Lady contacted me. Said we should meet. Eventually we switch to text and she said she'd like to meet for lunch or dinner first AND she wants $300 to do that.  WTF. She wants me to pay her so I can buy her food and drinks, watch her stuff her piehole and listen to words of wisdom? GPS strikes again.

Unfortunately this absurd expectation has become rampant over the past couple of years.  Lots of false information about sugar dating is spreading like a virus among susceptible young women on platforms like tik tok.  They actually think a guy is going to pay them to eat lunch.  And some guys are so desperate for female companionship they may actually comply, which further distorts the reality of sugar dating.  I've run into this nonsensical expectation many times.  In addition to the women with unrealistic expectations there are lots who are simply scammers.  they get you to agree to send them $,  in advance of course, with zero intention of ever actually showing up.   Never,never send $ in advance, or pay someone to meet you for lunch!!  

This nonsense is so prevalent that it's making life more difficult for the honest, genuine SBs.  As an example of one who is very genuine and quite savvy about this, here's a recent quote from the profile of a SB I knew well some years ago who has now returned to the site. "I’m an experienced SB and I don’t treat this site as if it’s an outlet for me to scam men into sending me money prior to meeting you. I’ve heard a lot of stories from past arrangements on how some women can be on here."  My point is that there are def many legit wonderful honest women on SA.  You just have to seek a bit harder to find them.

I had a lady try to add babysitting and gas fee at the last moment. I told her I never send money to strangers. Within 1 hour I had a message from SA banning me forever for discussions about PPM.  Pretty sure that lady reported me.  So  i ended up on the sister site. SEEKING BENEFITS.  You have buy credits to message and see pucs. Gets pricey fast.  Im about to give up. Met some nice ladies but its not worth the money imo.

Don't buy Secret Benefits pics.  They are just more of the same.  Nudity is not allowed.

I am assuming from your post (and your long-time experience) that you did not include any P4P language on the site message system.  

 
If that is correct, she must have forwarded screen shots of your texts - which is troubling.  SA has no way to authenticate that a screen shot is real. Yet they appear to have accepted it without question anyway.  

 
I wonder if mixed in with all the user reports they bother to track SB's who report multiple SD's over a short or long time. And I wonder for those SB's who do report often if SA bothers to compare the current report to past reports.  

 
Finally, I wonder if my "rarely contact 1st" practice has saved me from bullshit reports by ROB's, as the SB's who contact me with a substantial message (i.e.: not just "hey") tend to be seriously looking for an arrangement.  Even when I am texting, I try to avoid any P4P language - at least until after she uses it.  

 
Perhaps we should all use video chats as a preferred communications channel for allowance discussions, if we can't do so face to face?  I presume most SB's (legit and scammers) are not skilled at capturing live video chats. While screen shots of a phone are simple.  

 
And I agree, Seeking Benefits, Sugar Daddy for Me, and others are, IMHO, total waste of money and time.  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

She brought up PPM. I stupidly responded. I was in a serious IDGAF mood. Lol. Im pretty sure the lady was fishing for fools to send her money.

There may have been some discussions here on rejoining SA with a new profile. I'm not an expert but it would seem you'd need to use a different device/network, different email and new pictures (obv new name). I think there are diverging reports about whether you can use a prepaid card. Let us know if you do that.

I agree. This just smacks of GPS.

 
No judgment, but I have never paid, not even once, for m&g, even in the face of last-minute requests for sitter or gas money. I'm fully aware that this may have cost me some great opportunities but here's why I never do it.

 
I travel heavily. Roughly, I travel every week and 2/3 of my trips are to three cities and the rest are to one-off cities. I see SBs in multiple cities and only repeat with a few. I don't sugar at home. I'm usually in their city for 2-4 days at a time, so I typically have only a short time to close the deal with someone new. I'm simply unwilling to waste one of my time slots "getting to know" unless I know that time slot has a strong likelihood of me ending up balls deep in some PYT. If some chick says "no sex on the first date" and I think she means it, I'm out.

 
Therefore I need to make sure the first date is one where I can score. I gain that certainty by taking a pretty direct approach. Via text (not on the site), I say something like "My ideal first date is [blah blah] and, if we're both enthusiastic after [blah blah], we head back to [my upscale hotel] for adult fun and allowance."

 
This is where they have the chance to tell me that I've misjudged them. It almost never happens.  They almost always roll right along into a discussion of allowance, what they like, what I like, etc. I'm also up front that I'm traveling and not local.

 
If a chick asks me anything about ppm on the site, I ask to kindly switch to text to discuss details. I've broken that rule a handful of times, thinking with the small head, but it hasn't gotten me scolded or banned. If she won't move to text when I ask, I drop her.

 
Presently I have five who I see with regularity. I doubt I can maintain it, since two are making noises about wanting more frequency (and total allowance). So I'll soon be having more "first dates" than I like, but I know I'll always be able to learn how to adapt to that from the gentlemen here.

 
Bottom line: My allowance with a new chick goes for pussy on the first date, period.

 
Rockfordfile

Move on.