Dear FineOne,

There are several modalities for this issue; however, they are best done together with a partner. Masters and Johnson, James Seamans and others have basically elaborated on the stop-start and squeeze technique.

The problem is that when you go to see an escort, chances are that she will not be so cooperative in terms of wanting you to last longer, unless you specifically inform her of this problem. The treatment protocol for PE (premature ejaculation) involves a "training program" which lasts up to 14 days. It involves a partner who is patient and who wants to help.

I would say, buy yourself a copy of Bernie Zilbergeld's book "The New Male Sexuality," and follow his exercises. They are based on the researchers' protocol as mentioned above, and they work...if you have a willing partner.

In the absence of such a woman, I'd say go visit with a tantra practitioner. I am not saying that you should avoid escorts or FBSM ladies, I am merely proposing that tantra practitioners make it their work to help someone last longer. Or, you could meet with a very MATURE and sophisticated escort who understands the issue, has experience with the problem [difficult to verify, though] and who truly wants to help.

In terms of doing it yourself, it involves masturbation, starting, stopping, etc. But like I said, without a partner, it's difficult to correct the problem.

It can be "cured,"
the Love Goddess

Hello Fineone,

For a quick fix, try polyeurothane condoms.  They just a little thicker than latex condoms.  I tried them because my parterner was allergic to laytex.  She could not use laytex condoms or toys.  Trojans version is the Torjan Supra.  I found out that I was lasting longer using them, almost to the point that it was taking too long.  Give them a try.