What is the fascination for men regarding woman who are exhibitionists?

Hmmm, cwhitelace,

I'm not so sure that men are so unequivocally fascinated with women who are exhibitionists. Depending on the male, he can also experience embarrassment, shame and a fair amount of jealousy in the face of a female exhibitionist.

Of course, if the man is not connected with her personally, then he may get turned on. It's sort of the same logic that operates when a man sees a woman who has exaggerated female features that signal fertility: swollen, puffy lips, very large breasts, a butt that sticks out, etc. Of course most heterosexual guys will look at such a woman, but will they marry her or bring her home to mama? Not usually - and the research bears this out. It's the same kind of thing when men choose a provider: one who looks hot in bed for an hour of rough-and-tumble may not necessarily be who he wants to be seen with at an elegant function. I guess that's why we have "the porn-star look" and the "elegant courtesan look. There's one type of woman for every occasion and every mood, I suppose.

So with exhibitionistic women who try to attract attention, yes, they will get it from men - but will they get "respect?" Granted, this may seem a little retrograde in terms of reasoning, but ask around and you shall find. A man may find fascination in an exhibitionist because any woman who puts herself "on display" signals "sexual availability." Take a walk down Bourbon Street in New Orleans and you'll see it in action, with all the tit flashing and sticking out of the tongues. But there certainly is a time and place for everything and guys are not so dense that they don't get that point.  

Girls gone wild?
the Love Goddess

I am seeing a provider who I have become quite friendly with. All dates are for pay but the evening usually involves a variety of activities beyond the amazing sex. One of the things we have talked about, at her suggestion, is her being naked or nearly naked in my vehicle as we drive around. She wants me to "protect" her(her word) from being found out but at the same time wants the thrill of being naked in semi public for me. Of course, I'm not gonna argue with her but what fascinates me is not only her desire to do this but my sudden desire to WANT her to do it! I really never even thought about the idea until she brought it up...now, I can't wait for the warm weather!

Note, I'm all for simple P4P boinking but one of the reasons that the sex is so amazing with this lady is because of the way her mind works...You just don't get this level of excitement with a wham-bam-thank-you ma'am experience...

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Another version of this "exhibitionistic' behavior can be found in Woody Allen's film "Everything you always wanted to know about Sex." In one segment, played by Woody and his co-actress entirely in Italian, to simulate an "artsy, European" piece, Woody [Fabrizio, hilarious] finds out that his wife is completely dead sexually in intimate situations, and can only "do it" in public and if there is risk involved. This results in hysterically funny bits where the two are banging each other in a furniture store, at a party and finally at a restaurant under the table of some OTHER patrons! The wife gets so excited that she bites the leg of the unwitting lady sitting down to her meal; the lady screams bloody murder and Woody and his wife crawl out from under in much haste. The end scene has the wife serenely explaining to Woody that as long as they always 'do it in public' there will be no problems with her sex drive.

Part of women's exhibitionistic behavior involves the thrill of doing something out of the ordinary, but also due to the fact that women's bodies are objectified - here I don't mean it in a sociopolitical sense, but purely from a sociobiological standpoint. The male does "objectify" the female in the sense that he is stimulated sexually by focusing on her breasts, hips, waist, pubic area, etc. This behavior has evolved over thousands of years and it is what it is - a behavior which should not necessarily be judged as something "antifeminist" or the like. And so, for millennia, women have also evolved in the process, in the sense that they are used to, and ENJOY being looked at, unless they've been robbed of their self-esteem by comparing themselves endlessly to idealized images of airbrushed fashion models.

"Being looked at" is one of the few sexual processes that have become incorporated into female sexuality, and it's one of the few aspects of sex that women have been able to truly fetishize. Hence, the enjoyment of "being looked at" can reach almost compulsive proportions. And men, who are no strangers to this behavior, will be fascinated and truly enjoy it in return! N.b. that this type of "exhibitory behavior" takes a different form in men, some of who like to exhibit their genitals in the form of flashing. This is not at all what women do - there is very little or NO focus on genitals, at least not in public. Instead, it's the alluring image, the sexual availability and the promise of copulation that some women enjoy 'advertising.' And men, who have evolved into happy takers if offered, are both excited and fascinated by this behavior. After all, men are not 'objectified' in the same manner and it would look ludicrous for a male to 'prance' or exhibit himself in ways similar to women. Hence, a lot of men view this female-type behavior with fascination - they like it, but they also can't completely understand it.

So you go ahead and have some fun, Bostonguy57. I'm sure you'll have lots of action and happy memories from it!

I'm sitting naked as a write this, , , ,
the Love Goddess

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And I'm loving it!

Seriously, you have hit the nail right on the head. For discretionary reasons there are a few details I can't post here about the gal in question and the various venues in which we enjoying each other's company but you have totally captured the essence of what makes her tick and why it works for both of us.

I couldn't agree with you more. To understand and enjoy this phenomenon both parties have to put aside the feminist doctrine of the last few decades and understand and accept human nature as it has existed for thousands of years.
Wow, you're good...

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Kauii called the Princeville Resort.

The rooms overlook the Napali Coast, one of the most beautiful sights in the world as a lush green mountain decends down to an azure ocean.

The windows in the rooms have one way glass and they overlook the crowded beach.

Do you catch my drift?

I'm planning a little road trip with my closet exhibitionist in the near future...this may have to go into the suggestion box!

Is it a thrill to imagine others can see you but they really can't??

I can vouch for the beauty of that resort.  I had dinner there with W and kids on our trip to Kauai once.  I've been to several resorts in the islands on Kauai, Maui, Oahu and the Big Island.  Princeville was the most beautiful.  

However, for general purpose resorting do your research.  I didn't get down to the beach but this may be a big surf beach rather than a calm, snorkel kind of beach. Also, as I recall the place is a bit out of the way.

Oh wow!  As a closet exhibitionist......(only because of a lack of opportunity)... I love this idea.  That dream vacation is looking more and more exotic.  Thanks for the info!

it's only an hour from the airport. also, the beach, while not the snorkeling kind can be utilized. best for snorkeling can be found nearby. they also have a pool that is oceanside and (seemingly) attached.

many yrs ago...I had a bf who loved to "do it" (using that term cuz we were young) in public. It turned him on so much and I was into it as well. The crazier the better. It felt sneaky and wild.  We were like rabbits every chance we could.
Now several yrs later with my ex and I,(different guy) we spent hrs on the beach, very secluded though public, going at it once again like rabbits. So maybe its me. Not surprized and still liking it by the way!!
We are a bit better about hiding it but none the less it is a public beach and it is daylight.

I wanna go there too!!!