So I reached out a 23-year old Latina from El Salvador who moved to LA with a college degree form back home. She's looking to get more school here and start a career in international finance. She's never had a Daddy, never used SA or any other site before. I don't even know if she's had a BF or even had sex before. We chatted by text and clicked well. I set up a M&G, offered to pay her Uber fee and the morning before our afternoon meet, she asked to reschedule as she had to work night shift.  I was gracious and we set up a new day/time later in the week.  The day of that date, she texted me that she had decided not to go the sugar route, she wanted to accomplish her goals on her own and wasn't going to ask a man to help her. Again, I was gracious told her I admired her honesty and conviction, and thanked her for letting me know.  Her profile disappeared from SA - confirmed with my alt account.  
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Three days later, I texted her a "how are you doing" message.  She replied and we chatted a bit. I wished her luck and reminded her I'd be happy as a friend to help mentor her with school and job ops since my background aligned with her career and life goals.  
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She thanked me for the offer.  
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Twenty minutes later she sent this: "want to meet today?"  
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I rescheduled my KGirl session and we met for lunch.  Nice chat, nice girl, very astute, world travel experience and a well-defined work ethic and good financial discipline (saves 40% of every paycheck). We talked for 2 hours.  I gave her a ride to her nearest cross street - she's not ready to tell me where she lives and also gave her $30 in a gift card in an envelope to cover her Uber as promised.  
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And hour after I got home I texted her again and suggested we hang out again. Since we are still mostly under lockdown, I mentioned coming to my place or looking for an open food place. She's coming to see me at home on Thursday evening.  
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Not expecting BCD yet, or maybe ever. I think she will need time to develop trust, then affection, then desire for me and my gifts. We'll see how it goes.  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

A true lesson learned like every great college coach...Always mind your ABC’s
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Great story and reminder for us all. congrats!!!

Herb, as you know very well, sometimes the slow starters turn out to be the best long term arrangements.  Sounds like she admires you for not being pushy, enjoys your company, and is obviously aware there could be $ome $ugar in it for her if she chooses to go that route.  Keep us posted on your adventures!

Thanks, Sweetman.
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Worst case, I get an attractive female friend who likes to go wine tasting with me - she expressed an interest in learning more about wine, especially wine paring with vegetarian food.  My current #1 SB does not drink. So could be a win-win-win.  
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Life is good.  
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The Cat

And  since you are already getting a lot of pussy, you won't ever have to be "that guy" who pressures her for sex, it's amazing what happens sometimes when you let things come to you rather than "always be closing"

 
I have had a few SB's with whom I never went BCD with. I know some guys would consider them a waste of time, but I enjoyed their company, and that's why I kept seeing them, and apparently they liked mine because I never give sugar until after BCD. I get plenty of sex, as do most of us who know how to properly play this game, an occasional date without sex is hardly going to kill me, and I know you feel the exact same way.

Sugar dating is DATING. At least for me.  And going out on a date doesn't have to include sex, especially if you just pounded the pussy of another 21-ish spinner 4 hours before the date.  
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I think I will enjoy spending time with her, and for minimal cash.  If things lead to amour, then sugar will be provided.  if not, then I'll just have a nice time with a 23-yr old sexy Latina hanging on my arm.  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

We are getting together tomorrow evening after she leaves work.  I was going to take her to a restaurant for dinner, but the Gov of Cali has closed down businesses again due to COVID spikes.  So she agreed to hang at my place - and this is the rather interesting part - she wants to try some of my wines. Her suggestion, not mine.  (I have a 400+ bottle collection in a customer made wine cooler, and I showed her pics of it when we first met.).  
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I'll see how it goes....  
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What's that, my Dear? You want to try that one? Oh sure, that's a Merlot from Napa, I think you will like it even more than that Syrah from Australia we just drank.  And then I have some amazing Port to go with "dessert." [Evil Grin]  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

There are a lot of very "mature" 23 year old Latinas from other countries, I really can't see doing a lot more than fucking the typical 23 year old American girl (Not that there is anything wrong with that), but a 23 year old from Latin America can most definitely be "dating material" and not just a nice firm body.

