I still remember a time in the past where I went on a binge and messaged about a hundred. At one time or another, I was texting I think a dozen. Had to use a spreadsheet to keep track of them LOL Only one came through and it was exhausting.
Been getting a much better response rate - i've added a profile pic and worked on my profile. But I'm still working out how to respond when they inevitably ask "what are you looking for?" or some variation. I think we both know what I'm looking for but I'm not sure how direct to be or how to dance around it. I've been saying something like "I'm looking for something casual - meeting every couple of weeks or so for good conversation, laughs and some more intimate pursuits if we get along. " Is there a better way to address it?
I may have mentioned this before: my most successful approach is to show the future babe you are: honest, genuine and reliable. Yes fun, but demonstrating you are for sure going to pay for it!
I've long sense gave up on fun and intimacy being my main themes, but it definitely works if you are younger, which I am not.
And as you know women - they are not into the sexual part as we are, and honestly my best approach is to hold off on that portion until the 5- 6th text and then I drive home the point!
Before you paste in the "casual and fun" boilerplate text (we all have that blurb saved in a text file on our devices - ready to edit), take another look at her profile: text, pics, stats and headline.
Your reply will land even more on point if you can mirror some of the things in her profile that interest her. If she says she's into art, mention museums. If she says she appreciates a man who can plan, mention something about your planning skills. If she says she likes to cook, mention you know of some great cooking classes.
The key is to anchor your reply on "what you are looking for" to some of the same things she is looking for. Don't overdo it, though. Mix it up with things she may have yet to experience.
For me, I won't mention anything about being "intimate" directly. I may say something about intimae dinners at out of the way restaurants. But that is a different context for intimacy. I typically save the intimate chat for texting or the M&G if we move quickly.
Finally, it's ok to show a little personality here. Be a real person, with interesting ideas and interesting experiences.
So, professor Herb really is the go to source for this stuff. But can I tell you about how I'm going to go against my advice? For whatever crazy reason...and I mentioned on another thread: "the tide is coming in" But none of us knows why the SA scene changes as it does! So anyway, the past couple of days I've contacted maybe 20 girls. I received back 10 replies, of which 9 seem very interested! Moved them over to text after flirting a bit on SA. I decided to be a bit devious and brought up sex immediately. I mean in a gentle sort of way...LOL...so far 4 of them already beat me to it and are simply talking ppm There's no way I'm going to be able to handle sex sessions with this many, so I guess I just have to pick the most promising. Never had this situation before...hope I survive!!
That's a very good reply rate, Euro-Guy, but you are still not there yet... this is where it really gets frustrating. Out of all those interested POTS, how it usually pans out for me is all 4 will likely bail or ghost at some point in the setting up to meet process. It's the mirage effect ... it appears to be in the bag but it isn't... until it actually is! Which is not to say you won't get lucky but I've learned not to count on it till it's in the bag!
I still remember a time in the past where I went on a binge and messaged about a hundred. At one time or another, I was texting I think a dozen. Had to use a spreadsheet to keep track of them LOL Only one came through and it was exhausting.
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