Re: On Coming Back

Thank you for your vote of confidence, noodletank,

But with the risk of disappointing you, I must say that anyone delivering a foolproof answer to the question "Will she ever get her sex drive back after being in these relationships" is guessing, pure and simple.

The answer, rhetorically, is WHO KNOWS? We would need to hear FROM HER what these relationships meant to her and how she feels about them. And who knows what she's up to off the clock? Unless she is with you in a non-professional relationship where the intimacy level is such that you discuss your feelings without ANY pretense whatsoever and she's bare-bones honest with you, we don't know what she's up to at all.

One thing I can tell you with certainty is that there isn't a single thing you can tell her or even do that will change her mind because she's hearing it from you. If she's fed up with providing, then that's it. On the other hand, she may be screwing her brains out with someone else of whose existence you may have no idea...or, she may have sworn off sex with anyone and everyone. But no amount of cajoling or complimenting will change a woman's mind in this regard. Au contraire, she may just back off further. As for giving her compliments telling her that she's sexy...hmmm...maybe she wants to hear that she's smart and capable instead? Who knows, maybe that'll get her going...some women like to be appreciated for their brains too, you know, even if they're very sexy...particularly if their job has been all about sex and maybe not so much intellect.

After all, what's she done with that million that you spent on her? Just asking...
the Love Goddess

Honestly I don't see how you could know what sort of condition her real-world self-esteem is in. You are a play for pay date. To an extent, she is treating you the way you want to be treated in order to keep you as a customer.

Most providers do not want to be "worshiped and adored". What they want is to be treated with respect and paid well. Getting too heavy handed will generally scare a lady away.

I see a couple of very low volume ladies who are basically retired also.  The time we spend together is wonderful but I know relatively little about what their lives are like outside of the two or three hour visits we share every few weeks.  The LAST thing most of these women will talk about with their clients is their real-world love life.

Keep in mind that low volume and UTR ladies have different priorities than girls who work all the time. The money is important to her but she is content with a certain level of income AND with a certain type of client. You are still on her list because she sees you as generous and low-drama.
The best way to keep her in your bed AND keep her trust is not to try and pry into parts of her life that she wants to keep private. Be there for her if and when she wants to talk but try not to get deeper into her head than she wants you to be.

Good luck.