It’s amazing how the bowl can flow from dry to overflow. Beginning of the month I had minimal SBs. Just a few that 2 are hard to get to.
Now I still have those but added a freaking hot little spinner who loves eating my spunk, another spinner that was the most vocal I’ve had in years. Now I’m out of town and I have a third that wants to get together. Just started talking with a forth back in my town so we can see where that goes. (After some FB stalking, the forth knows the spunk eater). But the girl last night, she made me feel like a porn star she had sooo many O’s and was loud. Glad she’s a sophomore 😉. I might need to get a larger bowl to handle the overflow.Cuz it dries up just as quickly.
I’m not complaining because I have a nice rotation, but it’s amazing how many pot SBs contact me when I’m out of town. It seems like they instinctively know this and I’m sure I lost a few because of it.
seems to be the name of the Sugar Dating game. Which is why you need to keep developing new leads whenever you can. I've been happily dating 6 most of last summer and fall. One has recently "fallen in love" and is currently no longer Sugar Dating. Another is overwhelmed by school and life and just can't date right now. Etc, etc. So I'm meeting a new one for coffee tomorrow and have quite a few promising potentials I'm corresponding with. Worst case scenario: they all say yes and want my attention. Not a bad problem to have.
I`ve been a first time Premium SA member for a month now and my membership has just expired. No, I won`t renew as its not worth the $90 fee per month for me anyway. I never connected with any girls that I wanted. I got tons and tons of hits, messages and Favorited me. Mostly from fugly bimbos from everywhere, locally and all across the US and some from as far away as Russia too. I responded to maybe 12 attractive girls from within a commutable distance and in my responses I was very respectful, funny and classy. In my messages I included my first name, cell #, email and assured them I was single, owned my own biz and had no issues or baggage all which is true. A few of them answered back. I returned their texts stating that I would be fine to M&G near to them and see if we had chemistry and proceed from there. Never heard back from them. Hmm, go figure?
I`m wondering if I did anything wrong or are they all flakes. Most of them were very similar to the old BP types prior to BP being censored. You know, the "Hey lets be naughty, call me now, available anytime" types. I`m thinking are they pros using a new venue? Idk, doesn`t seem worth the $90 per month for these kinds of head games. I just don`t get it. I have ample play money, I`m a GQ dressed silver fox, funny, smart and educated (Sorry for my ego but its true)
so WTF is wrong here, is it them, me, both? who needs this shit?
Ive got several 8/9 ATF Provider girls that I see regularly that give me rock star love so that`s where I think I`ll stay.
Just my .02 Any feedback here?
Don’t get too discouraged. I started much the same way. Took a couple of months to get my sugar legs. NIm not on GaGa’s, Herbcat, or sweetmans Level but I have had great experiences. When things get slow, I’ll see a couple of providers I know.
I’ve had dry months too. The odd thing is when I started I was being favorited by girls in Russia, Taiwan, the Philippines etc, I found that to be a pain in the ass. I hooked up with s great little very submissive AA girl at the beginning and that started my journey. Be patient spend the 90 and see what comes to you
I found the first months in the bowl SO frustrating. I was spoiled by several local gorgeous escorts, who are hot, reliable, stunning, and...expensive. I love those pros, but in my local market, the list was short, and, for long dates, very expensive.
The bowl is totally different, and if you don't change your expectations and approach, you'll never like it. Pros are, well, professional! SBs are not, totally NOT. If you don't, to some extent, love the thrill of the hunt, this is probably not for you. The pain of flakiness and wasted time is occasionally offset by the joy of an unexpectedly wonderful SB. And the good ones are pretty great.
SA is just WAY more time intensive than TER and other referral sites for pros. When all the costs are added in (dinners, allowance, hotel rooms, gifts, etc) I don't think SA is much cheaper than escorts, BUT, the talent pool is enormous, the variety is amazing, and the "reality TV" aspect of being with new SB is totally different than the fantasy world of escorts. Neither one is intrinsically better; they are just very different experiences.
So, SA may or may not be for you, but you haven't put in nearly enough time or effort to decide yet, unless the "time" is already too frustrating, and then you have your answer.
Agree with the others who say don't write it off completely yet. I also wouldn't ditch the providers, but like a lot of us once you experience a little success the SB side of the game can be pretty addictive. Although at the end of the day the overall experience end-to-end is about the same, I've got to say there was a huge rush from the experience of having coffee with a 'regular' girl one day and the next day watching her strip her clothes off in a hotel room. It made the whole answer-an ad->go-to-incall->finish-and-leave routine feel very stale and flat. But yeah, clearing the hurdles to get there can be annoying.
I would:
- Make it an active, not passive process. Most of the unsolicited things in your Inbox will be foreign, scammers, or time-wasters. Maybe there'll be a worthwhile semi-pro in that pool, but unlikely. Pull together your own list of favorites and make sure you're sorting to see if they were active recently. No point in targeting SBs who aren't checking into the site to even get your messages.
- Shorten up your opening message and take out the personal details. Most of the 'good' SBs want this to feel like a dating site, so all of the up front detail and contact info may be weirding some of them out. Shoot for a friendly exchange of a half-dozen or so light messages before suggesting taking contact off the site.
- Have a plan ready to set up the M&G and potential BCD time if you get one ready to meet. They almost all want the men to take full control of that, so don't be fumbling at the last minute to find a hotel and also don't arrange in a way that you'll lose money if they don't show.
I'm thinking the arrival of spring should bring some adventerous new talent out of the woodwork and re-energize the sugar world a little - its been a slow few months after an amazing summer and fall for me too.
A couple suggestions, if l may:
a) If you don't want fuglies from far away, filter them out!
-Location: 25 or 50 miles max
-Body type: Slim/athletic/average/curvy ONLY
Sounds like too much info (=desparate) in your first message; Keep it light and simple
The person reading your message has just scanned a hundred others, what makes you interesting, different, and fun?
l do about 4-8 back and forth messages before offering my email or phone number.
The first line of your message is visible without her clicking on it: Make it count.
We care about their issues, baggage, mental health etc. They don't care about ours.
Allusions to the health and openness of your wallet are helpful.
It’s amazing how the bowl can flow from dry to overflow. Beginning of the month I had minimal SBs. Just a few that 2 are hard to get to.
Now I still have those but added a freaking hot little spinner who loves eating my spunk, another spinner that was the most vocal I’ve had in years. Now I’m out of town and I have a third that wants to get together. Just started talking with a forth back in my town so we can see where that goes. (After some FB stalking, the forth knows the spunk eater).
But the girl last night, she made me feel like a porn star she had sooo many O’s and was loud. Glad she’s a sophomore 😉.
I might need to get a larger bowl to handle the overflow.
Just my preference but I really don't recommend SD's who are local to each other "share" names and details of their SB rotations.
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It won't end well.
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I have previously posted about when that happened to me with a co-worker I actually introduced to SA. Once we found out we were tapping the same SB, we both ended up dumping her. Long story... but you can look it up yourself.
Ive shared SB with others. I can think of 3 where we both dud the same girl. No issues.
Thanks for your input HC. The difference is I don’t know goose. I know I’ve got my little rotation plus I’d like to know if he’s doing the ones I’m not.