I am very new at this hobby, and recently had a lady remark that "You are smokin'hot", "Why are you not in the business?"  Now I do a lot of running, and cycling and weight train a lot. But is this all part of the service, just making us feel good about ourselves?  It works, bye the way.  To add, I am 46, she 33, and she did make a big deal out of the "hot" and dont look my age thing, but I have to wonder why she said that.  Just curious if that type of thing is common.  I really dont think that I appear to feel self consciuos or afraid to reveal my body, quite the contrary, I feel pretty happy with my physical fitness, also a possible play on that too, I guess.
Thank You for being there Love Goddess!

Dear deman11,

Yes of course "these things are common.." if you really are HOT! And it seems you are, so... is it part of the service? No more or less than it's part of life. Some people we meet feel so insincere to us that it's seeping out of their pores. They will compliment anyone or anything and you can just smell the phoniness a mile away. Then there are others who appear truly genuine to us, and we feel that too. Humans in normal situations seem to have great b.s. detectors. But then comes a paid situation and all of a sudden, buyers begin to doubt themselves.

As to the part about providers making their clients feel good about themselves, sure...why not? Isn't that part of the deal? But there are zillions of ways to do that. I would bet you that if you weren't so hot looking, she wouldn't have said so. She may have remarked on positive aspects of your personality instead, or how your aftershave turns her on, etc. But in this case, she spontaneously responded to your good looks. Heck, that's great! After all, you seem to live happily for physical fitness [says this couch potato with some envy, LOL].

So yes, you probably ARE hot. Good for you! And just to see you're not alone in your thoughts, here's an oldie but goodie thread for ya!

Sizzzzzle,
the Love Goddess

You are a virtual fountain of wonderful knowledge.

I also thank you for the link to the other post, it was a very interesting read.

I did feel she was sincere, and I usually can read most of that sort of thing.

Thanks again!

the average hobbyist looks like, you'll understand why she said that.  Let's be honest, GENERALLY speaking, at least in my experience of the hundred or so guys I have met at parties, we aren't the greatest looking bunch.  Good thing most providers look beyond the physical and enjoy the mental aspect many guys can offer.  Along with the envelope and it's contents. LOL.