There's been some recent comments on this subject which I thought deserved a new thread. The accepted wisdom on this board seems to be that it's not a good idea to talk to your SBs about other SBs you are currently dating. And even if you're talking about past experiences, it's a topic to be approached cautiosly if at all, lest your current SB stops feeling like you value her and starts thinking she is  just another ho you're banging.

I'd like to offer an alternative opinion. With due respect to the esteemed wisdom here, I think it's wonderful to talk openly with your current SB about other sugar activities that are ongoing concurrently.  I've done this many times and it's always led to a very special and deepened relationship with my SB. I usually start, early in the arrangement, letting them know that I am not seeking nor offering anything exclusive. There are others in my life, just as I expect there may be others in hers.  This sets the stage for future conversations.  When we talk about our sugar experiences it feels natural to bring up others we have dated and others we are currently dating. And if we really get to letting our defenses down in this kind of conversation, we can have so much fun describing strange and wonderful and weird sugaring experiences.  It makes the bond between us that much stronger. We both know we are both independent agents, bound together by our real affection and admiration for each other.  In other words she knows I'm the one and possibly only SD secure enough that she can talk to me about these things, and I know the same about her.

I'm not going to say this works with every arrangement I've ever had.  But when it does, it's quite amazing, fun, and wonderful.  Most of the women I've sugar dated are not stupid. On the contrary, they are savvy enough to know I'm probably banging other girls, since they are usually banging other dudes. Why not talk about it and laugh about it?

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Of course no single piece of advice is going to cover all cases.  I think some SB's would be relieved that they are just service providers and don't have to worry about some guy they really aren't that attracted to getting attached to them, etc.
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But on the other hand there are plenty that don't want to face the idea that they are essentially prostitutes.  So the whole relationship façade needs to be maintained for their own psychological well being.  Tread carefully.

Agree with Les on this one. There is certainly not a one size fits all to this world. I don’t generally talk to my SB’s about any other ones. I do however have two in my rotation that are very open and know they aren’t exclusive. They both know that I have others and I can be completely open with them. The one has even floated the idea of meeting the other. This is more the exception then the rule though. They know that you are most likely seeing other people but would rather not know this or have it dropped in their face. My rule has always been to not discuss any of my other arrangements but if they ask me, I will tell them I have others.