Thanks for the feedback Metrik. I think most of us here can relate and say "been there, done that".  I have posted on the subject of getting too emotionally involved only to have my tiny heart broken when she ghosted and moved on.  I REALLY try not to do that anymore, (with limited success!)

I agree wholeheartedly with your conclusion to never send money or gifts in advance, ever.  Even if you can afford it, sending them $ in advance simply muddies the already turbulent waters for those who come after you.  The girls who ask for $ in advance keep working the scam as long as it pays off.  If every single guy on SA simply quit falling for those requests, I think the number of requests would decrease.  Don't feed the trolls!

Finally, I want to comment on the PPM vs Allowance issue.  Any girl who says "I'm not that kind of girl" is really exposing her misogynistic disdain for other women of the professional sex workers ilk.  OK I guess I get it.  But the problem with allowance is that it ALWAYS leads to feelings of frustration and entitlement on the SD's part, as you so eloquently described.  And it also leads to feelings of obligation on the SB's part.  Major buzz kills.  But with a simple PPM system, you both know that every time you get together you both actually want to be there!  Much nicer vibe.

Oh and one last thing:  language matters.  All of us here use the Pay Per Meet phrase and we know what it means.  But I NEVER use it with SBs, even if, no, especially if, they used it first. I say Gift Per Visit.  I want it to be clearly understood that I am not paying them for anything, and they are not getting paid for anything.  Instead, we are consenting adults who enjoy an affectionate, clearly defined relationship.  And it's my pleasure and privilege to give her gifts, gifts which are not payments for anything.  If a SB cannot get behind this way of looking at it, I'm out.

Thanks for your post. How much damage was this 8/10 girl? How old is she? If she is married, she must be older. I would cut off SB at the age of 22 LOL over 22 is too old. on SA, there are 60 yo SBs! Come on, Man! It's kind of kind PhD doing postdocs well into their 40s. There are countries, in certain organizations (France for example), that tell you no postdocs over 35.

My current rotation is all in the 25 to 29 yo range, so, pretty typical I guess.  But I've had some wonderful, long lasting, reliable arrangements with girls in the 18-24 range as well!  In fact, my longest arrangement was with a SB who was just 19 when I met her, and 3 years later at 22 she joined the military. I've dated a few as young as 18 who were surprisingly non-flaky, and some over 30 who were flaky AF.  So I don't think there's necessarily a direct correlation between flakiness and youth.  I remain cautious, but very willing to give the younger SBs a try if one catches my eye.

All except one of my SB's are in their late 20s or early- to mid-30s. The only exception is my first regular SB who was 18 when we met in 2015. She is now 25 and a highly-rated provider. She only charges 400 an hour which is a bargain these days.

The younger age range is going to include those who are still maturing and acting on impulse.
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That settles down in the higher age ranges, but also the population dwindles down to include more seriously screwed up people.   Also as chicks age they get more demanding.

That amounted to 5k per month for the 8/10 SB. I doubt you saw her even on a weekly basis for the amount you paid her. So that's what you are pissed. I found even women to be flaky even into her 30s. In general, yes, younger girls tend to be flakier but I prefer younger girls (generally lower mileage and more innocent). There is always a tradeoff.

Glad you were able to find a better replacement.

Forgive my ignorance, but why does an SB demand more sugar when you're ending the arrangement?  You wrote that you did gave in to the SB's demands.  Severance?

Interesting comments on SB age ranges. I have been in the sugar world for about 10 years and will say that I have found SBs who are say under 25 to be less exciting BCD. I've chatted with them about this and others in that age range who are not SBs and they say 1) that boys their age are horrid in bed and so they haven't had good learning experiences and 2) they are still self conscious about showing passion and having an orgasm. One girl told me that they do a starfish as soon as they get in the bed because they are so used to guys their age just jumping on them, humping, cumming and then that's it. No consideration for the girl. It happened to me with a couple of girls and wow were they surprised when I didn't do what they expected. Consequently I am now happy with the over 40s (and maybe 35+ depending) age range. More mature, way better in bed, certainly more inventive. Some can get needy but that is minor compared to the disappointment with the young'uns. And I agree with Sweetman. No correlation between flakiness and age.

Greetings all,

I didn’t know this part of TER existed until today.  

We have all had good experiences and bad dealing with SB. I’ve had a few first dates and two SB relationships.  

I don’t “pay” for first dates as no expectations exist. A few first dates turned into hotel stays. I’m no movie star with a perfect body.  

My two relationships lasted for a few years. My first one ended when we were traveling for an anniversary and she suddenly demanded that I get divorced, marry her and have babies.  The second ended when we were returning from a cruise. She told me upfront that she was married but her husband knew we were dating. I sent her flowers at her home and bought birthday and Christmas for her kids. As we were walking through the airport, her husband walked up. She quickly told me that he doesn’t know about me. Apparently he did (he hacked her phone account) and had every text we ever sent. He had no problem with me, just her.

TBH, even some older women, into mid-to-late 30s can still act immature. Some young girls can act mature beyond their age.