Tough call.  Been with #1 for quite a while.  She has never been on time (are any), but lately getting later and later meeting times and earlier and earlier leave times.

The rotation can handle a defection, but #1?

This is tough.  I know it always ends, but ugh.

If you are not getting enough sex for your money's worth, it's time to move on.

This is part of the reality.  

 
Over time, circumstances change; sometimes for her, sometimes for you, sometimes for both.  

 
Rather than looking at what you are losing, look at what you gained.  You had lots of great sex, you had lots of fun and you didn't have to give her half of your shit in a divorce when it ended.  

 
Now it's time to move on to someone new. Imagine how much better your next arrangement might be...  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

I find that whenever I yield the position of being the one who can readily walk away almost any relationship changes significantly. I’m not talking emotionally abusive here. Just willing to look at a relationship coolly and let it go when it is going downhill.  

 
Never wait for it to actually be an overall negative. That tends to be the same as burning a bridge. Almost impossible to come back from that.

 
This is especially true, in my experience, with sexual relationships. Women want men with confidence. Men who almost instinctively understand power and exercise it well.  

 
In my experience, a man almost always gets the best out of a relationship with a woman if he knows how, and is willing and readily able, to let her go before things go too far south.

I think unless the girl sees a future together, this sort of behavior is inevitable.  The initial excitement, if any, is long gone.  Now it is the same thing.  Contrary to popular belief, chicks dig novelty.  That's why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.  They are bored of their husbands.  Now imagine the rate of boredom for someone who probably wasn't that interested in the first place.

Procrastination (such as being late) and other examples of lack of consideration are telltales signs she'd rather be doing something else, or with someone else.

Best advice, find 'em, feel 'em, forget 'em.

I would simply propose that it works far better for the SD to say something like:

 
“I like you a lot and enjoy the time we spend together. I would very much like to continue seeing you.”

 
“I have to admit, though, that I’m getting the sense that this isn’t working very well for you right now. And, because of all of the schedule uncertainty, it’s not working all that well for me, either. I’d like to take a break and let you decide whether you want to continue this arrangement with me or not.”

 
“Please don’t reply right now. I’ll wait to hear from you after you’ve had some time to think it over.”

 
Then you smile, wish them all the very best and tell them that you hope to see them again if they decide that is what they want. And then walk away with no hard feelings and the expectation that you’ll never see them again.  

 
Or some version of the above.

 
In my experience, if the woman wants out she’ll take this opportunity and run. But many times, this doesn’t just leave the door open for her return. It tends to make her want to return. In some cases, it can make her want to jump your bones right there. That can be just a great goodbye. Or it can be something else. You never know. And that is part of the fun, I think.

Nearly two years, but not feeling it.  Don’t get me wrong, there is a reason she was #1.  But, too many POTs right now, and while I may feel something, fairly sure it is just a paycheck for her…note to everyone… it is always a paycheck to her (no I am not fugly, but I am old).

Oh well.  I will stop messaging, and see who messages first.  I am certain it will be one or 8 new POTs.  It already is.