 
Back to vino, I can't remember ever having a "bad date" that included multiple bottles of wine. Of course there are a few dates that consisted of 6 bottles of wine or more that quite frankly I don't remember at all. lol   But all joking aside, some of my very best dates have involved multiple bottles of wine, just don't insist that she keep up with you if you have anywhere near the tolerance that I have. lol I remember a date with a Thai girl (a hooker that I started dating) who didn't drink, we went for Korean BBQ and I convinced her to try a raspberry Sake. (my bad. lol) It was so sweet and "yummy" we ended up drinking at least six jars of the stuff and she spent the rest of the night after I dropped her off puking it all back up, fortunately we fucked BEFORE dinner, so it doesn't qualify as a "bad date" from my perspective at least.  

 
Have fun tonight, and you might drop that otherwise feckless governor of yours a thank you card for "making" you have your date at home. lol

Picked her up as agreed, she was on time and looked smoking hot. She didn't dress slutty or provocatively, I don't think that's her style. But her natural beauty, slim body and well-portioned curves under as simple black blouse and slacks  we on point for anyone who likes demure babes.  
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Off to my place as planned since all inside dining is currently closed (Thank you, Gov. N!) and we chat for a bit on the sofa before I order Italian food from an upscale place through a delivery app. She sat next to me as I checked out so I know she could see the total was around $75. My guess is that based on her modest earnings, and her living status, she probably spends less than $15 on a meal.  
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As we wait 35-45 mins for the food, I pop open the 1st wine, a French rose for her first tasting lesson.  She's a good study and seems to have a good, though still young, palette.  As we nurse the rose, the discussion turns to the site, and what she was hoping to accomplish there, before she decided to lave that path. I mention that I have deactivated my profile for now (actually I just hid it from the dashboard/search) and I'm not pursuing any new arrangements for the time being... this leads to some discussion of our new friendship and her deepening interest in learning about wine, plus her desire for career mentoring. I casually say the arrangement path is still available if she is interested, and BINGO! she says she may be.  (Note: At this point, word choice in these conversations is critical - I deliberately use "arrangement" rather than "sugar," and I stay away from transactional modes as well.)  
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We talk about the difference between a casual friendship and a sugar relationship (i.e.: add sex + financial help) and then talk about possible schedules, sexual preferences, testing, building trust as a critical foundation, and privacy & discretion needs. She mentions she broke up with her BF three months ago - 25 yrs old and "successful" - but in a mistaken attempt at mentoring he was pushing her hard to go to nursing school due to the high pay. She has zero interest in that and was annoyed he did not "get it." Also, in the context of this part of our convo she says she's been tested since they broke up, but not active.  
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Aside: So she's horny, hungry to learn, doesn't tolerate rudeness, appreciates and values mutual respect and she likes nice things. As long as I'm not a total dick, I'm hopeful she will eventually talk herself into a commitment.  
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We move on to related areas, she is on birth control with an IUD but laments that without health care coverage, she is reliant on Planed Parenthood for birth control service and they cannot provide IUD support. I bring up ACA plans for California, and take that opportunity to suggest that I would be happy to help her select a plan and could, as an example of support, pay the monthly fees and co-payments when needed. She seems to like this idea... but she's not committed yet. She has yet to ask about, nor have I offered, any specific allowance amounts.  If I can set up a $150-$300 a month auto-pay for her insurance plan and she's happy with that along with the wine and mentoring, I'll score a major jackpot.  
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If!
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The food arrives. I open the next bottle, a Cline Cellars Sonoma Zin, and we tuck into our Caesar salad and pasta. She loves the zin, and I ask her to take the rest of the bottle home if she likes. She likes.  
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After dinner, she says she's tired after a long day of work and I offer to drive her home. Off we go. She gets the bottle from my trunk and we exchange a hug and kiss on the cheek.  
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Today she texted me with a cheese and wine pairing question. And she closed with "see you soon!".  
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Life is good
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The Cat

She just dumped me. By text. She actually apologized.  
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Upward an onward!  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

That was a great effort and the ROI could have been tremendous.  Well played!  And you point about never burning bridges is spot on. Over the years, I've had 2 SB's who rejected my initial arrangement offer, come back because I came off as gentleman and treated them with respect.  It works!

