Re: Need a little guidance for new found hobbyist.

Dear wat_it_IS,

Aah, the newness and freshness of it all..makes you feel like a kid in a candy store..or should I say, a teenager with the biggest rocket in your pocket, ready to go off at the touch of a button-fly?

Yes, the reason why you can pound away with your girlfriend is called "habituation." It's the brain being used to all the visual cues, your girlfriend's body, her odor, the scenery, everything. Whereas in contrast, a new person revs up all those brain chemicals like a Ferrari gone crazy!

So delay then. Delay, delay, delay. There are various ways of doing so. Focusing on the provider, making her lay back, give her some oral or digi-sex [if you're so inclined] Starting and stopping almost immediately after intromission is another one. Tried and true, not clever or inventive, but dammit, it seems to work for many.

Masturbating before having an encounter works for some. Visiting with tantric providers skilled in delaying orgasm is a solution for others.

I'm sure many hobbyists will come to your aid, both on this board and perhaps on the Newbie board as well. Btw, you should visit all the boards on our wonderful site, there will be hobbyists aplenty who will share their tips and tricks [yuk, yuk,] with you absolutely gratis.

In the meantime, have a look at this thread. It's a good one.

Ok Boys, we can count on your help here,
the Love Goddess

I had the same problem for years, but decided to tackle it after reading about some self-help practices on various tantra boards.

Here's what I did (and still do):

Masturbate; slowly and deliberately.  Stop when you feel yourself approaching the point of no return until you are relaxed and start to lose your erection a bit.  Then start up slowly again.  Notice the feelings inside your body and take note because during the real thing, you need to identify these feelings in order to take control.

Pracitcing a few times a week for about an hour a session (You may only be able to hold out for fifteen minutes when you first start.) Will improve your ability to maintain erection with a provider and allow you the freedom to come when you decide to.  You may also be able to experience full body orgasms and orgasms without ejalculation, but that is graduate level stuff.

See a good tantric provider to pursue those goals.

You should see results after a few months.

As a result of this, I enjoy sex far more now than when I was a youngster.