. Clearly I like food, korean food is my favorite. I've never been out of the country, hope to one day. I love animals, have 1, very vocal/anxious/needy cat. Recently moved to Scranton from Austin TX. Being new in an area during a pandemic is a nightmare.
Seeking
Attentive
Open relationship
Platonic
A friend who can be there. I don't have anyone to really talk to right now. Someone who doesn't mind helping financially is a huge bonus. But honestly being able to not feel like a burden to someone is what I want.

I think contacting the site for anything out of the ordinary will get you branded as a nuisance.  No good deed goes unpunished,