After a couple of years in the sugar bowl.Would like some feedback on my opinions..
Man is this a lot of work.But once you find someone compatible it is amazing
The second you become aggressive and forget to be gentlemanly,they ghost
Am I the only one completely turned off by bad spelling and grammar?
How many times can you get banned before never being allowed back?
No .I dont send money before meeting
No .I dont want to pay for any photos

I like to be dominant (role play) and therefore aggressive, but I always discuss that ahead of time to be sure they are okay with it.  I never spring it on them.  I've had chicks ask me to choke them.  I would never do that unless I already knew they were okay with it -- and actually haven't imitated requesting to choke them.  The ones that want it let you know. I'm happy to oblige.

I don't think be aggressive or not makes them ghost.  It might make more of them ghost, but I've had plenty just ghost out of the blue and I am a very easy going guy.  Maybe I should be more aggressive. lol.

Bad spelling and grammar. Meh, it can be an issue if they are "axing you a question" but I have enough fat finger type-os and autocorrect issues that I try not to cast too many dispersions on their spelling or grammar.  So it has to be pretty agregious for me to be really annoyed.

Banning? I have no clue.  I got banned on a secondary account.  So I avoid using that device to access SA as they apparently track ips.  Matter of fact, I think my VPN may have been what got banned as another site ourhome2.net out of the blue banned my access.  When I questioned them, they said it was my VPN.  That someone using the same ip via the vpn was a bad actor that they were not trying to ban me. go figure.  Made me wonder if that is what got me banned on that account.

Agree on the last 2 items.

Ive been told many times I'm a real gentleman, so I just come across that way to the SBs which is great.  I certainly don't feel like I have to try to be a gentleman.  But I do have to try being aggressive cuz it's not in my nature.  I have one stunning SB right now who likes having her hair pulled and being slapped on the butt.  But I mean like hard!  No really, even harder than that!  I have never slapped anyone or pulled hair that hard with anyone in my life, and it doesn't do anything for me actually.  But she loves it, so I do it.

As for sugar dating being a lot of work, yeah I guess so.  But damn it's sop much fun!  I mean, the daily browsing and favoriting and messaging and reading profiles and exploring new possibilities is a major entertainment for me.  So I guess I don't think it's work at all.

it does become addicting! When my account is active (taking time off right now to sample some of the providers in the area), I have to manage my time on the site so I don't feel like a total lech. lol

I was trying to arrange some pre-christmas action and started working some previously visited SBs. One by one there was schedule conflicts but promises to work something out "next week".  I never did arrange a pre-christmas meet, and now I've sort of promised seven different chicks we would arrange something next week.  Oops. I know some here claim to do two or three per day. But for me seven chicks is two months worth easily.

Yeah I've been in that uncomfortable situation.  I mean, overbooked is a better problem to have than underbooked, but still I hate to have to cancel or back out and appear flaky.  So If I'm chatting up several for the same time period I always say I'd love to see you next week, but I'm not sure I'll have time due to (insert any plausible excuse here such as work schedule, vehicle repairs,etc).  That way if 7 SBs say sure thing, lets get together, you can confirm dates with the ones you favor and tell the others you won't in fact have time due to those prior commitments.

Once upon a time my solution for overbooking was to simply move the times around and "see them all" lol Unfortunately, I no longer am capable, or at least I don't have the desire to see more than two girls in a single day, and even that is a rarity at my "advanced age" lol

 
So yes, I tend to do the same as you, and I leave myself some wiggle room in case all of my unconfirmed dates decide to show up and I need to bail on one or two of them, but I don't tell any of them outright no, "just in case" Too much pussy is MUCH better than "no pussy"