Hi LG,

I love to daty and have been told that I'm actually pretty good and maybe a natural at it.  I initially let my tongue do all the work when I first began doing it.  After some time, I began working my fingers into the mix.  But recently I've begun taking it back to a tongue-only affair and I've been getting pretty good responses.  My question, do ladies enjoy daty more with or without finger stimulation or is this one of those things that simply varies among all women?  

Maybe a dumb question, I don't know.  But wanted to ask.  Thanks for you help

I like the sensation of just tongue or just fingers- when someone is daty and using fingers AND tongue, the sensation can be actually less pleasurable. I enjoy the sensations more thoroughly and sensitively when just the tongue moves from place to place and with different strokes. I do like to be fingered, but I guess I would have to say that DURING daty I enjoy fully experiencing the tongue. More/harder stimulation is not always better and can be too overwhelming to be pleasurable. Just my personal .02!!

XoXo,
Marea

this is yet another thing that will vary from woman to woman. some women prefer tongue-only, some want mostly fingering, some want a good mix of both, and some, like me, don't care for daty AT ALL. there's no formula or secret trick for us all.

Luckily, myreality,

I am not able to answer that question 100%...because there is no correct answer! Every woman and situation is different. In a two-person successful encounter, each individual acts in concert with his/her partner in the moment.

My advice on this one: rather than engaging in some sure-fire technique, experiment, have fun, and above all, be sensitive and alert to the subtle cues your partner may exhibit during the lovemaking. Nothing pleases a woman more than a man who is able to respond in a smooth and fluid fashion - with fingers, tongue and whatever other body parts may be involved!

Keep up the good work,
the Love Goddess

and they'd rather just have the tongue. That's fine with me, cause I'm not into multi-tasking anyway. But God, I love to daty. It is probably the most erotic thing a man can do to a woman.

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I use fingers only if they ask for it and none in my experience asked for it during DATY.

The vast majority of the woman I have been with enjoy both the tongue and finger (singular).  The technique is as follows: Spend 10-15 caressing, kissing and nibbling her upper body.  Then the inner thigh,tease her around the target with your tongue then begin gently and softly.  After, a few minutes of "ice cream ticking" tongue insert your middle finger face up and begin to massage the G-spot and A-spot.  Google will show you where it is or simply curl your finger onto the back of her cervix and never break contact with her clit. Many women have enjoyed the sensation of that same finger slipping into their butt as they orgasm. Blissfully!  Some women don't want any part of DATY-I never see them again.  Far more women feel DATY is critical prior to intercourse.  And most men don't get it because of their own aganda.

Ask them what they would like.  Or if they would like to try it.  I ask women all of the time what they would like--harder?, softer? here? there?, flat tongue? tongue tip? Finger? Butt?
 They know what feels good for them.  However, they will not offer direstions because many are finely tuned to the male ego and try to keep it intact.  You want to be a hero?  Ask for directions.  She'll love all the more and often tell her friends how good you are _BINGO!

I feel pretty much same as marere with the fingers . The fingers can get too busy and multi tasking tongue/fingers can be frustrating . I have found that a great deal of gents get too excited about DATY and do not take their time therefore not as much joy for the lady . I know we are here to make you feel good but I do know the majority of gents love to know they are exciting the lady etc.. IMHO  i prefer to enjoy slow sensual licks and that builds up to more of an arousal than just hard licks .
Heck its hard to tell someone how to DATY but i can sure nuff show you
my .02   PS : If you know your ABC's then do try writing them out real slowly with your tongue and see what happens ..
-Layla

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Some don't like fingers in the vagina at all. Some like licking, some like sucking and nibbling. I had a favorite lady last year who loved it when I slid a finger in her ass while nibbling on her clitoris...it's all good as long as you are both enjoying it. One thing to keep in mind is that the area can get VERY sensitive right after orgasm. Don't take it personally if the lady pushes you away or asks for a breather before continuing on with other activity...it usually means you've done things right!