Sometimes a P4P relationship turns sour, and a guy just has to Take the Loss & learn from it.  We all  "Take the L"  sometimes.  My former SB is a stunning bi-racial girl.  In the antebellum South, she would've been referred to as a 'quadroon' (3/4 white, 1/4 black).  Back then, they used to have 'Quadroon Balls' for wealthy white men,  who'd take young quadroons as mistresses.  

  I see her profile on my sugar site & assume she can't possibly look as hot as her pix.   We meet for dinner & she knocks my head off--she's the girl in the photos. She's 21 and breathtakingly beautiful--she's from a poor family and was raised in a rural backwater.  I make my standard arrangement pitch, $400 a week, once a week.   A few days later, I gasp when my text-tone goes off & it's her.  

SB:  I think I'll take you up on your offer.  

 We go BCD & she's fantastic in every way--a girl so beautiful that it seems unreal.  She eventually invites me to her apt for hookups, which saves me the cost of the hotel.  A perfect situation.  And perfect situations usually don't last too long.   After a few months of bliss, the karma wheel turns.  The sex is still smoking hot.  But after fucking, she's cool & distant.    My guess is she's picked up a BF or another SD.   I soon get tired of her post-sex cold shoulder.  I stop texting her & wait for her to contact me for hookups.  She still hits me up every week, sample text below:

SB:  hey are you coming over tomorrow

Z:  Babe, I know you need the 400. But wouldn't you rather do this with someone you enjoy spending time with.  

SB:   I like spending time with you.  

 In fairness to her, the sex is still terrific.  Yet her post-sex cold shoulder continues.  I ruthlessly break off the arrangement right before Christmas.  I'm tired of it.  Merry Christmas & goodbye.   I stay off the sugar site for a while.  It's a nice sanity check, getting away from P4P during the holidays, spending time with family & friends.    

She texts me in early Feb & wants to get back together.   I hit her Facebook page--she's picked up a BF her own age.   That explains a lot.  Text exchange below:  

SB:  You should come over & see my new apt.  

Z:  If  you're living with your bf, then we can't meet there.  I don't want to get shot.  

SB:  I don't have a bf.  

Z:  He's on your Facebook page.  

SB:  WOW that's creepy.  I'm sure seeking arrangements wouldn't approve of spying on a girl's Facebook page.

Z:  You contacted me.  What's creepy is not being honest.  I told you I was married on Date #1.  

SB:  I know…i just don't like talking about my personal life.  

 Two days later, she texts me again.  

SB:  Hey z, how are you.  

Z:   I'm ok.  Babe, just tell me that you have a BF & you still want to see me.  

SB:  I have a BF and I still want to see you.  

 Note: I'm not into power games, but there's something compelling & erotic in her last text.  She finally admits that she has a BF while spreading her legs for me.  But as you'll see, things haven't changed at all.  We hookup in my hotel room.  Hot, hot makeup sex.  But after sex, I stroke her hair & she pulls away.  

SB:  We can meet for sex, but that's it. You know why.  

 My blood runs cold. She's an amazing actress, better than any hooker I've met.  I get out of bed immediately.   I can't get dressed fast enough--I don't want to be naked in front of this vampire.  She's still in bed, watching me.  

SB: You don't have to get mad about it.  

 I don't say anything.  I put her allowance on the dresser.  I then sit on the edge of the bed and look in the other direction while she gets dressed.

SB: I wish you'd say something.  

I'm not saying anything.  I won't give her the satisfaction of an angry remark.  I won't even look at her.   Time slows to a crawl.  I finally hear her leave (thank god).   I wait ten minutes, then clear out.  A week later, she texts me.  

SB:  hey.  

I ignore her text.   A few days later, she texts again.  A sharp exchange below, where everything is laid bare.  

SB:  Why don't you want to see me anymore?  

Z:  I'm tired of your cold shoulder, just so you can play 'faithful girlfriend'.  It's ridiculous. Text me when you're tired of him.  

SB:  Don't you want to hookup & have some fun?

Z:  It's not fun anymore.  Someone else can have your cold shoulder.  I don't need it.  

SB:  This is about sex.  

Z:  Sounds like you & bf need more cuddle time.  You can do sex + cold shoulder with someone else now.  

SB: lmao, bye.

Note here: she goes into full call girl mode with her comment "This is about sex".   She could make a fortune on P411--she wouldn't have to cold text me or anyone else.  I honestly don't know why she bothered chasing me down after Christmas.  She could get that money from almost anyone on my sugar site.   In P4P, everyone get embarrassed & rejected at some point.  I can't compete with her 20 something BF.  So I 'Take the L' & drop her.  That's the only play here, dudes. That's a lot better than playing Doormat/ATM.   --