My cellar is predominantly cab and syrah based from California, Washington and France.  SB's who like reds are blown away when I bring 10-15 year old bottles to share.  Nothing like day drinking big boy cabs, listening to music and getting ravished by my impressed, appreciative, intoxicated SB!

You know they would be just as impressed if you slapped a fake label onto a bottle of MD 20/20.  

With the younger SB have noticed that many do not appreciate you being a gentleman and treating them with respect
They are to young and ignorant to appreciate being treated well, unfortunately

Thanks for kind words.   Who knows how she will feel later down the road, especially if her situation changes.  
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I may not have guaranteed a win, but I have avoided guaranteeing a loss.  
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In the spirit of paying it forward, here's my actual investment summary:  
Time:  5 hours over lunch and then dinner
Money: $100 in shared food, $75 in shared wine.
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If that investment pays off over the next 12-24 months, it will be worth many times that amount.  If it doesn't, it's a rounding error on my monthly budget.  
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Life is good.
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The Cat

If she has an ounce of sense she'll be back.  I am currently seeing a fabulous 22yo, model thin, sexy as hell girl who took an entire year after our first coffee date to say she wanted to see me again.  I asked her about it last week, after a memorable romp in bed with her.  She said all the other guys were jerks and she remembered how kind and sweet I was.  Can't go wrong being nice to them, even if they are too young and inexperienced to know what a gem you are.  In time, the creepy assholes out there will do your job for you and she may well come back!  This has happened for me several times.

My last text conversation with her was 5 1/2 weeks ago when she told me she can't see me anymore. I was pretty sure she'd decided that sugaring just wasn't for her.  

 
Imagine my complete surprise when she texted me this evening to "catch up" on her attempts to enroll in the local community college. We exchanged a few messages - I was careful NOT to mention or bring up anything about the site or my dating activity - and after a few minutes she asked "How is the dating thing?"  

 
I told her I haven't met anyone new since we last spoke. Which is true - no one new. I don't like to lie to SB's. Of course I did not mention the the date I had on Monday with my #1 who decided to wear a school girl outfit and beg me to let her deep throat me until CIM. Or my upcoming date on Friday with my Latina spinner (who I met the same week I met this SB) who loves to be spanked and choked.  Then I made some vague reference to "too many looking for cash with no meetups," which is also true. Then I said it takes patience to find "someone who is really wonderful."  

 
And then it happened: "Maybe we can give it a try!"   Well, yes, my dear, maybe we can.  

 
I deliberately did not press for anything quickly. She still strikes me as a young "deer in the woods," ready to dash off the instant she gets spooked.  I suggested we meet for dinner and explore a new wine when she has time, so we can talk about her goals and needs.  No pressure or expectations of anything intimate until she is ready...  

 
She agreed and will get back to me with some days/times she can meet...  

 
So the Nice Guy story moves on to it's next chapter... because...

 
Life is Good

 
The Cat

Yeah, pretty much if a chick contacts you out of the blue, she wants the dick (or money.)  

Very well played Master Cat.  You have patience and class and of course are very capable of landing the deal.

Being a nice guy and not burning bridges does actually work. But the impression I get from you is that your eally enjoy this aspect of the sugar experience.  I do too.  It's just so much fun fishing this way, enjoyable in and of itself.  And obviously you don't land a keeper every time.  But when you do, it's so sweet!
Happy Hunting!